Originally Posted by Sudonk
Why not? How is that different from asking the staff to make an exception in her case to not give the routine IV, or "allow" her to push in a kneeling or other position
I'm having trouble articulating this concept this evening. Have you ever heard the phrase, "Your right to swing your fist stops at my face?" YOU have the right to do what you want, unless it will hurt ME. Likewise, *I* as a birthing woman have a right to have control over my body... to decline an IV, to push in whatever position I want. These are things that pertain to MY body and I have a right to ask a hospital to agree to these conditions of my birth.
However, the words that come out of the nurses mouth's? I don't
feel I have much of a right to ask to control that. THEY have the right to communicate verbally with the terms they typically use to communicate verbally.
I'm not saying I don't think a woman should
ask this. Just saying, the analogy is flawed - it is nothing like asking for no IV. And I will say I think it's acceptable to ask nurses to not offer pain meds - don't bring it up unless the patient asks. I had that in my birth plan.
|Why shouldn't those of us who are truly focused on helping women have the best birth they possibly can be supportive of those who are helped by positive language, or even specific words? I'm just not sure why so many people fight against something that is so helpful to many women.
I know you weren't asking me, but I think the point was that the refusal to use the word "pain" just makes labor even worse
for a woman if she does
end up feeling some pain. As I wrote with regards to breastfeeding, feeling like you are a failure & a freak because you're feeling pain when you're told you should
not be just makes the experience that much miserable.
That is not to say that womenshould expect
pain - but there is quite a world of difference between telling women, "You will be in pain in order to birth your baby." (I agree, that's awful!) and telling women they must refuse to acknowledge even the possibilty that birth may involve pain. I dont' see how either extreme is helpful.
As for me, "contraction" is a physiological term - nothing more.
As a certified personal trainer & fitness instructor, I had to learn about the various types of skeletal musclar contractions (isometric, isotonic, etc.) So it has no negative associations for me.