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post #21 of 46
Yep and he's 4.
post #22 of 46
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Originally Posted by luvmi2kids View Post
Nope not me.. But we do have 2 children that is the Failed Withdraw Method, when we failed to do so we had a baby every time.. But we have been using this Method about 9 years with No Babies.. while Using the Method Correctly!!! And we have Sex as much as we want during the fertile times in my cycle!! So It is All good here.
Same here- we've been using "pull and pray" (I also chart so I know when its super important for him to "pull") for about 6 years and never got preggo until he didn't pull out. I think the hard part about this method is that naturally, the guy has this primal urge to not pull out and I know I get this strange urge to tell him not to sometimes when I'm fertile.

But I don't know what else to do until I'm ready for no more kids and one of us gets fixed because condoms irritate my skin and he hates them anyway and hormonal birth control makes me a total lunatic. I don't see how anyone who charts actually doesn't have sex during the fertile period- that's like the only time I really WANT to have sex!
post #23 of 46
Nope.

Wish I did though because now I am almost into month 5 of ttc.

Withdrawal has worked effectively for us for the past 2 years that we have been using it exclusively. DH was EXTREMELY good with compliance, sometimes too good. Sometimes it frustrated me that he never did get *carried away*.
post #24 of 46
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ISupposedly the pre-ejaculate doesn't contain sperm by itself, so if you make sure your partner's urethra is, uh, washed out before you have sex and there's no semen on his penis then there shouldn't be any danger of pregnancy if you can count on him pulling out in time. BUT as we all know mother nature doesn't work like a machine - that is, there can very well be sperm where there isn't "supposed" to be any. Or maybe it varies by person, since everyone's body is a little different. Or maybe it even varies by occasion.
Yes, this first part is what I have read too, so theoretically withdrawal should work even during fertile times IF partner pulls out in plenty of time. If he hesitates, well, that's a different story.

I was just coming here to ask a very similar question...I had not been charting because my periods had been so regular, like clockwork, and I could tell when they were coming, etc. We have used withdrawal only for a long time with no pregnancies. This month, I lost some weight very quickly, and then I gained it all back very quickly (like in a week). One other time that I lost weight below a certain weight, my periods stopped, for several months, and only started again when I gained the weight back. Is it possible I just messed with my cycle? How can I tell where I am now in my cycle? I have a lot of very clear discharge, but it's not sticky, egg white, or anything like that. It's just very clear. And I took three pregnancy tests and they were all negative. I am about 4-5 days late. With both previous pregnancies, I got a positive test right away. I just want to know!
post #25 of 46
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Originally Posted by LoveChild421 View Post
Same here- we've been using "pull and pray" (I also chart so I know when its super important for him to "pull") for about 6 years and never got preggo until he didn't pull out. I think the hard part about this method is that naturally, the guy has this primal urge to not pull out and I know I get this strange urge to tell him not to sometimes when I'm fertile.

But I don't know what else to do until I'm ready for no more kids and one of us gets fixed because condoms irritate my skin and he hates them anyway and hormonal birth control makes me a total lunatic. I don't see how anyone who charts actually doesn't have sex during the fertile period- that's like the only time I really WANT to have sex!
You should try a diaphragm. Mine is made of silicone and doesn't irritate me at all. I don't have any problem with the spermicide, but you would have to try it for yourself.
post #26 of 46
Have been using it for 9 yrs and have had no baby because of the Method but when we have not used it that is when we had babies~~ have 2 but my husband is bent on NO more babies so he is a Pro and he knows that if he Ooopses then that means BABY... I leave that to him!
POM is the Bom!! Love it!
post #27 of 46
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You should try a diaphragm. Mine is made of silicone and doesn't irritate me at all. I don't have any problem with the spermicide, but you would have to try it for yourself.
That's what my midwife suggested for me, but I'm afraid to try it because I have really short fingers and I guess a long vagina because I can't get up in there to touch my cervix. I am so paranoid I wouldn't be able to get it positioned correctly or wouldn't be able to get it out once I got it up in there.
post #28 of 46
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Originally Posted by ursusarctos View Post
It's strange, it seems that withdrawal works very well for some (such as a PP) but not so well for others... Supposedly the pre-ejaculate doesn't contain sperm by itself, so if you make sure your partner's urethra is, uh, washed out before you have sex and there's no semen on his penis then there shouldn't be any danger of pregnancy if you can count on him pulling out in time. BUT as we all know mother nature doesn't work like a machine - that is, there can very well be sperm where there isn't "supposed" to be any. Or maybe it varies by person, since everyone's body is a little different. Or maybe it even varies by occasion.
hmmmmm. I was under the impression from my FAM class (admittedly five years ago) that the pre-ejaculate DOES contain sperm. This was why the instructor said this is a completely unreliable birth control. I am sure it would reduce your chances though. Does anyone else know?
post #29 of 46
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hmmmmm. I was under the impression from my FAM class (admittedly five years ago) that the pre-ejaculate DOES contain sperm. This was why the instructor said this is a completely unreliable birth control. I am sure it would reduce your chances though. Does anyone else know?
Yeah, I used to think this too, but I couldn't find any research to back it up. The only thing I could find said that it does not contain sperm. Let me see if I can find it and I'll post back.
post #30 of 46
Here's a link just talking about the study. I'll see if I can find the actual research. My understanding is that the pre-ejaculate can contain sperm if the man has recently ejaculated and has not urinated and wiped the tip of his penis in between. But if it has been a while since he last ejaculated, and he has urinated, then there will not be sperm in the pre-ejaculate. I think they need to say that it "can" have sperm, because yes, it can, but it is not the actual fluid that contains it, it would theoretically be residual sperm.

I will look some more.
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post #32 of 46
Dp is pretty good at getting out of dodge at the right time. Although I have been known to call it the "pull out and pray method"
It has been working for us for 6 years.
post #33 of 46
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Originally Posted by LoveChild421 View Post
I get this strange urge to tell him not to (pull out) sometimes when I'm fertile.

I don't see how anyone who charts actually doesn't have sex during the fertile period- that's like the only time I really WANT to have sex!
ditto for me.
post #34 of 46
DH and I have used the withdrawal method for the better part of 10 years (along with the occassional condom and a 6-month stent with depro provera. No LOs yet. I think it's really worked for us because DH is the one who knows he's not been ready for children until now. Secretly, though, I've kinda wanted the method to fail,since we've gotten married, but it hasn't...yet! It doesn't matter though because we are going to start trying in August!:
post #35 of 46
Withdraw is not a good idea if you are seriously trying not to conceive. Pre ejac does contain sperm I believe.
post #36 of 46
My oldest was withdrawl. Oh and we used a condom and I was on depo. Oh yea also it was 2 days after I got off my AF. I guess it was meant...lol
post #37 of 46
We have one My DH actuly bought a maternity shirt from Spencers thatsaid "proof the withdrawl method doesnt work" and gave it to me - but I never left the house in it we never considered our surprize an accident and I didnt want ppl to think that
post #38 of 46
IMO, withdrawal can be very successful depending on the couple...

For DH and I, we have used it for nearly 9 years now, and have not had an "accidental pregnancy". My DS wasn't exactly planned, but on the night of Dec. 17, 2003, I knew they're was a good possibility I'd become pregnant, because DH decided he didn't feel like pulling out

My main complaint with withdrawal is reaching my own satisfaction! (If you get what I'm saying ) It seems like DH always has to pull out right when... Yeah. That's always frustrating

I see another "unplanned" pregnancy in our future because of the above! I guess that's how we'll plan our children
post #39 of 46
i got my period back when dd was 11 months and have been using the withdrawal method ever since (so it's worked for almost a year).

after reading this thread though, i am so buying condoms in bulk next time i'm at costco

btw, poster above me: great taste! (look at our siggies)
post #40 of 46
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btw, poster above me: great taste! (look at our siggies)
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