Hey all! So glad to see people experimenting with this
I am aiming for an orgasmic birth so DTD is way up there on my priorities, unless of course my water breaks, then we are switching to other forms of stimulation.
As your DDC resident sex educator, I have to say how important orgasm is and fequency of orgasm. In order to induce labor you should aim for 3-5 orgasms in a a day. Orgasm causes your Uterus to contract and can strengthen it for the big moment. If in prolonged arousal you will also produce Oxytocin which aids in opening the cervix. The orgasm doesn't have to be from intercourse, and there are lots of different types of orgasms to experiment with (clitoral, vaginal, g-spot, a-spot, uterine etc.), I find that clitoral orgasms produce the strongest contractions, but g-spot stimulation produces the most oxytocin.
Side note: I recently read an article from the 70's that talks about the psychosexual connection during the second stage of labor and how important it is in facilitating natural childbirth- facinating. It also talked about the waves of orgasm being very similar to waves of a uterine contraction.
The other important thing is the male fluids- the hormones in the fluids are 25-35% more effective than the artificial stuff they put on your cervix to soften it. You can take the fluids in in two ways for more effectiveness (oral/vaginal) (can I say that here?
Make sure that you are doing things that increase oxytocin. Oxytocin is your best friend, the love hormone and does so much to make us feel blissed out. Find things that give you "oxytocin rushes". For example, I like just lying in bed next to my partner and feeling how much love I have for him, with our skin touching. I also get rushes of oxytocin when kissing, being touched and having positive affimations whispered to me ("You are the sexiest pregnant woman ever!" "You are a glorious mother" "You are abundant beyond your wildest dreams.") It doesn't have to come from DTD if you aren't feeling up to it. Stay connected, gaze into each other's eyes, massage each other sensually, talk about how much you love each other and the miracle of creating a child together.
These are things I have been experimenting with during pregnancy. I have had BH since week 20 and have held off on really going for it until I reach full term which is this Friday. I can't wait. Although I think ultimately that the baby will come when it wants to come...but it will be fun to play and see what occurs!