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Mama, next to your child being seriously ill, this is possibly the next worse thing that a mother could go through. You are in an absolutely heartbreaking situation and i feel so bad for you. I just couldnt read this thread an not offer my support.
I think you have done the right thing without a shadow of doubt. You must be going through so many emotions at the moment, and Im sure that it must be so hard to accept that someone you have been in a relationship with for 9 years is a sexually molesting a child least of all your own together!
But ignorance is not bliss in this case. You have to protect the safety of your child your unborn child and you have taken the first steps in doing so.
If your partner is innocent, anger should not really be an emotion he should be having. Sadness, bewilderment, devastation, yes. but not anger.
I think you believe your son, I think you dont want to believe any of this but I think deep down you do even if your partner has never showed any signs of being this way.
My BF was raped by her Father from age 7 to 14 (when it all came out) Her mother swore she had no idea and my BF believes her. Her mom kicked her dad out straight away but my BF often says she wishes she had told her mother years ago so it would have stopped. There was no question in her mind that her mother would have stopped it. Because as children thats what we believe, that our mothers will protect us and stop any bad things from happening to us. My BF is wonderful now, she has a beautiful home, happily married to a great guy and 2 gorgeous kids. But I truly believe that when she told her mom, if her mom did nothing, she would have been all kinds of messed up right now.
Can you imagine not doing anything about it now and your son coming to you in a few years and telling you again. and resenting you for not believing him. you would never forgive yourself.
You had no options here, there is nothing else you coul have done.
When it comes to sexual abuse there is no halfway, you can either ignore it or you report it. You did the right thing!!!!