This is a picture i found on Google, it looks very similiar to my son's penis also: http://www.steadyhealth.com/articles...e/phimosis.jpg
Refer your Dr. to studies done by Oester (or Oster) & Kayaba
re: mean age for full retraction = 10.4 years old (after following hundreds, if
not thousands of intact boys)...
the strange looking membrane that you're referring to is just as a previous post said, very similar to the membrane that connects your nail to your finger.
It is the balano-preputial lamina... tell your doctor to do some continuing education regarding that membrane and the true time table that it normally takes to break down. It is ABSURD to expect that by 2 yrs old, all intact males should be fully reatractible, but that is a myth that continues through the American medical profession and one that ignorant Dr.'s use as a scare tactic to convince otherwise apprehensive parents to be agreeable with a circumcision. Completely unneccessary. I don't even believe that a true diagnosis of phimosis can be accurately given in someone who hasn't already gone through puberty!
Just remember, this membrane is a protective measure that the body has created to PREVENT problems from occuring. Don't mess with it and certainly DO NOT let any medical staff or day care providers mess with it!
That might be exactly the cause of the original problem to begin with!
Physiologically, the foreskin is fused to the glans penis and should remain that way until it naturally seperates on its own, in its own time.
Good luck and keep us updated! Good for you for coming here, following your intuition and preventing any furthur damage from possibly happening to your son!
p.s. - As your son's foreskin starts separating from the glans, you may see pools of smegma underneath the foreskin. DON'T try to manipulate them out from under the skin...they will work their way out in their own time...and with that be VERY leery of any Dr. that might suggest that those smegma pearls are infectious bacteria!! They aren't!