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post #21 of 602
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People with organized ANYTHING irritate me.

That sounds like a good system, Heidi. I'm of the "manic cleaning episode" system.
post #22 of 602
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Originally Posted by journeymom View Post
Heidirk, I do that, too, when I'm not in the pits. It really helps.

Spaghetti was on special today, so I bought three boxes. Went to put them in the cupboard and discovered four more boxes, that I'd forgotten about entirely.



Dh pointed out that I'm actually tired of spaghetti, so why do I keep buying it??

My organized girlfriend has a permanent grocery list. This never happens to her.
Hmmm, that happens to me a lot, but with butter. They keep having buy 1lb get one free. . . : How does she have a PERMANENT grocery list????? Oh, wait, she probably has a meal plan for each week too, right?

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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
People with organized ANYTHING irritate me.

That sounds like a good system, Heidi. I'm of the "manic cleaning episode" system.
Well, I'm usually the 'manic episode system' too, but for some reason it's not working right now. . . my get up and go got up and left. That, and DH complains about those episodes because they usually involve him helping, it drives him crazy.


Hahaha!!!! I got my Kitchen floor cleaned today, Friday, I got my pantry organized, and some big items taken down to the basement, abd some other items put into the car for DH to drop off at goodwill. And, drumroll please. . . . I got ahead of the laundry!!!!!! Now I just need to keep ahead of it!

So very soon, here is what my week will look like;

Sunday- Church, teach Sunday school, feild questions from my (equally scatterbrained) mentor, remember 50 things comeing up that people tell me in passing but refuse to write down or email me.

Monday- Home day, no Elijah, so, clean, play with boys, classwork/computer time, make dinner.

Tuesday- care for Eli, keep after laundry, clean up after boys, make dinner. Study

Wednesday-care for Eli, clean up after boys, prepare food and an update for church supper/bible study, come home and do classwork

Thursday- care for Eli, keep after house, study/computer work, make dinner.

Friday- Home dAy, no Eli, major tidy, catch up on classwork, nap, make dinner.

Saturday- Clean, laundry, grocery shop, prepare for Sunday, complete classwork.

So My mother's helper will be comeing Mon, Tues, Thurs, from 3:30 to 5:15 or so. The only reason I got so much done Friday and Mondya is because she was here. Henry is alraedy in love with her, becaus she'll sit and watch him play trains, thwereby keeping him away from the baby, and out of my hair!

I hope I can make this fly. Of course, the house will be the first thing to suffer if it doesn't.
post #23 of 602
Oooh, I like your day by day list. I should plan like that so I'm not so overwhelmed.

I've been reading Let Go of Clutter. I was wishing I was home soI could do stuff. So I made a list by room of jobs to do. I need to type it up and figure what I need to do first.
post #24 of 602
I did get a bunch of little sewing projects done at MIL's this weekend.

Converted 6 onesies to cute shirts with ruffly edges (If you have stretchy material, you just stretch it out and sew with a zig-zag stitch and it makes a lettuce leaf ruffle)
Put elastic in my long underwear (so I have a pair that isn't too tight on my preggo tummy)
Sewed a hole in a wornout sheet for the bed that I can pitch when we have the baby (doing the double set of sheets and the shower curtain thing)
Sewed dress for Elisabeth, on of those things where it's all gathered at the top, hemmed it and put straps on, it will fit for 3 summers, I think. I'm waiting to see if I need to take it later this spring.

That's all. I wanted to hem my sari, but got tired and new it would be hard, slippery fabric.
post #25 of 602
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Mag, you're making me wish I'd had a girl. I've become obsessed with Zutano clothes. So cute, but so expensive. :

Heidi, I love weekly plans. Here's mine, FYI.

Sunday - teach, lunch out with Zeyde, Purimspiel rehearsal, choir rehearsal, movie night (DH cooks)

Monday - plan for the week, teach, dinner out

Tuesday - straighten up the house, clean out fridge, meal plan, groceries, errands, committee meetings/work catch up, make dinner, study Hebrew

Wednesday - (my weekend) home projects, movie day with Adam, make dough and store, make dinner, finish cleaning projects that didn't get done Tuesday

Thursday - at home work, study Hebrew, plan for the weekend, Dungeons & Dragons with the guys (DH cooks)

Friday - market day, finish cooking and cleaning before Shabbos, make challah, services, midnight diner run

Shabbos - NOTHING! Probably reading, napping, or chilling with the family, havdalah, make sure that everything's ready for class Sunday morning, (DH cooks)

I love my week and how it's structured. I love having one weekend day off, and one weekday off.
post #26 of 602
anyone heard of vyvanse? I got a prescription for it and supposedly its safe for bf'ing. anyone have any experience with it? it's supposed to be very new.
post #27 of 602
I can't do weekly plans...they last me about a day before something happens to mess it up and then i can't get back on track. i do plan my menu each week...cuz if i didn't we'd eat fast food every day, lol.

We've bought a house. Our close date will be march 20th. I work SO much better with deadlines! I've got a moving date and a baby coming in July - lots of good deadlines, lol. So I've been packing and decluttering and sorting and planning. It's all so exciting! And the packing and decluttering makes more room for cleaning!

I started reading You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid Or Crazy?! Sunday. I'm already loving it. Seems like every sentence I read is like looking in a mirror. It's so cool!

Has anyone here every had an ADD/life coach? I really feel like i need someone to help me learn how to organize and just make it through life.

Oh, baby girl names anyone? So far we have Charlotte, Fiona or Aria. Our last name is pronounced "bowl," so keep that in mind.
post #28 of 602
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I LOVE Fiona and Aria. But then, I'm an opera geek, so .

I want to read that book, too. I have an outstanding debt at the library, though, so I can't go back and check out books until I pay it. :
post #29 of 602
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Originally Posted by heidirk View Post
Hmmm, that happens to me a lot, but with butter. They keep having buy 1lb get one free. . . : How does she have a PERMANENT grocery list????? Oh, wait, she probably has a meal plan for each week too, right?
LOL

I am really into couponing right now (part of the hyperfocusing I do on things I find interesting ATM ) and when I find a good sale matched with a good coupon I stock up....

Then I make a meal plan for the week based on what is on sale, what I have in the stock pile, what is coming in my produce co-op, and what I have pre-cooked in the freezer....

I don't have a permanant grocery list though.

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I can't do weekly plans...they last me about a day before something happens to mess it up and then i can't get back on track.
same here...

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i do plan my menu each week...cuz if i didn't we'd eat fast food every day, lol.
LOL

we'd eat cereal every night if I didn't have my whole system.



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Oh, baby girl names anyone? So far we have Charlotte, Fiona or Aria. Our last name is pronounced "bowl," so keep that in mind.
i like charlotte best with your last name... though if you'd use "charlie" as a nickname not sure if that sounds good with it...??
post #30 of 602
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Ani'smommy-Attentive issues or innattentive, we have problems maintaining attention, staying on task, or sometimes just plain checking in! They keep changing the labels, but it's split pretty well between your main problem being inattention, and your main problem being hyperactivity (mania, really). Both types are usually highly intelligent, emotionally sensitive, prone to anxiety and have impulse control issues- like, 'Oops, was thinking that but didn't meant to say it.'
Hello, ladies! I'm subbing to this thread because I'm positive that hubby has ADD. The post above makes me even more certain he can identify with your group!

He hasn't ever had a diagnosis, but he self-medicates with caffiene to keep him focused. He'd love some ideas on homeopathic management, as coffee and the like is no good for his GERD. Anyone with any information or anecdotes on supplementing to help?

HIs temper has been so out of control for the past week or so!
post #31 of 602
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I love the name Teffer! How cool!

Um........ maybe find a not-so-harsh caffeine? Tea? Though I know from experience, tea just doesn't do when coffee is needed.

I'll think on it. Meditation seems to be working for me, surprisingly.
post #32 of 602
cold brewing is supposed to help with the indegestion. you can do a search in the food forum here or just online. But it's basically brewing that takes over night or 24 hours or something...the grounds are left in water for a long time and then filtered out. It produces VERY concentrated coffee that you then add boiling water to when you want a cup.

My husband also has GERD and i have been giving him probiotics and digestive enzymes. It seems like the enzymes are helping with indegestion.

I have been feeling LOTS better since I started taking a good multi vitamin and DHA.
post #33 of 602
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have impulse control issues- like, 'Oops, was thinking that but didn't meant to say it.'

I did this at work yesterday
post #34 of 602
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I did this at work yesterday
Yup, me too. Or I say something totally innocent and then realize people can't help but misinterpret what I said. Like, I told our rabbi that his wife was great in bed - what I meant was that we had a BED conference, and she gave an awesome lecture. Ooops. :
post #35 of 602
Lol!!
post #36 of 602
For the GERD and indigestion, I've been taking papaya enzymes for pregnancy heartburn, and they work sooooo much better than Tums, and no aluminum.

Back later.
post #37 of 602
subbing...

I'm so glad I found this thread. I have undiagnosed ADD but I'm going to the doctor on Thursday. I've known for a very long time and wish I had of set up this appointment years ago. I just never got around to it.

So... I'm pretty typical ADD, very forgetful, always late, procrastinate, can't cook, or clean unless I get hyperfocused (which is only every couple of months ).

I get laughed at by my family (my Mom and husband mostly) every time I share something that I want to do that's important to me. They all know that I'll never accomplish it and they don't understand anything about ADD so to them I'm just a weirdo and a hypocrite. I say I want to live one way, and then I fail miserably. My husband doesn't understand either and he always jokes that he's going to right a book/comedy about me. To an outsider it looks like I halfas- everything and I'm lazy. Seriously, I don't want to be this person anymore. I feel like there's a completely different person inside of me trying to get out.

As another pp mentioned I love that my ADD makes me think outside the box, but I hate that I think of all of these great things and nothing EVER gets accopmlished.
Question: Does medication change your veiws on things? Does it make you stop thinking outside the box? That's one thing I worry about by getting diagnosed and getting on meds.
post #38 of 602
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
Yup, me too. Or I say something totally innocent and then realize people can't help but misinterpret what I said. Like, I told our rabbi that his wife was great in bed - what I meant was that we had a BED conference, and she gave an awesome lecture. Ooops. :

Oh, no you didn't!!


See, My problem with my lifestyle is that even my day of rest is a work day! : But, un til we have a car and I can do the groceries on a weekday instead of Saturday, I don't see how to fix that!


on the topic of indigestion, I started eating yogurt with live cultures a few years ago, and now I only have problems when I am extremely stressed(like right now).

IME tho' tea gives me worse acid stomach than coffee does, and I agree with smee about it lacking something for self med purposes.


Here's the best part, until I logged on today, I had totally forgotten I'd planned out my week! :
post #39 of 602
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subbing...

I'm so glad I found this thread. I have undiagnosed ADD but I'm going to the doctor on Thursday. I've known for a very long time and wish I had of set up this appointment years ago. I just never got around to it.

So... I'm pretty typical ADD, very forgetful, always late, procrastinate, can't cook, or clean unless I get hyperfocused (which is only every couple of months ).

I get laughed at by my family (my Mom and husband mostly) every time I share something that I want to do that's important to me. They all know that I'll never accomplish it and they don't understand anything about ADD so to them I'm just a weirdo and a hypocrite. I say I want to live one way, and then I fail miserably. My husband doesn't understand either and he always jokes that he's going to right a book/comedy about me. To an outsider it looks like I halfas- everything and I'm lazy. Seriously, I don't want to be this person anymore. I feel like there's a completely different person inside of me trying to get out.

As another pp mentioned I love that my ADD makes me think outside the box, but I hate that I think of all of these great things and nothing EVER gets accopmlished.
Question: Does medication change your veiws on things? Does it make you stop thinking outside the box? That's one thing I worry about by getting diagnosed and getting on meds.
Amy, I'm sorry, that sounds so painful. The two people who should be supporting you most shouldn't be laughing at you. It sounds like your self-esteem has taken a beating.
  • Try not to beat yourself up, either. I think women with adhd can be own their toughest, most unforgiving critics. We tend to minimize what we have accomplished, telling ourselves that whatever it is must not have been that significant, or it wasn't just right, it wasn't good enough.
  • Take some time to yourself to quietly reflect and find those things that you have accomplished, no matter how small. If you have a habit of minimizing everything, be mindful of that. Catch it and argue back! Challenge your assumptions about yourself.

Sometimes I get fed up, angry and depressed because it seems like my mind is sabotaging me. My mind is a traitor!

Many, many hugs to you. :
post #40 of 602
man, I'm reading these posts and I fit right in. I have a problem where I have something great to say, a new idea or a suggestion or whatever, and it comes out so jumbled that people just kind of look at me and don't respond. I feel so dumb.....

I have a meeting with prospective clients on Friday (I'm going to be watching kids in my house) and I'm so nervous about, I'm afraid that I'll just rattle off at the mouth. i have to make a concsious effort to enunciate every word and really THINK about what I'm saying. it is mentally exhausting. And it is getting worse, not better. Wonder why that is?

On the bright side, my hyperfocusing helped me get through a bunch of speed shopping today for supplies for the daycare. I spent $80 : but I got just about everything I need to get set up for Friday. Now I just hope I can stick with this until friday. It would be totally like me to start moving things out of the daycare area into the basement, notice some dirt down in the basement, and ge totally immersed in cleaning that and forget all about the daycare stuff. And then when I do remember, I'm so exhausted from cleaning the basement that I can't do what I was supposed to be doing.
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