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[Super Glue Mommy]

We circumcised both our boys. my first, because I thought that's just what you did. my second because I didnt want to but DH did and we were in the middle of debating other parenting issues at the time and this was on the back burner and we just ended up doing it...

For the sake of lurkers thinking about this decision - nothing terrible happened. my kids didn't SEEM effected by it, but that doesn't mean they weren't. but, in all honestly, I think it looked better before the "operation", and knowing what I know now I wish I hadn't done it in retrospect.

OF course now if I have another boy one day I may have to explain these differences, but if you are on the fence about this, just remember if your son REALLY wants it done he can get it done when he is older. They really do look better before hand...

[belchers1]

Great post. It's nice to hear others' stories. We too circumcised our boy. Looking back, it's one of the STUPIDEST parenting mistakes we've ever made! Not that there are excuses for what was done, but I was very naive at the time. I always did what I was "told" was right by the "professionals". STUPID!

I now (thankfully!) realize that:

1. God created man's penis a certain way for a reason, and God makes NO mistakes!!

2. There is no reason to put an innocent little boy through that type of trauma/abuse for no reason (literally NO REASON!)

3. Why pay someone $500 or more to hurt your son?

4. An uncircumcised man will have more enjoyable intimacy.

Really though, there is simply NO reason to do it!

Although some of us (Including the OP. Should be everyone who had their son circumcised!) regret our son's circumcision, I hope that if we share our stories with those who are considering this violent act, we can prevent another boy from being cut!

[Super Glue Mommy]

thats why I am sharing my experience. Some people think some people who circ are against it now because something bad happened. well (besides the obvious!) no, thats not why. I just looked into it more after the fact (i need to stop doing that!) and realized I mutilated their penis for no reason. not only are there no health benefits - but it doesn't look any better either! in fact, it looks worse.

[LavenderMae]

Thank you both for being so open and having the courage to seek the truth after the fact. And I hope parents on the fence will take what you wrote here to heart and spare their sons.

[robertandenith]

wow

I really appreciate the courage to come here and share your stories and even more, to help others to make educated decisions.

[Super Glue Mommy]

It's tough now just about every time I change a diaper I think how much better it looked before and I did all that for nothing. I pretty much make all the parenting decisions and I let DH make this one because I hadn't done much research on it at that point (as I said consumed with other things at the time) and IDK I just wish I could go back in time or undo it somehow

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by belchers1

Although some of us (Including the OP. Should be everyone who had their son circumcised!) regret our son's circumcision, I hope that if we share our stories with those who are considering this violent act, we can prevent another boy from being cut!

Originally Posted by Super Glue Mommy

It's tough now just about every time I change a diaper I think how much better it looked before and I did all that for nothing. I pretty much make all the parenting decisions and I let DH make this one because I hadn't done much research on it at that point (as I said consumed with other things at the time) and IDK I just wish I could go back in time or undo it somehow

I agree it's best to take that regret and do something positive with it. As you say, talk about your experience with others and hopefully they'll be able to use your experience and regret to make a better decision. You should also be sure to discuss it with your son, not in a way to make him feel bad about it but so that if and when the time comes that he is faced with that decision that it ends with him. Hopefully, by that time there will be no problem. Depending on where you live, you could also help with the Medicaid Project and write the state asking them to stop funding circumcision through medicaid. There are many other positive ways to help get the word out and give parents information you didn't have.

[belchers1]

Originally Posted by jwhispers

Depending on where you live, you could also help with the Medicaid Project and write the state asking them to stop funding circumcision through medicaid. There are many other positive ways to help get the word out and give parents information you didn't have.

You know, I never thought about that... Medicaid covers and pays for circumcisions? Wow. I'm going to check out your link.

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by belchers1

You know, I never thought about that... Medicaid covers and pays for circumcisions? Wow. I'm going to check out your link.

In fact, if you're Michigan, MI right?, there is a farily active NOCIRC group you could touch base with to help with that.

[Super Glue Mommy]

im in Florida, medicaid doesnt cover it (From what I was told, because I had medicaid with DS1 and we paid for it) actually my uncle paid for it because we couldnt afford it. we paid for something we couldnt afford and didnt need. so ridiculous really. I understand why you mamas are so proud to have your boys intact. you should be!

[BunnySlippers]

Can you think of anything that might have changed your mind?

I know someone who is planning to circ, for the sake of it. I need something...Im out of facts.

[Bm31]

Originally Posted by Super Glue Mommy

Some people think some people who circ are against it now because something bad happened. (

What always amazes me is when something DOES go wrong with a child's circ, and the parents are fully aware that something did go wrong, yet they continue to circ subsequent sons. It's as if they get the next one "right" that it justifies the first as an "uncommon mistake."

[Super Glue Mommy]

I hope my response can help you Bunny, but I don't know how clear-cut it is (no pun intended).

Why did I circ? With my 1st son - simply because I just thought that was what you did. With my 2nd, the issue didn't come up until the very end of my pregnancy. DH and I were putting everything into the vaccine issue. He mostly was supportive of whatever I wanted to do. There was a lot going on with DS1 at the time so I was researching a lot on gentle discipline and ASD. My priorities were wrong though. Circ is pretty much a decision you make at the beginning of babies life, where as vaccination choices can be made at any time, I should have researched circ first. in the end I just asked DH what he wanted to do... I wanted to give him some "say" in things since usually I call all the shots. so we circ'd.

so what would have made me push my husband more? more time to really look into this before we made the decision. The fact there are no health benefits, the fact that you can't undo it (well, I know there are things adult men can do, but why should they have to?) if they want to get circ'd as an adult let them but I don't think they would. not to mention, if I had payed more attention to the differences between DS1's before and after I would have realized how much better they looked uncut. is this helping? let me know if there is anything specifically I can answer that would be more help.

[Burnindinner]

I'm sorry you have to deal with any sad feelings towards parenting decisions.

[Super Glue Mommy]

Originally Posted by Bm31

What always amazes me is when something DOES go wrong with a child's circ, and the parents are fully aware that something did go wrong, yet they continue to circ subsequent sons. It's as if they get the next one "right" that it justifies the first as an "uncommon mistake."

that is really strange. you would think if that happened that would inspire them to research about the issue. why would any want to risk a repeat bad situation?

I really wish I could undo what we've done, but hope I can help others at least. Why do people circ anyway? (aside from those of us who did it 'just because')

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by Super Glue Mommy

im in Florida, medicaid doesnt cover it (From what I was told, because I had medicaid with DS1 and we paid for it) actually my uncle paid for it because we couldnt afford it. we paid for something we couldnt afford and didnt need. so ridiculous really. I understand why you mamas are so proud to have your boys intact. you should be!

Yep Florida dropped it a couple of years ago.

[lilli'smom]

Originally Posted by jwhispers

Yep Florida dropped it a couple of years ago.

Umm, no, they haven't. Our family is on it right now, and when I had to make the choice of our HMO, one of them does cover RIC (it was either Medi-Pass or Health ease). They put that close to the top on things they cover.

[fruitful womb]

Originally Posted by lilli'smom

Umm, no, they haven't. Our family is on it right now, and when I had to make the choice of our HMO, one of them does cover RIC (it was either Medi-Pass or Health ease). They put that close to the top on things they cover.

What year did you have your ds who was born in FL?

[robertandenith]

Fl Medicaid doesn't cover it only if is a real medical issue.

[robertandenith]

http://www.allbusiness.com/health-ca...0353404-1.html