My stepdaughter is Catholic, as is her Mother and everyone in her Mother's family. My Hubby, my son and myself are not Catholic, but we are Christian. It's written in the custody/visitation agreement that my stepdaughter is to be raised as Catholic and has been a problem in the past for my stepdaughter to attend any type of religious services at our church, like, for example, to see my son's part in the Easter play in our church a couple years ago, she's (my stepdaughter's Mother) gotten "worried" because she thought my Hubby and I got married in a church, but was "relieved" when she found out it was in our home with "just" a minister, although she was "slightly concerned" that we had said some prayers that were Christian, but not Catholic during our wedding ceremony. We're not allowed to pray in front on her unless it's Catholic prayers. Now there's "concern" about her going because my sister's getting married in June and it will either be at my Grandmother's house or in a (Christian, but not Catholic) church. Now, keep all that in mind when I mention that last summer, my stepdaughter's Mother sent her to a Jewish camp (we have nothing against the Jewish camp or Jewish relgion, just her Mother's reasoning) and my Hubby wasn't happy about it. My stepdaughter was one of four or five nonJewish girls who were at the camp and at the end of the day, they all sing Hebrew prayers. Now, my stepdaughter's Mother wants to send her back to that same camp next summer and, in the support documents, my Hubby (we) have to pay 80%, of, which we can't afford this year. (The camp is 3x as much as two other not as facny but still very good camps that my Hubby has looked into, so there are other acceptable options.) Technically, my stepdaughter's Mother get's final say if they don't agree, but my two questions are, if the camp is a direct violation of the custody/visitation agreement that SHE insisted on, can we get out of paying or paying so much and, since she's breaking the agreement already, can she force us to still comply, or can we do things like bring my stepdaughter to our church for special occations and such?
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2/15/09 at 1:20pm