Praise for partners - to balance the DH vent thread!

[amybird]

I'm all over the DH vent thread, but want to remind myself of all the positive things my partner brings to my life!

He just finished the dishes.

He always asks about my day, and is genuinely interested to hear what I've been doing (even when it's the same as yesterday!).

He offers to get take out for dinner about every other week, and gladly gets it more often if I ask.

He always thanks me for the home cooked meals I make.

He holds a secure job and earns a comfortable income for us.

He is 100% supportive of me staying home with our child, but also says that if I find I want to go back to work, that's fine with him.

He appreciates my body unconditionally, and is sincerely fascinated with the changes pregnancy has brought.

He trusts my judgment when I tell him we really do need that many diapers. And when I tell him we really don't need the Ferrari of strollers.

He always kisses me good bye and hello.

He spends at least a few minutes every evening cuddling me and holding my belly, often talking to baby.


I could go on and on...and I will mentally, as this is good for my frame of mind.

What about you all?

[carseatqueen]

While my DH still has a long way to go in the "helping around the house" dept it's mostly out of obliviousness, so I'll pardon him for now. ;-) I'm just training DD.

My DH is absolutely 100% supportive of doing whatever it takes to have this baby naturally, even it baby stays breech. I expected him to be supportive, but he told me he's willing to drive me to Tennessee if that's what it takes! I about cried.

He brough me Ben and Jerry's last week. Not that I needed it, but, it sure was yummy.

I'll stop for now.

[Conchobhar]

He had to put up with some pretty scary emotions from me during the 2nd trimester.

He says I'm gorgeous (even though I know I'm not)

He's willing to protect and provide for his family.

He calls me and the baby "my girls", which I find absolutely adorable.

He's willing to work through any problems we come across

He gives me backrubs

He gushes when the baby kicks and he feels it

He tells me how much he appreciates what I'm going through to bring our baby into the world on a daily basis.

He shares his rice crispy treat with me when we go to Noodles and Co. (it's touching, really)

He's been nesting more than me this week, so it's nice to not worry so much about cleaning.

[GoddessJ]

Thank you for this thread. I really helps to have some positive reminders of how we are being supported.

Well, I am actually fortunate enough to have two amazing partners, so I get doubly spoiled.

The Bio Papa has been so great. From the begining he has been financially supportive, even to the point of paying rent on two houses just so I could get out of the city. He is remodeling a place on 20 acres for me and the baby. He also gives and gets me massages and I can go to the chiropractor every week. He completely supports my decisions around natural childbirth and even though he is freaked out by body fluids he wants to catch the baby because he wants to be the first to touch this new being. And the other night when I felt totally trapped and not ready to be a mother, he told me that he supports whatever decision I need to make, that I am really free and he would pay for a plane ticket wherever I wanted to go, of course that dissentigrated my feelings of being trapped and I went back to being in bliss and love. He has gone to all my midwife appointments with me and even is willing to do the vaginal exams to check my dialation. What a guy!

My other partner (who I have been with for seven years) is also amazing. For one he didn't leave, when I think most guys would have hit the road if their partner got pregnant with someone else. He took care of me when I couldn't get out of bed, he cooks for me, cleans for me, and massages my feet regularly. He is preparing all the food for the birth, doing shopping and setting up everything in our birth room for the water birth. He massages me when I am sore, he stays with me when my other partner can't, and he is taking on the bulk of running our business. Yesterday I had a shoot and he took the day off work to make sure I was eating and drinking and had everything I needed. He is planning on cutting the cord during the birth, which for me is one of the most important parts of the whole thing. He talks to the baby and kisses my belly a lot. He is taking on a father role, even if the baby isn't his biologically and that is super sweet.

I could go on about these two, but I will stop there...

[javilu]

My husband has been amazing. This whole time. From cleaning up my puke to bringing me food in bed back when I had all-day nausea for months on end.

He cooks, he cleans. He writes in the baby book, he assembles various baby things.

He practices putting diapers on a teddy bear!

He comes from a rather mainstream background and has been super open to things like cloth diapers, sharing a room with the baby, being selective when it comes to vaccines, learning about waterbirth, and so much more. I'm very proud of him.

He touches my belly and talks to the baby.

He tells me I'm sexy.

He massages my back and my hands.

He has dreams about playing with the baby.

And all of this from a man who wasn't sure he ever even wanted kids!

[ilovebabies]

LOVE this thread. :

My dh is so wonderful, I don't even deserve him! I'm not going to even try to list things because there wouldn't be enough room! But he goes above and beyond the call of duty and above and beyond my expectations. No, he doesn't understand what it's like to be pg (I wouldn't expect him to) and he doesn't always ask me how I'm feeling (I don't expect that either...he's a busy man and forgets), but he is incredible during my preganancies and all the time! He's one of those men that most women would say is "too good to be true". But nope, he's the real deal! I knew it in high school which is why I grabbed him and didn't let go!

[dearmama22]

awww, what a good idea!

I'm a little irritated at my husband this morning- seems like I'm always picking up after him, so it's nice to remember the GOOD things about them!

My hubby works very hard in school right now and he is doing a great job. He also works as much as he can, so I don't have to as much and so I can stay home with our new baby!

He is an all around very sweet, sweet man and I am so blessed to have him. I thank God every day for him!

( even if he doesn't put his dishes away!)

[hunterofkyle]

Warm fuzzies

My husband wholeheartedly believes that natural birth is the greatest way to go and that says a lot, considering he's about the graduate from medical school and this goes against everything his profession embodies.

He can cook!

He is willing to get out the paints and brushes when the kids need something to do and I'm too irritable/tired/pregnant to do it myself.

He can tolerate and usually join in my rants about parenting/pregnancy/breastfeeding, etc.

He has absolutely NO expectations of me. If I work, he's appreciative. If I cook, he happily eats anything. If I clean, he notices. Its so much easier for me to WANT to do these things when there isn't someone hounding me to get them done. I've always been this way. He just learned my needs and adapted.

I just love that man!

[eewieew]

hopping on the bandwagon, even though h and i are not together anymore.

when i DO talk to him, he's genuinely interested in how i'm feeling, pg and otherwise.

has been there for me on numerous occasions when it's 3am and i can't sleep and need someone to talk to.

has cooked me some fantastic dinners in recent months, and taken me out for some really nice ones as well.

provided me with financial support whenever i've asked for it, without even asking me why.

is fascinated by my pregnant body and all of the physical changes that i've gone through.

last time he saw me he undressed my belly and kissed our baby goodbye...that made my heart melt

has commented more than once that he's really impressed with the decisions that i've made regarding the birth and parenting in general, admitting that he himself would never think of some of the things i've come up with. nice to hear from someone who started off telling me that there was no way i could be a good mom.

is becoming more and more involved and jazzed at becoming a dad, and figuring out how to do this peacefully and lovingly with me even though we're not together anymore.

it definitely hurts like hell that we aren't together, but i'll learn to deal with it as long as he loves our baby. there's a part of me that isn't so sure that our story is over though....just a matter of wait and see i guess.

[hedgewitch]

My dp has been utterly amazing throughout. A few examples:

Never complains, just picks up whatever slack there is.
Supported me through my mum's death.
Is already an amazing dad.
Totally supports all of my birthing decisions including getting a doula.
Is an angel and bends over backwards to give me as much rest as I need.
Lets me know he loves me in a million ways.

I could go on. But I won't! I am lucky to have such an amazing partner

[G&B'sMama]

My DH and I have gone through some tough times, and I ended up getting pg during the make up phase of those tough times, so it is really important for me to realize how much I need and appreciate him.


- He takes care of the kids all day long and does a really good job of it, including taking DD to all her homeschool stuff all week long

- He keeps the house from being a complete disaster zone, and stays on top of keeping it from being a bio hazard too

- On top of all the work he does around the house he works PT evenings and weekends to bring in a little exta income. I know he is so tired sometimes, but he never complains.

-Every night he rubs my feet and makes sure I am relaxed and ready to sleep

-When I cook he always does the dishes, no matter how much mess I make in the kitchen

-He bakes all the bread we eat in the house- and he's good at it too!

- He watches out for me and tells me when he can see me over-doing it- he makes time for me to take care of myself to take a warm bath or go and see a movie or have a night with friends

-When I have a bad day, and am grumpy and mean, he gives me a hug anyway and doesn't take it personally

- When I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant he smiled and said how excited he was and held me while I cried

[eewieew]

Originally Posted by G&B'sMama

My DH and I have gone through some tough times, and I ended up getting pg during the make up phase of those tough times, so it is really important for me to realize how much I need and appreciate him.


- He takes care of the kids all day long and does a really good job of it, including taking DD to all her homeschool stuff all week long

- He keeps the house from being a complete disaster zone, and stays on top of keeping it from being a bio hazard too

- On top of all the work he does around the house he works PT evenings and weekends to bring in a little exta income. I know he is so tired sometimes, but he never complains.

-Every night he rubs my feet and makes sure I am relaxed and ready to sleep

-When I cook he always does the dishes, no matter how much mess I make in the kitchen

-He bakes all the bread we eat in the house- and he's good at it too!

- He watches out for me and tells me when he can see me over-doing it- he makes time for me to take care of myself to take a warm bath or go and see a movie or have a night with friends

-When I have a bad day, and am grumpy and mean, he gives me a hug anyway and doesn't take it personally

- When I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant he smiled and said how excited he was and held me while I cried

does your dh have a twin or clone that i could possibly borrow/have?

[momto4kids]

Love the thread!

* He has put up with my INSANE mood swings during all my pregnancies (I am a queen &^%* when pg)

* He runs the household on the weekends....

* He keeps the house from being a disaster, does all the major cleaning ~~ when I am pg though he picks up all the slack

* cooks for me on the weekends

* takes my older kids to school everyday so I can stay home w/ the lil ones

* deals w/ all the yard work, snow removal ect (I hate yard work)

* He is truly a wonderful, caring father

* supports me in having my kids @ home....even though it was an uphill battle @ first to convince him on hombirthing, he has his own soapbox now

* is on board w/ co-seeping, babywearing, extended breastfeeding...whatever works for our family!

* he works is ars off to support us so I can stay home w/ the kids......he currently has 3 companies he is employed by (he is a contractor). Makes for long days....

* thinks I am crazy for wanting to have professional maternity pics done, but we are going in today & having them taken :

* thinks I'm kinda crazy for cloth diapering, but does not bat an eye & told me to teach him how to wash dipes so that when the baby is born I am not dealing w/ any laundry

* COMPLETELY runs the household after my kids are born....the man is a god for those few weeks....I have to do nothing @ that point!

.....thanks again for this thread!

[EarthMamaVT]

-He occupies our 2 year old son when he gets home from work to give me a break.
-He massages my feet almost every night.
-He cooks (even when I'm not pregnant).
-He always tells me I'm beautiful.
-He is always giving snuggles to my belly.
-When he leaves for work in the morning he kisses our son, me and the belly good bye.
-He'll stop at the store on his way home and get me special treats (mainly Ben & Jerry's...yum yum).
-He's very supportive all the time.

The list could go on and on. It's great to have such a great man in my life. I hope my son is aware as he grows up how amazing his father is and takes those good things into his own life.

[shaylan]

aww so many sweet dhs and dps

im having withdrawls right now because mine has been gone a week and wont be getting home until the middle of this week, but when he is here i really cant say bad things! he will cook for me if i feel like poo, cleans, helps with ds, has been painting all the rooms so we can have the house ready for when baby comes... i always feel lost when he isnt here.

[MomtotheMAX]

Wow, where do you ladies get these guys?!?!?! :-)

Well, I actually started the DH vent thread, but although my husband does not cook at all and rarely cleans anything, he is a GREAT daddy. He has the most amazing imagination and the children just love him to pieces. He is also romantic when he wants to be, and writes the most beautiful letters to me.

I'm thankful for those things (although a little cooking and cleaning would be AWESOME!).