Originally Posted by xelakann
I love reading positive hospital birth stories. Thank you for sharing yours. I feel like "good" birthing hospitals are regional. In Portland I know several women who had great birthing experiences in the hospital. And I know two OB's who use and recommend hypnobirthing methods and who have both had med-free births themselves.
A lot women here feel like hospitals are for sick people and not a place for births. For me I just love the care I get from a midwife and I loved birthing in the water.
Homebirths are in a big minority and a lot of women come here for reassurance and acceptance about their choice. But I can see how things can get one-sided and like I said before it is helpful for me to hear the positive hospital birth stories too.
Originally Posted by Viola
I think people can have good experiences in both places, but your experience doesn't negate a home birthing mother's, and a home birthing mother's experience doesn't negate yours.
OP, I admire the honesty of your question. I too have had both hospital and home birth experiences and have been exceptionally fortunate to have had beautiful experiences in both places. What I like about MDC is that here, I feel I can talk about homebirth without either having to defend my choices, or to find myself advocating it. I find when I discuss homebirth in a more mainstream environment, I am put on the defensive and as odd as this might sound, I even sometimes feel guilty talking about my positive birth, if someone else has had a negative experience, whatever the location.
I truly believe that each woman should give birth in the place where she feels most empowered and supported, whether that location is in hospital, at home with her midwife or by herself in a cabin. I believe that when I say that I had a hospital birth, that does not mean that someone who chooses HB or UC is wrong. I believe that when I HB, that does not mean someone should not go to hospital or UC.
Perhaps it is easy for me to maintain such a neutral position as I have only personal experience to go on. But I try to listen and empathise which each person's choices.
One thing I do find, is that we are not usually given all the facts when we first fall pregnant and that aspect bothers me. I think that is where I might sound more like an advocate for homebirth and homeopathics etc etc because when I first fell pregnant I did not consider any other options than mainstream ones. While I claim full responsibility for my own lack of knowledge, I do feel that during our prenatal care it would be nice to be told that there are alternative options, to be encouraged to explore all birthing choices so that we can truly make an informed choice. I feel like some people have had interventions thrust onto them under false pretenses and it makes it hard to develop a trusting relationship with your care giver. I moved to HB because I moved to a country that had very different views toward birth and I felt they were lying to me. I wanted to know that if my MW/OB said your baby is in distress and you need a c section now, that I would not hesitate for a minute. With my OB back home she was so supportive of genuine natural vaginal birth and not intervening that if she had said this is not right, I would absolutely believe her. Unfortunately, nowadays many hospitals use the " your baby is in distress" line as a power play and I would not know when there was a genuine threat.
Having had a HB I loved, I now can't imagine birthing elsewhere, but that does not make my hospital births any less magical.