Now that I am educated I am so angry!

[RJones1204]

My initial reason for not circing DS was simply because of the pain. Well months after he was born I learned what a wonderful choice I had made for him. I learned the sexual benefits of a foreskin for a man and his wife. And also the health benefits of a foreskin. I never knew there was so much more to it then just a "piece of skin".
I now realize why DH and I have had issues when making love. This is the only place I know that I will be understood. I am so angry that sex has to be short or else the friction starts to hurt. I am tired of not being able to enjoy it the way I should and DH should be able too. Now I know it is because of his circumcision. It makes things painful and "not smooth". I have so many other issues (looongg story, we DON'T get along) against DH's mom and now this is just another. I know I am unreasonable. But seriously the situation makes me sick and tired. We should be able to enjoy each other for more then a few minutes without pain and discomfort for us both. I guess I am sort of "bitter" about things. I WANT to enjoy sex. And now that I know why things are the way they are, it makes me more upset. Thank God I didn't do that to my son!! I wish DH would look into restoration. I am going to give him the links and gently lead him to the info but not push the subject. I know what a personal thing this all is and he must do it on his own time. I just needed some where to vent. UGH and sigh!

[KristyDi]

I know exactly how you feel. I was in the same place after I learned about what circ takes. I've come to some peace with it now. I'd love to bring restoration up to DH, but I'm terrified of wounding him and making him feel inadequate.

[RJones1204]

I talked to DH. And he is totally not offended. I didnt tell him how I feel about sex and how it causes pain. I simply told him I had info for him to read on restoration. And that maybe he should just educate himself about it and leave it open for discussion down the road. Even several years down the road, if he wants. He seemed indifferent about whether to do it or not, but definatly ok with the idea of just learning more. It is HIS body and his choice, so I am not gonna push it. But at least he has the info. I love him for being accepting and always hearing me out. He is a good husband. :