Originally Posted by lolar2
But that proves the opposite of your original statement. They are willing! And they are making the effort.
No, it proves my point because my point was that they wait to learn these new skills when it's critical, and if they had had them all along, they wouldn't be suffering as badly. Learning a new skill when it's desperately needed is bad because there's a learning curve to every skill and it can cost you dearly.
Originally Posted by slsurface
I agree that many people are lacking in basic "old-timey" skills, but it is absurd to think that people couldn't adapt and learn them if they needed to. Just because they take the easy way when they can, doesn't mean they won't do what's needed when the time comes. The fact that so many women have contacted you speaks to their drive to learn how. I think they would be hurt if they knew you were being this judgmental.
First off, I'm not being judgmental at all, and you're totally reading that wrong. I'm a teacher by nature and I work very hard to help these women learn the skills that they need and I enjoy watching them learn and grow. The woman IRL I mentioned is my best friend and I have never once laughed at her or at any of them. I was in their exact same shoes 10 years ago and I had to teach myself to cook, clean, sew, do laundry, garden, can, keep animals, knit, etc... You see, my mother didn't teach me much, or rather, my life was so full of acedemics, there wasn't time to learn anything else. My husband taught me how to clean and do laundry. The rest I learned on my own. I'm not judgmental because I was her 10 years ago. One thing that I hear repeatedly on my forums is how non-judgmental it is compared to other forums of the same type and subject matter.
If you don't have the skills you need, and you've lost the internet thanks to lack of money, how then do you learn? Most people don't even think about going to a library or calling the county extension (IF they know how to do that particular skill you need). Some of these skills arepracticed by few people, so you're not always going to have someone IRL who can teach you. If a skill is critical, you might be able to muddle through, but not always. And muddling through is costly at the very time you don't have the money to expend.
That's why it is so critical to have a skill before it is needed. It puts you ahead of the curve. I do believe that many mothers will pick up and learn certain skills as things get worse for them, but I believe it could come at a heavy price that they wouldn't have had to pay if they had learned beforehand.