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post #1 of 23
Thread Starter 
2 children within 2-3 years of eachother, then a 3-4 year gap and 2 more children again 2-3 years apart. I figure, have 2, then have a little break, then have another 2. Hopefully they would still all be fairly close in their relationships with eachother, because the age gap wouldn't be that big even with me having a break inbetween....?

How did it work out for you?
post #2 of 23
I'm thinking about this actually. My kids are 3 years apart, DS was born in September 2004 and DD in September 2007. For a little while I thought I was done having kids but now I really feel like I'm not. I just see myself with more than 2 children. I'm pretty positive I don't want more children right away and since I'm only 24 I have a lot of time left for having babies. I'm thinking probably 5 or so years down the road DH and I will have 2 more that are hopefully about as close in age as the 2 we have now.
post #3 of 23
I'm considering that too. My boys are 22 mos apart, and I think when they're a bit older I'd like to have 2 more with the same space between them. Mostly it depends on our financial situation in a few years. I've got plenty of time - I'm 23, which means I technically could have another baby in 20 years - weird thought!!! I'd like to hear from mamas who have LOs spaced this way.
post #4 of 23
My grandparents did this and my MIL also did, though both with longer intervals between the sets of siblings.

My MIL had a son and a daughter about 15 months apart, then 5 or 6 years later two daughters 11 months apart, then dh and his twin 7 years later (unfortunately his twin didn't survive). They all have a fairly normal sibling relationship, though dh did feel left out by not having a near-age sibling. MIL's health just wasn't up to another pregnancy though and I think she made the right choice to stop after dh.

My grandparents had a son and a daughter 2 years apart. 10 years later they had a little "oops" who turned out to be my father. They wanted him to have a sibling close in age, so they had another son 2 years later. My dad and his siblings all have a good relationship, but you can tell that there is a special closeness between the members of the two sets. I see it more in them than in dh's siblings.

We've been considering doing this, too. We have a 14 year old (from a previous relationship), a 4 year old and an 18 month old. I'd like to have another in 3 or 4 years. Dh says if we do that, we should give that child another sibling closer in age so s/he won't feel left out. We'll see what happens.
post #5 of 23
We are thinking this way -- we have 3 close in age -- each is appr. 2 yrs apart. We are thinking of waiting until our last is 4 and then conceiving again -- she is almost 2 now. That would give me a little break because I've been pg/bfing for almost 7 yrs straight!
post #6 of 23
I like this idea
post #7 of 23
Thread Starter 
Originally Posted by Brown Lioness View Post
I like this idea
Yeah, it's just for me I sometimes think well 2 isn't many to have close together, what if they have such different personalities or they just don't get on for whatever reason, they won't have another sibling that close in age.

So then I think how about having 3 close together -like 2 year gaps between each, but then I think of the saying "3's a crowd" and there will always be 1 that gets "left out".

So then I wonder about having 4 close together, but that would be way too much for my sanity and body to handle, Im sure! So I go back to square one lol
post #8 of 23
I wanted to do things this way, I thought this would be perfect. It's not going to work out that way for us because we're not really in a position for #2 yet. So I'm thinking about going the other way around...have one, wait 4-5 years, then have a close set of two, then wait another 4-5 years and have a baby of the family.

But DH only wants MAYBE 2 total, so we'll see.
post #9 of 23
Yes! Things don't always work out as planned in the realm of family planning , but if I have my way, I'd like to have another "set" of two babies in maybe 5 years. (So far I have two daughters 3 years apart. I am 27.)

I'd like to have a larger family -- 4 has always seemed like the right number to me -- but I'd like to get started on graduate school before I jump into the baby zone again. I'd also like to spread out the baby-having over a longer stretch of time. I'm in no hurry to end this phase of my life.
post #10 of 23
I'm tentitively planning to do this. My girls are 4.5 and 2.5, and hopefully we'll get pregnant sometime this spring/summer/fall, which will make my youngest around 4 when we have our new baby. We'll decide if we can handle 4 later on! I really like the idea of having four kids, but we'll see.
post #11 of 23
My grandmother did something like this and liked it very much: two kids close together, break, two more kids close together, than an oops #5.
post #12 of 23
Well, we didn't exactly plan it this way, but ours are 14, 12, 4, and 2. They are girl, boy, girl, boy. I like it. I am a much better mom with the younger 2. The little ones LOVE having older siblings. The older ones get annoyed with the younger ones lately, but I think that's unavoidable. They are great helpers. I look at moms with 4 or more kids and they are all around 2 years apart and I am so glad I didn't do that. It looks like so much work! I liked having my break in between.
post #13 of 23
I have a 33 mo and a 5 mo, and I like this. I was plenty recovered and was able to nurse DS1 for a good long time.

Now we think we'll wait till ds2 is talking and using the potty before we get pg again. then we'll have 2 more.

My sibs and I were all 2 or less yrs apart.

I think my main motivation is for everone to get a year of good sleep before we attempt this again!
post #14 of 23
Its funny, I have 3, with almost that exact pattern, but none of mine were planned. Best 3 suprises ever! : I do want 1 or 2 more, but I'm waiting at leat 4-5 years, b/c Its just too much for me to have a 8 m/o completely dependenant on me, my 3 yo becoming more independant but still needs me for a lot, my 5 yo, is a big boy, but now w/ kindergarten hes got HW and I think he's kinda jealous of the baby, even though he's capable of doing a lot himself, he's acting like he needs me to wipe him when he goes #2, and brush his teeth, etc...having another in 2-3 yrs just wouldn't work for me.
Plus I'm closer w/ my sister who's 15 yrs older than me, than I am w/ my sis who's 3 yrs younger. I think alot depends on personalities...
post #15 of 23
we are doing this kinda. We are TTC now for our second (our first is 22 months). Then we are waiting for 4-5 years and having "the baby". We will probably stop after that one though. I think that three is our number.
post #16 of 23
We have somewhat loosely thought about this. We were pretty sure we would do this, but now that we are at the point where we either get pregnant and have a 3 year gap, like we do with DD and DS, or wait longer, we are having trouble deciding. I keep seeing both sides. I am sure we aren't done with 2, but I'm not quite ready for another pregnancy. After 6 years of being pregnant and/or nursing, it would be nice to have a break! I've got some weird work stuff coming up that will make early pregnancy awfully difficult, if I was to get PG in the next 4 or 5 months. And DD will already be 6 when we have a next, even if we get PG soon. I'm not sure now that I want a 7 or 8 year gap, that seems big! So... Yes, this was our plan but now, we aren't sure!
post #17 of 23
I'd like to do something like this. DD1 and DS are 14.5 months apart, then we took a 4.5 year break and then had DD2. I'd like another one closer to her (although not as close as the first two were!). I'd actually like more than four, but that's another story...
post #18 of 23
kinda... I do want to have 2 close together each time but I am doing it closer not 2-3 yrs (at least not on purpose) I wanted #1 & #2 to be like a yr apart maybe 2 and then wait 3 or 4 years and then have #3 & #4 within a yr or two. we will see how the plan goes.
post #19 of 23
i have 2 kids 18 months apart its a bit crazy but i think its easier and a ton more fun this way!

the hardest part is when you have the 18 month old and a newborn and then again when they are 3 and 4 oh the fighting is terrible
post #20 of 23
Originally Posted by sewcool View Post
the hardest part is when you have the 18 month old and a newborn and then again when they are 3 and 4 oh the fighting is terrible
You're right about that!
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