His face was wrapped up in blankets!!! *update* - Page 3

[readytobedone]

Originally Posted by Lisa1970

I spread the pillows apart..leaving a 12 inch + space and put the baby there. If your pillows are too big, then buy smaller ones.

Good luck!!

yep. this is what we did when DD was small. we put her so her head was up between our two pillows. if you have a queen, that should be relative easy to do, i.e. the bed should be wide enough.

if you did that, even if some of the blankets were pretty high, they shouldn't get over his face. or, you can try a co-sleeper till babe gets a little older. once babe is older, you won't need to worry about this kind of thing because he'll be able to get covers and stuff off his face, all on his own, perfectly well.

also, i wanted to point out--you DID wake when he was covered up, and you rescued him, so from that standpoint it seems like you're doing fine. sometimes things happen, baby gets under a blanket or even rolls off the bed--you're alert enough to notice, and that's what really matters most. don't beat yourself up.

[MamasBoys]

Originally Posted by readytobedone

yep. this is what we did when DD was small. we put her so her head was up between our two pillows. if you have a queen, that should be relative easy to do, i.e. the bed should be wide enough.

This is what we have been doing, but when he wakes in the night to nurse and I pull him down to breast level, we fall asleep nursing and I haven't been waking up to scoot him back up top.

[bubbamummy]

I have a bedrail with the mesh...and love it.

Anyway, when DS was tiny (esp. when he was 1st born and I was literally delusional with tiredness...I woke up one morning 'looking for the after birth'...yeah..id lost it ) he slept in an 'arms reach co-sleeper' as soon as he could lift his head/roll etc I felt more confident that he could move if a cover went over his face. He usually sleeps between me and the bed rail and we have one duvet -no blankets that are easily 'rolled up'

[claddaghmom]

I like DD between us so DH and I have our own blankets. She is a human furnace and hates blankets anyway lol.

[MacKinnon]

Baby ONLY sleeps between me and the wall, pillows behind me w/my head on the edge, covers (comforter only) pulled up on an angle so they cover my hips but baby is left uncovered. We kept a space heater in our room so it was warmer then the rest of the house and baby was OK w/o covers. We are a co-sleeping family, our 2 and 5 year old co-sleep still, but I also provide safe sleep education in my 'day job' and the real dangerous of suffucation do worry me. Consequently, we are very careful to keep all covers and pillows away from the baby, to not have cracks or gaps where baby could get trapped, and to not have baby sleep next to Daddy, who is just not as aware of where baby is as Mama. Co-sleeping is great, but you do need to be careful!

[confustication]

Ditch the sheet, use just the comforter, and I find that baby is safer beside jus me, not between us.

The great thing about cosleeping is that you DO tune in when there's something up. Good job.

[reikimama]

We have 1 large comforter, but I basically "give" that to DH at night & have a cotton woven twin size blanket on me. None of our three kids has ever liked covers, so they kick them off when the co-sleep. (Not that it helps with a little 13 week old) Also, we pull our pillows really far apart & I sleep on the edge of mine. When DS is in the middle, I hook my arm around his head & body to keep things off of him.

[milkybean]

Whoa whoa whoa...hold on!

No one has said this yet?

"I awoke to my 13 week old baby struggling and fussing. He normally sleeps between us and his face was completely wrapped up in sheet and blankets. Terrifying!!!!

How do I make co-sleeping safe for us?"


"I awoke". You woke up. Your baby struggled and you woke up.

You guys are safe. You're OK. You were there. You woke up b/c you heard your baby moving around.

This is the absolute beauty of having a family bed. You're there, even while sleeping, to help your child.

This isn't a terrifying moment, this is a moment to think "my baby is mature enough to move enough to get my attention, and I am aware enough to wake for my baby".

When my guy could move like that, I rejoiced, and dropped what few safety things we were doing, and we were only doing them b/c I was drugged after major abdominal surgery.

[chipper26]

Originally Posted by MamasBoys

These ideas are all very sexy. LOL!

My co-sleeping pjs really turn my husband on, especially the cut-off thermal underwear top!

[provocativa]

we sleep naked, with the heat on, and with heavy but open weave cotton blankets that one can breathe through. we have also done the thick, light, stiff comforter (wouldn't conform to baby's face.

when my first was brand new, I slept with her right in front of my face, I was so worried. . . I wake up every time, for every kid.

[Limabean1975]

Originally Posted by milkybean

Whoa whoa whoa...hold on!

No one has said this yet?

"I awoke to my 13 week old baby struggling and fussing. He normally sleeps between us and his face was completely wrapped up in sheet and blankets. Terrifying!!!!

How do I make co-sleeping safe for us?"


"I awoke". You woke up. Your baby struggled and you woke up.

You guys are safe. You're OK. You were there. You woke up b/c you heard your baby moving around.

This is the absolute beauty of having a family bed. You're there, even while sleeping, to help your child.

This isn't a terrifying moment, this is a moment to think "my baby is mature enough to move enough to get my attention, and I am aware enough to wake for my baby".

I said the same stuff upthread. Though I think the OP will be getting more restful sleep if she puts in place a few of the suggestions here so she can really relax.

[gromero]

http://familysleeper.com/

I wanted to get one with ds, but we never got around to it...heck, lol, I still want to get one!

[ILovePie]

I have always used a pillow - DS was always down by my breast, so nowhere near the pillow.

Pull covers up to your waist, DH sleeps lower on bed than you. I've had baby between me and guardrail OR in the middle but CLOSER to me - never nearer to DH because men and non-lactating women do not have the same sensitivity to the baby's movements/presence/etc.

I wear long sleeves to bed - I like flannel shirts. I can pull them over me like a blanket if I'm cold, or just let them be a little open if I want a little more air. In the summer I slept with a t-shirt on and just lifted it.

[flowers]

I'm at all the images of ya'll with shirts cut so your boobs can stick out! !

Originally Posted by aurora_skys

Get ridof that top sheet! Its thin, sticks close to the skin and face, and as you have learned baby can get wrapped in it easily!! Just sleep with a warm comforter. I find that a stiffer one works well for us because baby just pushes it away from his face and it stays where he pushes it.

This works for us. That extra topsheet only gets tangles and one big comforter is much easier to maneuver. Dh sleeps with ds1 and their blankets and I'm with baby. He sleeps between me and the bed rail. I used to put him up next to my pillow and then bring him down to nurse. I wear turtle necks to sleep so when he comes down to nurse I can keep the covers lower. That is a bit of a sacrifice for me b/c i love covers up to my chin.

Also, I agree w/ the pp, that you will wake up to help your baby. This is a great wakeup call for you to make things safer, but move forward with confidence and try not to be too worried!

[nycmom18]

put babe over the sheet or covers and yes, take all pillows away. it's actually better for your spine anyway imo. also, our 9 month just got very active, so we've decided to lower mattress to floor, and i think the against the wall idea is best, we're trying to configure our room so we can do that too. better safe than sorry!

[~savah~]

I was thinking about this thread last night and a thought occurred to me. Since the incident happened after you brought your LO down to nurse and fell asleep before putting him back up at the head of your bed, I was thinking maybe you could move the blankets down when you bring him down to nurse. This way if you do fall asleep there will be nothing for him to get tangled in. Chances are you wont sleep that long since you need the comfort of you blankets at that point you can move him back up along with the blankets. GL with everything, Alicia

As an aside for those interested in the Tres Tria we have one and love it.

[readytobedone]

Originally Posted by milkybean

Whoa whoa whoa...hold on!

No one has said this yet?

"I awoke to my 13 week old baby struggling and fussing. He normally sleeps between us and his face was completely wrapped up in sheet and blankets. Terrifying!!!!

How do I make co-sleeping safe for us?"


"I awoke". You woke up. Your baby struggled and you woke up.

You guys are safe. You're OK. You were there. You woke up b/c you heard your baby moving around.

This is the absolute beauty of having a family bed. You're there, even while sleeping, to help your child.

This isn't a terrifying moment, this is a moment to think "my baby is mature enough to move enough to get my attention, and I am aware enough to wake for my baby".

When my guy could move like that, I rejoiced, and dropped what few safety things we were doing, and we were only doing them b/c I was drugged after major abdominal surgery.

i said that

more or less anyway...

completely agree with you; the aim with co-sleeping is not to have nothing go wrong, ever, but to know that you can, will, and do respond when it does. wherever baby sleeps, something will go wrong (arm through crib slat; spit up and lie in it; whatever!). but with co-sleeping, the odds are soooo much better that mama will catch the problem.