DSS got caught smoking pot

[Erin082]

and I am feeling sort of guilty about grounding him . . . his dad did it . . . it seems sort of hypocritical, since df had a drug problem, no secret there. As for me, I dont see it as a HUGE deal. The kid is 15, not a pothead by any means. His dad took him to a NA meeting so he could see what abuse leads to. That seems sufficient to me. I dont know. He was caught once before, and his dad had a talk with him about making good choices and staying away from trouble. He wasn't punished at that point, but told to be responsible for staying away from it his self. Now he hasn't done that and isnt allowed to leav e the house unsupervised . . . is it me, or is that a bit excessive? He wouldn't hhave gotten in near the tropuble for drinking . . . I'm usually the strict one too. What do you all think?

[Oriole]

I think it depends on personal perspective. In this house, pot is not okay. Both adults drink in moderation and have never smoked, or did any kind of drugs. If dsd was caught smoking pot - there would be serious consequences. Rules would tighten up by a lot, and certain freedoms would have to be regained gradually.

That being said, I understand all kinds of views on the issue, and I think the approach will/should vary based upon the kid, their behavior outside the incident, and general dynamics of the family.

[MusicianDad]

I certianly think that educating him about addiction is important. I can't really see how grounding him is going to change his mind about moderate use. I'd be more worried about where he gets the pot then the fact that he's actually smoking it.