I realize that generalizations can be made about proportions of population, but I feel that making those generalizations is not the right thing to do. This is, of course, just my opinion and the way I look at it.
Are white people sometimes racist? Absolutely. I have seen that all of my life. Are black people sometimes racist? Absolutely. I have seen that all of my life.
Is it understandable when black people-- ESPECIALLY older black people who lived through times like the Civil Rights Movement-- have judgmental attitudes towards "all white people" instead of seeing past the color of someone? Yes, because I haven't been through that I can't imagine how difficult it is to let go of anger at such violent injustice. But just because it's understandable doesn't mean that it's morally right or something that should be continued and excused, especially in subsequent generations.
As was noted, I do live in the south and have my entire life (although the Confederacy was kind of over before I ever got here) and because I have a multi-racial family, I have seen racism coming from both sides. It's upsetting from both sides, too. I don't see the point of implying that if the racism is coming from a black person, it doesn't really matter or count as "real racism" because in general that person's demographic doesn't have much power. Pointing out demographics and population statistics are NOT a good way to judge a person, I think.
So, you are right, I have been forced into a lot of awareness about racism and how deep and ugly it can be-- the south still has the ability to demonstrate that (although really Richmond isn't a great example of it-- go out into rural VA if you're looking for that). But I don't think generalizations about groups of people will help at all.
Someone else here already explained that what you're talking about is prejudice- not racism. That's according to the definition that's used in sociology.
Take a moment if you will to look up the definitions of minority group, majority group. It's all about who's in power, not numbers. Blacks in South Africa are the minority although they are in numbers- the majority.
No one said that it was right, no one defended prejudice.
They simply said that prejudice doesn't have a systemic affect that racism has. It hurts individuals, there's no denying that.
Statistics don't comprise of generalizations, (other than when stats are twisted to serve a purpose). The Census isn't run by AA.
I don't agree with you that the older generation are the only ones who are racists/prejudice. Many of the older folks have also changed or tapered down a bit. At least outwardly, since it's not politically correct to be a racist.
I know it's difficult to understand it even when you have an open mind and heart to.
I'd like to give you a different perspective- but I wouldn't even know where to begin.