'tis the season...Anyone got complaints about extended family and discipline?

[NoraJadesMama]

Anyone got complaints about extended family and discipline?

My mom got frustrated with my dd (5) over something small and my mom said "I don't want to hit you but you are making me VERY unhappy!" I swept my dd out of the room, saying, "We don't hit in this family, and we don't threaten to hit." She said, "Well I wouldn't DREAM of hitting her, but she wouldn't stop doing what she was doing!" It is true that my dd is trying, but if my mom reacts this way when she can walk away, how would she be if she got angry when me and dh are not around?! She keeps offering to take the kids while we go eat out or something, and I don't think we should take her up on it.

Anyone else?

[CerridwenLorelei]

((HUGS))

Just dealt with this awhile back over Tday
in the motel lobby youngest got overstimmed and my mom went out of control a bit
BUT she caught herself and said "I am sorry. You were right there I should have let you handle it"
of course she scared the crud out of him and made things worse ..
talking about going to bust you right here right now
*sigh* and it wasn't even really anything bad it was typical for the age and being ready to be removed...

If your gut says don't leave dd then DON'T leave dd
My mom is no longer allowed to sit unless my teen is here so that means she hasn't but once in two years..and after last time
likely never again..

[CrunchyChristian]

Good grief! I think you handled it nicely!

DH's mom puts us down for every parenting decision we make. We finally changed our email address, so she couldn't bombard us with nasty emails. When we call her, we keep it simple. No discussing our deeper life.

It's a shame people can't focus on their own life and respect that others can make their own (good) decisions, even if it differs from thier ideas.

Happily, we're in TX and she's in GA.

[CerridwenLorelei]

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I am in North Central Texas
THough I would love to be at the coast..

[water]

Umm, yep, just about an hour ago my (childless) SIL YELLED at my 2yo, because he pulled a bow off a box she had wrapped for someone else. She was like "Oh my God, I spent so long wrapping that present!" And Iwas like, umm, he's TWO? He doesn't get it about not unwrapping other peoples presents.

Ugggh, I'm just feeling kind of sick about the excess that goes on every year at the inlaws. It's gross, the number of useless presents!!!

[MamaBug]

hi there I totally hear you. My parents are here right now for Christmas and while 90% of the visit has been wonderful their ideas are completly different about discipline. I think you did the best thing and if your not comfortable with her babysitting then I would not let her. I didn't let my parents watch my ds until he could talk ( thankfully it was quite early) and he could tell me if they did anything that they knew I was against.

The one thing my mother does that drives me nuts is constantly telling my kids to be quiet. HELLO!!! They are kids they are not supposed to be silent. Does not help that they both have very active imaginations and act out most play.: I told her that most kids that are normal make noise... she just rolled her eyes, I finally told her that if they were too loud maybe she should retire to her room :LOL She hasn't told them to shush in a day and a half :LOL

[hipumpkins]

Ugggh, I'm just feeling kind of sick about the excess that goes on every year at the inlaws. It's gross, the number of useless presents!!!

ITA!!! WE were at my inlaws and I swear we opened presents/stockingsd for 4 hours. It was disgisting. I know I am supposed to be grateful but I wasn't raised in a family that went so overboard. It is uncomfortable for me. BTW...my DD is only 14 mos old so it isn't even like she wanted anything!