FirstRight - Denny's call to action - Page 3

[LavenderMae]

If you (general of course) are offended by a baby eating then you aren't reasonable period!

My child eating is a birthright obviously talking on a cellphone is not. If seeing some of my breast while my child eats offends you (general) then by all means look away. I would never force anyone to watch my child eat.

I can think of plenty examples of things some people are offended by that we (collective) should not stop doing just to not offend and nip (however mom and babe are comfortable) is one of those things.

[annettemarie]

First of all, you aren't being banned from the conversation.

Second of all, I completely disagree with your position. It is not a "pro-breastfeeding" position, but a "pro-breastfeeding as long as you meet these conditions" position.

The funny thing is, I'm really quite a bit of a prude. I'm big on modesty, especially when I'm outside of my home. I don't use a blanket or a nursing cover, but I'm really good at nursing my baby without showing any skin. It's just what I'm comfortable.

I've only ever seen two people "whipping it out" and both times I remember thinking "How awesome that they're nursing their baby." Not "OMGosh, why can't they cover up" or "Obviously, they have an agenda".

To me, being pro-breastfeeding is supporting a mother in nursing her child no matter how they have to do it. It's none of my business how a mother chooses to feed her baby.

[RoadWorkAhead]

So seeing all of my abdomen is more acceptable that the top of my breast, which could easily be displayed over the decolotage of a low cut gown or bathing suit? If others feel the need to sexualize my breasts, that is their choice. As long as I have not sexualized them and am not using them for a sexual purpose in public, I am not doing anything wrong. I can not control the thoughts and preconceived notions of the world around me, only my own. I don't perceive my breast as unilaterally sexual, and I don't perceive breastfeeding as a sexual act.

[Fiestabeth]

My dd likes to nurse under my shirt, but I have a feeling if I let her do it in public people would get offended. Since she's 4. I can hear the comments now. "I'm all for bfing, but a 4yo? That's just gross." No breast would be showing, but people would still be offended because it's outside the limits of what they have determined to be acceptable. It's a sad but true fact about our culture.

Everyone has their own "limits" where bfing is concerned, but IMO, it's wrong to project your own limits onto others. I tend to be pretty discreet, but when I see a mom who isn't, I'm not offended. I'm jealous. Because that's how it should be. Mothers should be allowed to breastfeed their infants (and children) in whatever manner they see fit and is comfortable for them and for as long as is mutually desired by the nursing pair. Period.

[justJen]

As is not uncommon when addressing the topic of breastfeeding in public, this thread has veered off topic to a discussion of the hows/wheres/whys of NIP implementation. A friend of mine wrote a thought-provoking (to me) essay about the idea of lactivism and discretion which I've posted in a separate thread: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...6#post13272626 Perhaps further discussion about discretion could be continued there? and this thread could re-focus on the activism at hand of phone calls/ emails to Denny's to inquire about their breastfeeding policy? Thanks!

[annettemarie]

Just to reiterate what I posted earlier-- while people are more than welcome to share what their personal limits are re: nursing in public, modesty, etc. we WILL NOT host posts that dictate how all women should nurse. This is the lactivism forum. The main purpose of this board (and the breastfeeding boards in general) is to promote breastfeeding, not to set up additional barriers to breastfeeding.

Feel free to PM me with any questions or concerns.

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by justJen

As is not uncommon when addressing the topic of breastfeeding in public, this thread has veered off topic to a discussion of the hows/wheres/whys of NIP implementation. A friend of mine wrote a thought-provoking (to me) essay about the idea of lactivism and discretion which I've posted in a separate thread: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...6#post13272626 Perhaps further discussion about discretion could be continued there? and this thread could re-focus on the activism at hand of phone calls/ emails to Denny's to inquire about their breastfeeding policy? Thanks!

Excellent suggestion. Thank you!