I also think that time should heal old wounds.
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2/18/09 at 6:30pm
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Just in case you are tallying votes on this point, I also hope that this will work sort of like points on your driver's license and expire after a period of time. I know I have made some mistakes when I was new to the board, new to boards in general, hadn't read the UA carefully enough, or had interpreted some part of the UA in a different way from the mods.
I totally get that things have been a nightmare for the mods. But I worry that over the course of years one could mess up in a variety of ways that add up but still could be a valuable member of the community who learns from her mistakes [any resemblance to me being purely coincidental ]. |
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I like the idea that you can earn your points back by being good and playing nice, but I also think they (the points-well the reasons behind those points) shouldn't just be elimanated. The way I'm understanding things in your alert tab you would be able to see something like
1 point for violation of ___ mustard 1 point for violation of ___ mayo 3 points for violation of ___ ketchup If they were to play nice and be able to get the points related to the mustard removed from their alert that's great, people change. But what happens when they don't change and keep adding mustard to their posts, just letting enough time to pass before adding more mustard. Should there/could there be someway to track data like that. |
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I like the idea that you can earn your points back by being good and playing nice, but I also think they (well the reasons behind those points) shouldn't just be elimanated. The way I'm understanding things in your alert tab you would be able to see something like
1 point for violation of ___ mustard 1 point for violation of ___ mayo 3 points for violation of ___ ketchup If they were to play nice and be able to get the points related to the mustard removed from their alert that's great, people change. But what happens when they don't change and keep adding mustard to their posts, just letting enough time to pass before adding more mustard. Should there/could there be someway to track data like that. |
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Is there any kind of system in place to "fight" a warning or alert? I'm thinking again of the driver's liscence example: if I get pulled over for speeding, I can go to traffic court and try to have it thrown out of court (if the cop never shows up) or plea bargian for a lesser sentence (say, get 1 point on my liscence rather than 2.)
So, if a moderator issues an alert, but you don't think you did anything wrong, do you have any recourse? |
There's a recourse clause right in the UA (scroll to the bottom for the clickable links):| Recourse If you object to a board policy, an alert, warning, ban or suspension: * Email or discuss the situation with the moderator. * Email or discuss the situation with the board administrator. * Submit a request for review to The Kitchen Table. The Kitchen Table is an advisory board comprised of a rotating membership of two moderators and three board members, usually the top board posters; members are appointed by the publisher. The Kitchen Table provides a place to bring complaints and resolve conflicts. It also offers advice to the publisher and board administration. * If you do not receive a prompt reply from The Kitchen Table email the Web Editor or Publisher. |
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I am reminded about Peggy O'mara's article, just after 9/11 about an article by Thich Nhat Hahn entitled "Reconciliation." In this article, he describes seven practices of conflict resolution and reconciliation. She suggests: listen intently to each side of the story, one of them at a time with the other present. They just needed to be heard. http://www.mothering.com/guest_edito...place/109.html
Don't Blame the Lettuce "When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change."--Thich Nhat Hanh Not into rewards and punishments. ![]() Pat |
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