No-Stressor Pregnant Zen Queens - Page 5

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by mom-to-jj

I really want to....after all, I can't have a heartbeat without having a baby, right?

Sounds right to me! I'd tell them! Heck, I was so excited about it I told my MIL the day after i got BFP! I do understand your apprehension though, but think it's fine!

[brinalicious]

We told our families pretty much right away, when I was about 6 weeks. We haven't told anybody else (except for my girl friends), and we asked our family not to tell others either, until around Easter. Mostly I didn't/don't want my work finding out any sooner than necessary, and they don't call this place "Small Lake City" for nothin', IYKWIM? I would say go ahead and tell your family now! God forbid something did happen, they are the people you would want supporting you anyway. I can't wait to tell everybody, and my family who does know is getting really antsy about it too, but I'm going to try to hold out until 13 weeks. That's only 3 1/2 weeks now!!!! Woooo hoooo!!!

[minsca]

Originally Posted by Talula Fairie

Am I too late to join? I remember you all from the TTC boards.

Originally Posted by greenmom17

I'd love to join you too if I'm not too late....

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Originally Posted by brinalicious

Not to mention, I'll be 29 for the first time this July

Originally Posted by mom-to-jj

: I just turned 29...for the first time!

Hey, I'm turning 29, for the first time in November also.

I agree with Brin - mom-to-jj I think you should tell your in-laws. I want my family to know if something happens just because I would need their support then.

Not much new to report on my end here. Feeling sicker as each day goes bye. But I know it doesn't kill me, so it must make me stronger right .

[brinalicious]

How far along is everybody now, and when is your first/next appointment?

AFM: I'm 9 1/2 weeks, and my first appointment with our hb midwife (who delivered our last son) is today. I'm getting kind of excited about it now that it's getting closer! My DH won't be able to be there because he took yesterday afternoon off to go to an appointment with my son, but I'll have both of my boys with me, and I might even let my mom come.

[ShwarmaQueen]

I've got an u/s tomorrow (related to the spotting), my MW interview is on 3/21, and then my first "official" OB visit April 15. If all goes according to plan, I'll switch over to my MW in May but try to keep my OB relationship good.

[RavenStar]

Brin That's exciting that you have your first MW appoinment.
Shwarma I hope your u/s goes well tomorrow. Are you having any more spotting? Those numbers you posted seemed nice and high so that's a good sign. I'm sure the u/s will give you some more peace of mind.

I have my second prenatal appointment with our midwife next wednesday, March 18th. I'm 13weeks 2 days now. DH is going to come to this second appointment with me and DD. He wasn't able to make it to the first one and we ended up hearing the heartbeat. So this time he's excited to hear the heartbeat for himself. I think it will make it seem more real to him. He still says at random times "I can't believe we're having a baby!"

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by RavenStar

Shwarma I hope your u/s goes well tomorrow. Are you having any more spotting? Those numbers you posted seemed nice and high so that's a good sign. I'm sure the u/s will give you some more peace of mind.

Just very light brown spotting randomly, some days yes, some days no.

I think it will make it seem more real to him. He still says at random times "I can't believe we're having a baby!"

That's so cute about your DH! Mine is too laid back; so I had to ask him if he wanted to come to the first OB visit and u/s. :

[mom-to-jj]

RavenStar - It's fun when DH gets to share a little of the pregnancy. Guys are so disconnected from the process, especially in the beginning. I loved when my DH could finally put his ear on my belly and hear the heartbeat, and then J.J. would always kick him. He would put his head on my belly and say, "Come on, kick Daddy!"

Shwarma - Good luck at your u/s!

I'm 7w2d, and my first appointment is Monday. I want DH to be there, and we'll probably have to drag DS along for lack of a babysitter. I hate the first appointment--the breast exam, the Pap, etc. I hate being poked and looked at all over. I hate sticking that transvaginal u/s probe "up there." I hate it. I am a modest person, and it's all uncomfortably invasive for me.

Has anybody ever refused a Pap? Mine have always been normal (last one was Dec 07), and I do not want her ripping chunks out of my cervix this time. Last time I had some spotting, and I just do not see the need to do it this time around.

[brinalicious]

Originally Posted by RavenStar

He still says at random times "I can't believe we're having a baby!"

I keep saying this, too! Maybe it will feel more real after the appointment today. I'm not sure if we'll hear the heartbeat or not, but if we do that will definitely make it more real.

[BHappy]

Hi Ladies, I've been reading but too busy to respond. I hope all of you are doing well.

I just chopped my hair, too! How funny!

Mom-to-jj: I agree with the others: tell your family for sure!

AFM, I'm feeling pregnant now: I just received my new, lovely leopard print Bravado bra in the mail! Yippeeeeee!!!!

Now, I'm going to bed. I'm so very exhausted. My class of third graders performed their class play yesterday, and I have to say, being a director and stage manager of 15 9-year-olds is so tiring. I'm beat.

G'night,

[brinalicious]

So, I had my first mw appointment yesterday and everything went great. We tried to hear the heartbeat but couldn't get it...too early. I have a tipped uterus, and I've never heard a heartbeat before 12 weeks before, so I wasn't really expecting it. She said, though, that she could hear lots of blood flow and activity in my uterus, which indicates that everything is fine, and my uterus is right on track as far as growth.

The last couple of nights my nausea hasn't been too bad, but I've been getting these awful headaches that make it really hard to go to sleep. Last night after laying in bed for over an hour I finally got up and got a warm washcloth to put over my eyes to try an relax, and then I just lay in bed bawling about how bad I felt and how unhappy I am about it. Finally I fell asleep, but it was a rough night. I feel much better today. Is anyone else getting headaches? What are you doing about them (or are you just crying about it like I am? )?

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by brinalicious

Is anyone else getting headaches? What are you doing about them (or are you just crying about it like I am? )?

Aww Brin, I'm sorry to hear about your headaches! I haven't gotten them yet but I got them w/ DD, so I'm waiting... : I took a low dose (200mg) of tylenol if they got too bad.

Yay for the hb!!! It's always reassuring, and of course when your symptoms are torturing you, you can always think that little hb!

[mom-to-jj]

brin - Ugh, I had horrible migraines with DS started in my 5th week. Before I was pg, I had a prescription for Imitrex, but of course during pregnancy all I could take was Tylenol, which is nothing more than a placebo to a real migraine. I totally feel your pain!

The only thing that helped me was to immediately massage my neck and forehead as soon as one started coming on. If I was at work, I would shut my office door, turn out the lights, and just rub my neck as hard as I could for 15 minutes or so. If I was home, I made DH do it. That, plus a cool washcloth and the Tylenol placebo, would usually make it survivable.

My headaches disappeared after the first trimester and really never came back. I haven't had one since DS was born--and I expected to get them again during this pregnancy, but (knock on wood) it hasn't happened.

[mariacm]

Originally Posted by mom-to-jj

RavenStar - It's fun when DH gets to share a little of the pregnancy. Guys are so disconnected from the process, especially in the beginning. I loved when my DH could finally put his ear on my belly and hear the heartbeat, and then J.J. would always kick him. He would put his head on my belly and say, "Come on, kick Daddy!"

Shwarma - Good luck at your u/s!

I'm 7w2d, and my first appointment is Monday. I want DH to be there, and we'll probably have to drag DS along for lack of a babysitter. I hate the first appointment--the breast exam, the Pap, etc. I hate being poked and looked at all over. I hate sticking that transvaginal u/s probe "up there." I hate it. I am a modest person, and it's all uncomfortably invasive for me.

Has anybody ever refused a Pap? Mine have always been normal (last one was Dec 07), and I do not want her ripping chunks out of my cervix this time. Last time I had some spotting, and I just do not see the need to do it this time around.

I haven't, since this is my first, but I will be refusing it during preg. Just had one last summer, and it was fine, so there's no need til after baby. Anyway, there are a lot of false "abnormal" pap results during preg, and normally they don't biopsy during preg anyway, so they'll still have to repeat/do further testing after delivery.

IMO, better not to mess with the cervix (that's keeping my baby safe in there) when there's no need to!!

[mom-to-jj]

Just found this at gynob.com:
"Not only is a Pap smear safe in pregnancy, it is considered mandatory by many obstetricians. An abnormal Pap smear discovered during a pregnancy may determine the management of the pregnancy as well as management of the abnormal Pap. Thankfully, most problems, even most severely abnormal Paps, can be managed after a normal pregnancy concludes.

"The Pap is a gentle scraping of cells from the mouth of your womb. It is far, far away from the pregnancy and even the mild spotting it can cause has nothing at all to do with the baby. The cells are delicate and it's not unusual to have a little spotting for a day or two, so don't panic if this happens.

"So yes, you need that Pap smear--it's considered good obstetrics and must be part of the prenatal care."

I love that part about how it "must" be part of the prenatal care. I am so sick of fighting this battle with doctors. When I tell them I don't want a certain test or procedure, they try to browbeat me into submission. For the brief time that may be left that America doesn't have socialized healthcare, I feel like it is my right to pick and choose what treatments I want. I feel like the same thing is going to happen that happened with my last pregnancy: I will march in there all gutsy and make my wishes known, my doctor will argue and threaten and look down her nose at me, we will make some sort of compromise, and then she will write in my chart that I am a troublemaker, and then they will all glare at my backside as I'm leaving. Sigh.

[minsca]

Ahh, that whole pap smear arguement. Makes my blood boil. When I was pregnant with dd1 I had it done and it came back abnormal. Of course the dr was saying, well there's nothing we can do about it now, and more then likely it is because of your pregnancy. So I worried the whole 9 months, had it redone after I had dd1 and it was fine. So then 6 months later when I was pregnant with dd2, my dr told me. "No way do you need a pap test during your pregnancy. Especially because you just had a normal one. It will stress you out if it comes back abnormal and there is nothing we can do about it anyways." I liked that dr, unfortanetly we moved and at 26 weeks I was bullied by my new drs into getting a pap test done. I seriously threw a fit in the office started bawling and everything. (this was the nurse who was doing the bullying). The dr then came in, and said... "well we don't need to do the pap test if you are against it." We like to do them, but they aren't 100% necessary. But I caved because I always do, and let the do it anyways. The dr at least was very gentle about it and very apologetic while doing it. But still, it really pissed me off. Still makes me upset when thinking about it.

[ShwarmaQueen]

momtojj- You should just insist that you don't want it, don't cave in order to please them if you have no reason to suspect a problem.

I don't remember then doing a pap when I was pg w/ DD, but I'm sure they did (I said yes to anything they said ). This time I do want at least a swab done of my cervix, just to make sure I don't have an infection and that's what's causing the bleeding. My mother had an undiagnosed vaginal infection that caused her to PTL and delivered my brother at 35 wks. Of course she's been drilling that into my head since I started spotting!

: Girls, I have a confession to make. I've just broken the rules. I had sushi. It was only Philadelpia rolls and seaweed salad, but I feel all edgy.

[ShwarmaQueen]

I saw the hb! Cute little fluttering hb!!! :::

[RavenStar]

Shwarma Hooray for seeing the heartbeat! I'm so happy for you! It sounds like you have one baby in there eh?

Mom to JJ I was really against having a pap during pregnancy for the same reason you and other women have said...I just felt like the cervix shouldn't be messed with. So I went in to the doctor with that in mind. Then they said that it had been over a year since I'd had a pap. If it had been within 6 months since my last pap I wouldn't have needed one. I got the pap smear because I felt like those were decent reasons. I left there feeling like I didn't stand up for myself. I also worried about spotting for days, which the Dr. said would have been "normal" but would have freaked me out.

I have since found out that this is what is recommended by doctors. What they don't tell you is that if you are in a monogamous relationship and have no history of abnormal paps, you don't need one during pregnancy and you only need one every 2-3 years. So go in there and tell them that. I wish I had some more facts to back myself up.

I also read that during pregnancy the cells in your cervix change so much that some women get false abnormal results. I agree with Minsca's dr with DD2 who said it would stress you out and you couldn't do anything about the results anyway.

Good luck dearie. If you really don't want/need a pap you can turn it down. It's your right as a patient.

[mom-to-jj]

Originally Posted by RavenStar

What they don't tell you is that if you are in a monogamous relationship and have no history of abnormal paps, you don't need one during pregnancy and you only need one every 2-3 years. So go in there and tell them that. I wish I had some more facts to back myself up.

I also read that during pregnancy the cells in your cervix change so much that some women get false abnormal results. I agree with Minsca's dr with DD2 who said it would stress you out and you couldn't do anything about the results anyway.

Good luck dearie. If you really don't want/need a pap you can turn it down. It's your right as a patient.

Thanks! I found the Pap guidelines, and I have absolutely none of the risk factors for cervical cancer. So I def feel like every 2-3 years is something I am comfortable with. I am going to march in there Monday repeating over and over to myself, "I will not be bullied!"

Shwarma - ::for your little fluttering hb!::

Got my first migraine today--after I posted yesterday that I hadn't had any yet. Figures!!! Ugh, it was the sickest I have felt this whole pregnancy. We told our families this weekend, which was totally fun! : We just had DS wearing his "BIG brother" shirt, and as soon as we took off his coat, the cat was out of the bag. Now it's starting to feel real--our parents know, and today I finally felt like crap!