Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~
I do not see a house as a need. I see a house as a luxury. I think a roof over your head and a home are a need, but I don't think that must be an actual house for the need to be fulfilled.
Socks, I see you are saying the same thing regarding some kind of home, I am just quoting you because it's a clear sentence to make my point that a roof is necessary; an actual house I see as a luxury.
Hm, I see. So as the CP, my son and I should be content renting a small apartment in a less than stellar area of town, or maybe a small run-down trailer in a park, while my ex is living in a 2500 sf, 3 story house. His house (the marital home) has 3 bedrooms/2 baths, a wrap-around deck, covered porch, hot tub, seperate 2 car garage, on 5 private acres in the woods.
I consider all of those amenities luxuries. Obviously, I am not expecting to have such posh living arrangements. Nor am I saying that I can afford to run out and buy a house, even with c/s. An apartment is what I will have, and it will be a small one. And it probably wont be in the nicest area of town.
However, I need c/s to do even that right now. I've been a SAHM, and out of the workforce for 2 years now. The job market is crap right now. Its very hard for me to find work that will fit w/my son's childcare needs. I cant afford childcare as it is (c/s would help there, too).
You dont feel that my son's father is at least partially responsible for providing monetary support so that our son can enjoy BOTH homes as safe, comfortable homes that meet basic needs? And why is it any different to pay a mortgage payment for a house w/child support, then rent?
Rent in my targeted area is insane (its a college town). A mortgage payment would be about the same. And yet a house is a luxury?