When are you going to tell people?

[BellyBean]

DH and I are trying to decide when we should tell family (they would all be SO EXCITED) and when we should tell friends.

Any thought? What are your plans?

[frogautumn]

DH & I have sworn to each other that we're going to wait until Mother's Day (but maybe that's a little TOO late considering we'll be near 15 weeks).

With DS #1, everyone found out at 7 weeks (we were at a family beach house and everyone figured it out when I was taking 3hr naps!). 7 weeks was way too early...

[sahmama_12]

We're telling some family already but some we're not. We've had 5 miscarriages 2 alone since my youngest was born almost a year ago, so some people act like "we'll see" and that attitude bugs me. So depends on the person. I've told my mom and my grandmother and will probably tell me MIL and FIL tommorrow.
DH and I are excited!!

[Lovely]

I told my parents and sister the day I got a BFP. A few other random people know, for various reasons. We're officially announcing on Monday, when I'll be 6 weeks. We, including my mom, are having a hard time keeping it a secret, people just keep guessing!

[myvspace]

Originally Posted by frogautumn

DH & I have sworn to each other that we're going to wait until Mother's Day (but maybe that's a little TOO late considering we'll be near 15 weeks).

Us too! Well, actually we'll probably tell my side of the family earlier than that, but we're waiting to tell DH's family until then. You see, it will be their first grandchild since DH's SIL lost their baby right before she was supposed to make her debut. So we'd like to at least get through most of the first trimester before getting them super duper excited and to have a tad more assurance that this will be a healthy pregnancy.

[NoraFlood]

I'm going to tell my immediate family in the next few days, I think, and then let them spread the word to extended family members (none of whom I am close to anyway). I will probably tell most of my friends pretty soon. For work, I would really like to wait until the second trimester, but I doubt that's going to happen. I will probably tell them around 8 weeks, or when I see the heartbeat, whichever comes first.

[southernmommie]

I'm not near enough to any of our family so I don't have to worry about them finding out too early. We're actually not telling some of them until after 2nd trimester. This is our 4th baby and they are not going to be thrilled for us, so we're delaying telling them. Our friends we have already started telling. We see them almost everyday. We are not telling everyone, minus the family, until a couple of weeks from now. We want to wait until I'm a little further along. Not quite at 3 weeks when I first found out. Lol. I'm only about 5 weeks now. That is a little too soon.

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by Lovely

I told my parents and sister the day I got a BFP. A few other random people know, for various reasons.

: My close family and friends already know. I'll tell work when I puke uncontrollably or start showing, which ever is more appropriate.

[MommyMad]

We have plans of sharing after 8+ weeks when everything appears to be going OK.

[BelovedK]

I am dying to tell everyone NOW !! , but am going to try to restrain myself. I will probably wait until well into the 1st trimester (almost 2nd) to tell family.

[minsca]

My bff and my inlaw's know right now. Oh and a good friend from Germany that contacted me for the first time in years minutes after I received my BFP. I'm too excited to not tell people, and people know soon anyways. (the puking usually is a good clue for my family). I would like to wait till the 2nd trimester, but I know that isn't going to happen. But this time I am really going to try to hold off in telling people.

[deny_zoo29]

We've told a few people (my mom, my partner's mum, a couple very close friends) that's about it as we're not too far along and don't want to "jinx" anything. But what I am trying to figure out is when and how to tell my boss, on one hand she'll be happy for me and then when she realizes that I will be on maternity leave during our busiest time of year she'll probably be....not so happy! :-)

[IamPink]

Well everyone knew the exact time & day that I was going in for the transfer of embryos.
However, if I may, I'll tell you how I told the Mom...

I started getting positives last Monday. They were the kind of positives that only other surrogates, or long-time ttc'ers, could see. I poas everytime that I peed (I held it and only went every 3 hours). On Tuesday afternoon I knew the tests were dark enough to email to the parents. She didn't know that I was poas and she thought it was wayyyy too early to see anything anyway.
So, I called IM (wanted her to be able to tell IF in her own special way, just like if she was the one pregnant) and I told her I had written her a poem.
roses are red
violets are blue
when I look at the lines on the tests
I see TWO!!
She almost passed out! We're talking could not breathe and had to keep putting the phone down just to take deep breaths!
Thank goodness I had the foresight to put the camcorder on and had her on speakerphone... I recorded it all!! I am so grateful, as is she, that I thought of that!

Sorry, had to share!

[BelovedK]

That's really sweet

[rrs]

IamPink, that is so sweet.

I've got a big mouth. I've been telling people since Saturday!

[Lovely]

Okay, I think the whole world knows now I just announced it via my blog, Facebook, and MDC. I think I've got it covered.

Besides, it would be kinda hard to hide this nauseous state I am in...

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by Lovely

Okay, I think the whole world knows now I just announced it via my blog, Facebook, and MDC. I think I've got it covered.

Besides, it would be kinda hard to hide this nauseous state I am in...

I tried keeping mine a secret (except for family and close friends) but my sis's best friend told me congrats on FB and I'm not sure if anybody read it before I deleted it. Hopefully no one read it, because I have work friends on FB and I don't want them to find out yet!

[Shell_Ell]

I've already told a bunch of friends and family. I called a few friends the day we found out because I needed help processing it. I plan on waiting a bit yet before we go public. It's killing me not to post it on Facebook, but a lot of colleagues (and clients!) are on there and I think it would be good to wait a bit.

With my first pregnancy we only told the necessary people and then told the world after we heard the heartbeat. The second, we told everyone within the first few weeks.

[Shell_Ell]

Originally Posted by ShwarmaQueen

I tried keeping mine a secret (except for family and close friends) but my sis's best friend told me congrats on FB and I'm not sure if anybody read it before I deleted it. Hopefully no one read it, because I have work friends on FB and I don't want them to find out yet!

My husband posted it on his status the next day!

I'm waiting for someone to do exactly what you described. But I have to admit I'm having fun trying to come up with a witty way to announce it.

[Shanti_Mom]

Well, I just took the HPT tonight. So far I've emailed the midwife, told my DH and phoned one of my best friends in CA. I'll probably tell at least one of my other best friends here so I don't burst with all the emotion. I was doula for her with her homebirth on Thanksgiving day last year, and I would want her to be mine. Other than that, I want to keep it a secret for a few more weeks, hopefully until 10 weeks when we can hear a HB. Last time I was PG and told my children the day I found out, it was VERY hard on my middle DD to have it end in a m/c. She still talks about it. So I really want to make sure this one is viable. It will be hard to hide though...I've had three other full term pregnancies and I'm short....so I'll probably start poking out sooner rather than later.

We have other family in town that we don't see often, and everyone else is out of town. I feel guilty hiding it from my sisters though, so I may have to tell them.