Kathymuggle, I've been reading through this thread. You seem to be feeling 'put on the spot,' but it really isn't you personally being questioned, nor is it likely that anyone here could care any less about what is popular. Most gifties have a high need for precision. This means that especially in this forum, whatever you post is going to be nit-picked until you are expressing/others are understanding precisely the principles and ideas you intend. It may take a while, and some argumentation before everyone is clear on what the idea/principle is that we're discussing, but you can be reasonably assured that unclear or ambiguous ideas will be fleshed out to their core here. This is why the posts here tend to be long, as do the threads.
There is also the reality that even though we may express ourselves as concisely as possible, because of the variety of experience represented here, there may still be much discussion for clarification. I don't doubt the same might happen with this post. It's not comprehensive, so there's lots of room to clarify. I won't take that personally, but I will enjoy the opportunity to learn what others think and how we can share our experiences; we all benefit from this process.
For example: If you said that you think that the circle is the best shape in a room with 50 people listening, there would be a barrage of questions and comments requesting clarification of more sorts than each individual's experiences may be able to consider initially. That is what happens here. Unlike some other forums on MDC, though, there is very, very little personal evaluation or elitism here.
I hope you'll have a re-read of the responses you received and realise that (before the under/overestimation comments, possibly emotionally triggered) there was a real discussion happening, requests for clarification, experiences shared (vulnerability to you by the posters, showing willingness to engage you and your ideas, even if there is disagreement), requests for you to evaluate your ideas and conclusions while considering what might be new information to you (we're all learning all the time), and what seems to me to be genuine desire for mutual understanding. I think that the direction of the discussion with your participation remains potentially fruitful and certainly worthwhile pursuing.
I think most if not all of the mums who post here do so for many reasons, one of which being a desire to work out what we're dealing with in our own lives, the definition of education, learning, philosophical and practical conclusions or options for what we're trying or have decided for our own families, etc... I think the only thing we all usually agree upon is that there simply isn't one way to do anything that suits every child, and with gifties and their typical intensities in the mix, this becomes an even more pressing issue with faster and sometimes further-reaching results than most families experience with neuro-typical children. That's why we have a forum.
Nobody here nit-picks to show off. We've all been accused of that our whole lives, and for some (certainly me), this is the only place where I am reasonably safe from that accusation. I hope it can stay that way and that at the same time, you can feel safe to work through/express whatever interests you here too.