I have got to get this off my chest. Please hear me out.
We just got back from what was supposed to be a wonderful evening. My husband's movie was being screened at a local film festival and it was going to be a blast- until her.
So the movie hadn't started yet, and my baby was hungry. I nor my baby likes to be covered up. As soon as I latched him on, my husband's friend's sister in law (whom I'd never met and who ALSO has a 4 month old baby) came running up to me and said, "HERE- use this to cover up" while a nursing cover was shoved onto me.
Trying to be as polite as I knew how and even smiling, I said, "No thank you, I don't cover up"
She was furious and said "Well then I'll have to make sure my husband and father don't see you!"
First off, I was too shocked to say anything and my whole family was around- it was very awkward for me. Oddly enough, no one saw- they were having their own conversations.
Later on out in the hallway I had to take my toddler out because he was full of energy he needed to burn off. She came out there too. I mentioned something about her diaper bag to get a conversation going because I'm a coward and can't just be straightforward
She began warming up to me a bit and after talking about diapers and changing rooms, she said, "I'm sorry if I offended you in there but I HAD to make sure my husband didn't see you all exposed"
My stupid, lame, ridiculous cowardly reply was, "I'm used to people asking me to cover up, and I don't".
What the heck kind of reply was that? What I really wanted to say was, "I feel SO sorry for your husband that he thinks breasts are only sexual! Breastfeeding is not obsene and yes you were rude for giving me your nursing cover. If I had wanted to cover up, I would have brought my own, thank you very much"
Oh, and I was literally trembling with anger and nerveousness. I have never been in a situation like this and it terrified me for some reason. I was more timid tonight than any other time.
I feel like a failure. I was too scared to stand up for myself, which is usually so unlike me. How are people going to realize that breastfeeding shouldn't have to be covered up if I won't even stand up for myself????
I even saw her several times later that evening. I could have admitted to her that yes, I WAS offended that she shoved her gross cover on me, but I was too gosh darn scared.
Everyone's against me- everyone. My whole family is, my husband's side is. There is no one I can personally agree with about breastfeeding in public without a cover, so here I am.
Validation of my feelings are much appreciated right now, because sometimes I feel so alone.
-Caitrin
We just got back from what was supposed to be a wonderful evening. My husband's movie was being screened at a local film festival and it was going to be a blast- until her.
So the movie hadn't started yet, and my baby was hungry. I nor my baby likes to be covered up. As soon as I latched him on, my husband's friend's sister in law (whom I'd never met and who ALSO has a 4 month old baby) came running up to me and said, "HERE- use this to cover up" while a nursing cover was shoved onto me.
Trying to be as polite as I knew how and even smiling, I said, "No thank you, I don't cover up"
She was furious and said "Well then I'll have to make sure my husband and father don't see you!"
First off, I was too shocked to say anything and my whole family was around- it was very awkward for me. Oddly enough, no one saw- they were having their own conversations.
Later on out in the hallway I had to take my toddler out because he was full of energy he needed to burn off. She came out there too. I mentioned something about her diaper bag to get a conversation going because I'm a coward and can't just be straightforward
She began warming up to me a bit and after talking about diapers and changing rooms, she said, "I'm sorry if I offended you in there but I HAD to make sure my husband didn't see you all exposed"My stupid, lame, ridiculous cowardly reply was, "I'm used to people asking me to cover up, and I don't".
What the heck kind of reply was that? What I really wanted to say was, "I feel SO sorry for your husband that he thinks breasts are only sexual! Breastfeeding is not obsene and yes you were rude for giving me your nursing cover. If I had wanted to cover up, I would have brought my own, thank you very much"
Oh, and I was literally trembling with anger and nerveousness. I have never been in a situation like this and it terrified me for some reason. I was more timid tonight than any other time.
I feel like a failure. I was too scared to stand up for myself, which is usually so unlike me. How are people going to realize that breastfeeding shouldn't have to be covered up if I won't even stand up for myself????
I even saw her several times later that evening. I could have admitted to her that yes, I WAS offended that she shoved her gross cover on me, but I was too gosh darn scared.
Everyone's against me- everyone. My whole family is, my husband's side is. There is no one I can personally agree with about breastfeeding in public without a cover, so here I am.
Validation of my feelings are much appreciated right now, because sometimes I feel so alone.
-Caitrin
Besides, if she/her husband have issues that warped it would probably take more than an evening to fix.
: So for that I am happy 
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