regret - Page 2

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by lilli'smom

Umm, no, they haven't. Our family is on it right now, and when I had to make the choice of our HMO, one of them does cover RIC (it was either Medi-Pass or Health ease). They put that close to the top on things they cover.

That wasn't what I read: http://www.cirp.org/news/stpetersburgtimes07-01-03/

[Frootloop]

I also live with a lot of regret from allowing my one and only son to be circumcised at birth (our circ story is in the "circ regrets" thread on page 19, I believe). I can't undo it and I can't have another son to *right* that wrong and make a better decision. Since I am now so staunchly anti-circ (because of MDC!), it's very very hard to live with that regret at times.

What can I do to make things sort of *right*? Well.. I am trying to educate others, but unfortunately, it's not going so well. So, my main focus at the moment is to stop the cycle in my family. First off, I have apologized to my 15 yr old son for not researching things before I allowed it to happen to him. I'm also making it a huge point to educate both of my children about circumcision. They both see me reading about it quite a lot and have both asked a lot of questions. At this point, they are very against it and see the horror of what it truly is.
I am hoping and praying that me educating them NOW will have an effect on them when it comes time for them to have children and make this decision.
Hopefully, my future grandsons will be spared. :

[tlh]

Originally Posted by Super Glue Mommy

but, in all honestly, I think it looked better before the "operation",

People always say it looks better circumcised and that is one reason to do it.The thing they don't mention is scarring,abnormal skin dimensions and if you look at pictures of intact men and pictures of circumcised men the intact men have smoother skin than the circumcised.I assume this is caused by the tighter skin being stretched during growth and erections and causing stretch marks on the shaft skin.

[lilli'smom]

Originally Posted by jwhispers

That wasn't what I read: http://www.cirp.org/news/stpetersburgtimes07-01-03/

http://www.wellcare.com/WCAssets/cor...rmHandbook.pdf Page 15

this says that Fl medicaid covers newborn circ until 6 months, and the HMO Medicaid HealthEase covers until a year.

We just got on this the end of January this year. I know FL dropped the coverage in 2003, but was unaware it was back until making my HMO decision a few weeks ago.

It stinks. I do not like that it is back.

I am also a mom that completely regrets circing my boys and I thank my maker that I found this site and I became educated. It will never happen again in this home.

[Super Glue Mommy]

until 6 months? that means they will cover it if medically necessary right (which I assume is rarely if ever needed, and probably done for medical reasons WAY more then it needs to be)

I didnt realize they were offering it again! weird thing for other people's tax dollar to pay for...

[BunnySlippers]

Thanks Supergluemommy- I will suggest she actually look into it herself. She is planning on making the decision based on what gender of baby she has. She is having a planned c-sec, so if its a boy, that really is not a good time to be making serious decisions.

[purplemoon]

I have the same regrets that we circ'd our boys.

[perspective]

A mother who circs a son, and later becomes strongly anti-circ probably feels similar in the way a guy who was circed against his will feels.

With me, its not just a "decision" but it what my body is, so I inherently understand that it is something that can never fully be made right, my feelings will never fully be healed.

Maybe what will help you is understanding these feelings will never fully heal, and recovering from this means figuring out how close to that is it possible for you to get.

I would imagine if your son one day told you he loves being circed (or has restored and his happy with it) AND has told you that if he has a son he will leave the decision up to the boy.

I think you need to do what you were hoping to do as a good parent anyway. You need to work on building the confidence your son should feel about his life and his body. Make him happy about his body, NOT because being circumcised is better, but because its HIS body. Teach him, growth can come from the most hopeless moments. If you can do all this and more, you will have a son happy with himself, and one day, maybe even a grandson who was given the right of choice, and control over his body.

[Super Glue Mommy]

thank you perspective, that was great insight and I will walk away with that advice at heart
bunny- maybe you can get her a quick fact sheet together to look over at the very least. i agree she should look at it BEFORE baby is born, not after.