painefaria- i realized i was being harsh on myself too. like, even though my shipping wasn't budgeted for exactly, i could still be okay with it if it came out of my spending money. plus, some things aren't budgeted for but they aren't really wanton spending, like your cat meds, or my cod liver oil 
here's what i'm anticipating for expenses:
honey 164.40,
tierra farms 207.00
clothes 35.00
total= 406.14
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so, goals for me:
$600 for food this month!
$60 spending money- $100 birthday money
$100 saved for grain mill
21/31 no spend days
10/31 budgeted spending
non-budgeted spending
29/31 get outside days (i know this has nothing to do with money but it's needed)
:
27-
:
28-
:
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1-
:
2-
:
3- 8.13 postage
4-
:
5-
30 dr. appt, 217.88 grocery shopping, 36.32 gas, 10 diapers, 24.95 co-op chocolate
(comes out of budgeted spending money)
:
6-
:
7- 10 postage
(budgeted spending money)
:
8-
9- 8.13 postage
205 utilities
14.86 shipping for co-op 
:
10-
:
11-
:
12- 100 mtn rose herbs (bday money)
, 59.91 mtn rose herbs (grocery) 
:
13- 21.62 shipping
:
14-
: 
15- 18.75 bathrobe
125.00 dehydrator (b-day money)
16- 18.25 post office sundry
338.60 groceries 
:
17- 85.88 clo on sale sundry
:
18-
:
19-
20-
9/21 no spend days
8/10 budgeted spend
2/ 0 unbudgeted spend
616.39/600 grocery
87.69/60 spending money
225/190 birthday money all gone
15/29 exercise
0 /200 pantry stocking
122.88/80 sundry
here's what i'm anticipating for expenses:
honey 164.40,
tierra farms 207.00
clothes 35.00
total= 406.14
-------------------------
so, goals for me:
$600 for food this month!
$60 spending money- $100 birthday money
$100 saved for grain mill
21/31 no spend days

10/31 budgeted spending

non-budgeted spending

29/31 get outside days (i know this has nothing to do with money but it's needed)
:27-

:28-

:-----
1-

:2-

:3- 8.13 postage

4-

:5-
30 dr. appt, 217.88 grocery shopping, 36.32 gas, 10 diapers, 24.95 co-op chocolate
(comes out of budgeted spending money)
:6-

:7- 10 postage
(budgeted spending money)
:8-

9- 8.13 postage
205 utilities
14.86 shipping for co-op 
:10-

:11-

:12- 100 mtn rose herbs (bday money)
, 59.91 mtn rose herbs (grocery) 
:13- 21.62 shipping

:14-
: 
15- 18.75 bathrobe
125.00 dehydrator (b-day money)
16- 18.25 post office sundry
338.60 groceries 
:17- 85.88 clo on sale sundry

:18-

:19-
20-
9/21 no spend days
8/10 budgeted spend
2/ 0 unbudgeted spend
616.39/600 grocery
87.69/60 spending money
225/190 birthday money all gone

15/29 exercise
0 /200 pantry stocking
122.88/80 sundry




: $3.50
$3 (3)coloring books $7.50 music book $2.50 drinks $60 wireless router $25.50 eating out $65 DH's game
$6 pretzel & drink $10 eating out
: 0/300 Savings
: $215
)
= necessary/budgeted spending

: $22
:
$14 dh took the kids to a movie
:
: $26 groceries I didn't need to get this month
: $1.25 choc.milk for ds at CM
:1/10 Library Days
:2/7 update blogs (months behind)

Unnecessary Spending
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