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post #21 of 27
I understand. Sometimes I feel insanely jealous of my husbands ex girlfriend/mother of his children. We don't have any children together after 3 years of marriage, and being together for ten years, but she got to have his first baby, getting pregnant after a whopping 90 days of them knowing each other, with him working out of town for 45 of those days. And then their second a year later..without even bothering to mention that she was pregnant until the day she delivered.

It's selfish, I know, but I want to have that bond with him. And as silly as it sounds, when we have a baby I hope that it's a girl because she has his boys and I'll be able to give him something that she didn't.
post #22 of 27
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Originally Posted by JaysMama View Post
You are not alone. I am right there with you and it's such a mix of emotions when it does stir up.
I have the worst baby fever which doesn't help and dp will not budge on it. No more babies for him. I can't help but take it as 'no baby with ME' even though rationally I know that's not it. Then I start thinking why was she good enough to have 2 kids with but I'm not....then the ugly beast rears its head.
Oh my gosh,I am the same way! Even though I know it isn't true but I still can't help but feel that way.I always felt so bad about feeling that way,thought I was the only one who felt like that.
To the OP,I understand exactly where you are coming from.We had my tubal reversed 8 years ago.I have had 2 losses and that's it We finally just quit trying about a year ago.

Jenn A
post #23 of 27
I relate... I just found out tonight my DH saw her for the first time in a year and gave her about $900. I hate that he sees her, I hate that money goes to this lady when our family needs a bigger place, we live in a one bedroom apartment and she has a new house bought. I don't know I might leave him.
post #24 of 27
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I have hope.

I'm sorry to read that others go through this emotional roller coaster as well.

I ended up finally just talking about my feelings with DP and he was really understanding about it. I think it's just going to take time (hopefully) and I will just have to deal with it.

We picked up DP's 2 yo son yesterday, we have him every other Sunday to Sunday. It was kinda hard because for whatever reason, DP's son wanted to be up my butt. DP is a super doting father, and that was a big reason I was/am attracted to him, because of his commitment to family, and DP was a bit sad that his son was like

"I want M!" "Come here M" "I want to hold you M"

("M" is me) and was like
"Go away, Daddy. Go in the other room."

It was just a thing, and DP's son loves him, it was kinda hard though for me, because although I love DP and his son, I am not the mom, kwim?
post #25 of 27
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Originally Posted by phoolove View Post
It was just a thing, and DP's son loves him, it was kinda hard though for me, because although I love DP and his son, I am not the mom, kwim?
I know EXACTLY what you mean!
Jenn A
post #26 of 27
If I could do things over again, I would think twice before getting involved in a stepparent situation - it sucks, majorly. My stepkids Mama does the same thing, if we are doing good she starts a bunch of drama. You should hear what she did when we told her we were getting married, oh goodness, disaster, not letting us take the kids, drama drama drama. Then, when we had a baby...well you can guess. We used to be on friendly terms but right now I REALLY do not like her.

I'm sorry Mama, that you are going through this. Its hard to have the crazy feelings that come with stepparenting.
post #27 of 27
Oh, be prepared for the drama if you do have a lil girl. My stepkids are a family of boys and their mama has never forgiven me for having girls. =(
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