Originally Posted by Katie Bugs Mama
I agree that *ideally* the OP's DH needs to take a long hard look at his career path and his priorities. However, the world is not an ideal place. In her first post, the OP said that her husband would be *deployed* if he quit his job/training program. That suggests that he is affiliated with the military in some way and that he truly is not free to make major career changes at this time.
Is it that he'll be deployed if he quits
, or that he'll be deployed if he switches programs? I'm saying that part-time programs do exist.
If he's going to go on being a doctor -- and I'm assuming he is, it's next to impossible to pay back the money otherwise -- he'll need to finish his fellowship or residency before he can go into practice anyway, no? But I'm saying that he may be able to mommy-track himself, finish his training at a slower pace, and give the family the attention it needs.
He may not wind up with the high-flying career he'd dreamt of that way, and in the long run their income might be lower. But there's at least one person with serious trouble in that family, and given the fact that she's got neither her mother nor her father available, something's gotta give. Her parents both chose, one way or another, to be unavailable to her. It doesn't seem right (or effective) to ship her off and hope that this will solve the problem.