My 10yo made an online purchase - Page 2

[harrietsmama]

Originally Posted by PassionateWriter

i 2nd this. im a bit surprised at the absence of gentle dscipline advice being given here.

i hae a 10 yo...if something like this happened, this is the way i would deal with it.

i also give my 10 yo more privacy...i dont look at every email, etc etc.

i do monitor his compter usage but i think he would be upset if i read every email.

just my 2 cents

me too!

[Kidzaplenty]

I am the odd one. I read every e-mail, every web site, and everything they do on the computer. It is part of the privilage to use the computer. If they do not like it, they are welcome to not use it. If they do not want me to see, they are doing some wrong.

At ten, they are too young to have free run of the computer. Too many preditors out there. Too much that they are not mature enough to handle.

At fourteen, they get a bit more freedom, however, there is always the stipulation that I CAN and likely will read everything, up till the age of 18. Once they are an adult, they are entitled to computer privacy and freedom. Until that time, the computer is mine, the internet service is mine, the office is mine, the house is mine, the electricity is mine. I will protect my children from themselves if I have to.

I do not equate "personal privacy" with privacy to do anything and in everything.

It is totally in line with GD to give consequences to actions. That is part of learning to live in with world. Just to LIVE you have to understand actions and consequences. It is part of life. Children who learn that early end up ahead of the game, IMHO.

[claddaghmom]

There's not enough info in the OP.

Did the kid actually take a credit card number and use it?

Is this an actual contract, or just signing up for something?



Even still, the kid lied point blank. That alone is serious.

[Sage_SS]

Kidzaplenty, you're not the odd one. I'm the same way you are. Some would call me old fashioned, heck I call me old fashioned, but in a modern way

I would have done the same thing you did OP.

Parenting is a personal plan and the different extremes of it never cease to amuse me. Hmm.. maybe not amuse me because sometimes the differences are sad.

[jeliphish]

I would just try to express to him the seriousness of this... One of my co-worker's has a 12 year old daughter who was on Limewire constantly and downloaded a bunch of songs (Not an obscene amount either). The dad is now being sued for copy right violations for over $300,000. Kids can screw up their own lives and credit as well as their own parent's lives and credit very easily. They just don't have an understanding of stuff like that....same as all the college freshmen who are amazed at all the "vendors" giving away free things to sign up for credit cards....