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post #1 of 13
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I've written a personal philosophy recently after reading two incredible books. If anything resonates for you, I'd love to hear your feedback.

They say when things are at their worst…God is near. I believe this is also when my Inner Wisdom is near. When I am suffering, it is most often because I am not honoring myself and going on my authentic path in life. I believe God sends us to this earth with Inner Wisdom and if we sit quietly listening, it will reveal the right path for us. When we honor our Inner Wisdom, we honor God, our Maker, by utilizing a tool he has equipped us with. We walk with the legs He made for us. We can also use the Inner Wisdom He gave us to propel us forward in life.

Each of us is unique in this universe. No other person has the same thoughts and loves and wisdom as you. In honoring yourself, you can learn from your wisdom. It is about your truth. Don’t be afraid! ;-)

We create our suffering and we can change it. We must stop seeing ourselves though the eyes of others and accepting their opinion of us. Some might look at me and say, “You know, Mindy is way too philosophical. Why doesn’t Mindy lose weight? Why does Mindy think she has to be different than the rest?” I can hear these things and believe them. I can become unhappy because I am not fulfilling someone else’s desires for me. I can also examine these things about myself and, if I am peace with them…or even if I agree that something needs to be changed…I trust myself to go at the pace and rhythm appropriate for me.

When we honor and respect ourselves, it is easier to extend that courtesy to others. When we stop thinking about what is wrong with other people, it frees us to listen to our concerns about ourselves. Constantly thinking about what’s wrong with your life leaves little room for your answers to come to you. Your unique wisdom.

Fearing change and familiarity keeps us firmly rooted in our suffering. We also believe that an external change will make us happier. (More money, cleaner house, etc.) As long as you wait for the external change…or for someone else to change…you are stuck.

Making the switch to trusting your Inner Wisdom is a process. First you must believe that you even have it! It seems arrogant. It sounds as if we think we’re somehow better than others. WE have inner wisdom!? Who? US? However, it’s not about being better than others. It’s actually not about others AT ALL. It is about our uniqueness and our personal integrity. Give yourself time to believe in your Inner Wisdom.

If you wanted to learn to play the piano, you might choose to take lessons. But rather than sitting down and sounding like Elton John, you would be stuck with Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star. You might feel impatient and disbelieving that you will ever play complex music. Yet, we all know that with practice, we improve. You will get better at honoring yourself each time you do it. Your heart will tell you when you’ve gotten it right and when you’ve failed. If you can be forgiving with yourself when you fail…rather than turning back to the outside and explaining your failure by placing blame elsewhere…it will become easier.

I believe there is Something More to life. My truth is different than your truth, though we may agree on some things. Living your truth does not prevent suffering, but I do believe it leads to peace, integrity, and authenticity.

Thanks for listening.
post #2 of 13
Yes, I totally agree with that. I'm so much happier than I used to be because 1. I've learned to trust God ( or the Great Spirit or whatever your name for it is) 2. I quit trying to live up to other people expectations 3. I've learned that I'm perfect just the way I am (and everyone else is too)
post #3 of 13
Thread Starter 

Lindy

Thanks for your feedback. Three simple points and next thing you know, you have a whole new life. It's encouraging to see others following the path.
post #4 of 13
I agree with all you've written but you have phrased it in a lovely way. Thank you!
post #5 of 13
You have a great outlook, I wish everyone could see things your way, or at least take the time to think about it.
One thing I would add would be remembering we all come from a different place in our lives. I can't expect others to be leaders, for example, just because it comes easy to me. I can't expect other parents to put in the same time and effort I do with things that are important to me, as they may have issues that remain unresolved, and I have to repect that.
post #6 of 13
Thread Starter 

Thank you Sunmountain

Your point is well taken. I must constantly remind myself that *my* path is best for me but not for others. I believe that my philosophy is a healthy path for everyone, yet if I concentrate on others, I lose sight of me! I can share my beliefs and I can live authentically. Then I can respect others for where they are in their path without judgement or a need to change them.

And I can pray that the Spirit of Life will send me companions who can walk beside me on this path. Sometimes it can be a bit lonely to be "enlightened". :better

Peace.
post #7 of 13
Menanny: thank you so much for sharing your philosophy with us. It is beautifully written. You have inspired me to think of my own personal philosophy and what my core values are and how I apply them to my everyday life.

thanks again!

christina
post #8 of 13
that reminded me of reading a book, you know those small books eloquently simple, sometimes printed in script with just a few lines on each page?
anyways, nice job
post #9 of 13
Definitely resonates with me. Makes me think of my favorite 'self-help/spiritual/philosophy' book- only 138 pages long The Four Agreement by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Life is so much sweeter when we have the precious understandings you related so eloquently above.

Thank you! Kinda made my day, reading that. Reminds me of who I am, want to be, and what I am doing to be the author of a life story I will be happy with.

blessings,
S
post #10 of 13
I agree that this is beautifully written and full of wonderful points to ponder.

What you say about following our own paths and not letting what others think reminds me of a quote from "Women Who Run With the Wolves" that always resonates within me:

"to be ourselves causes us to be exiled by many others, and yet to comply with what others want causes us to be exiled from ourselves"

Thank you so much for posting this. It inspires me to want to sit down and work out my own personal philosophy, if only to solidify it in my own mind.
post #11 of 13
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alianmama -- your response amazed me -- I just returned The Four Agreements to my bro-in-law yesterday!! Sadly, I just couldn't get into it. Of course, now that I read your response, I wish I had tried harder!! I borrowed it from him many months ago, before I read the books that got me on this track. Before I gave it back to him, I just happened to see a quote on the cover about how you should never worry about other people's opinion of you because it is only a projection of themselves. Good advice!! Maybe I should get it from the library now...

joyful_mamma -- Women Who Run with Wolves -- what a wonderful book! I've only heard it on tape but I loved what it had to say. The quote you mentioned is so powerful.

Although I mentioned it in an earlier post, I was just writing today in my journal about feeling lonely on my path. I do have good friends I can talk to, yet I feel a bit overwhelmed by the prospect of being solely responsible for my life. It's the only way, of course.

It's especially helpful to have women like you all who have responded to help me keep going forward. Thank you.
post #12 of 13
Five minutes?? LOL how about an hour? I'll come back to this when I have more time to ponder! Love it!
post #13 of 13
I loved this, too. Menanny, you say it all so well.

I was thinking about a related concept today: the idea about what force keeps us moving in the Universe. I was listening to Terri Gross interviewing the producer of a new comedy/detective show called "Monk." I think it's going to be on USA Network.

Anyhow, the point was that this character Monk, if he'd "had his druthers" would never leave his apartment during the day. He'd be by himself. I totally related to that. Even before I teach a class or go into work (I typically work from home), I have to take a flower essence so I won't be so afraid!

Anyway, the thing that popped out at me was that this producer said that this guy Monk only worked at his job as a detective b/c he had to pay the bills. What wonderful, blessed things bills really are! I have been thinking for some time now about how making the money figures into our life scripts, you know? Money compels us to go out and relate to other people.

And I think that one of our highest purposes in life is to know ourselves, and what better way to do that than through our relationships with other people?

You always hear that if you do what you love, the money will come. And I really think that's true b/c, in the end, money is sort of like a lure, almost. You think it's what you want, and in seeking it, you stumble across your bliss.

Oooooh, thanks for the inspiration Menanny!

Jean
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