Originally Posted by futurmama8
No one said Joyster created this problem but she said she would teach her kids to take advantage of it so she is perpetuating the problem. The thing is her kids won't KNOW when white privilege is being handed to them nor will anyone else. It is an unspoken truth that can only be seen when you do studies or when people admit that they do it. So why teach a child to take advantage of white privilege? I think its something people need to be AWARE of but its not anything you can see.
I went back and reread joyster's thread and I now see why people are upset with it. I can't say that I'm AS upset with her post as others are. Not because I agree with her choice.
But because I think the problem is so large, I feel to an extent - as if I would be getting angry at the "victim".
I guess I took it to be that people didn't understand why she wanted her kids to have privileges. Oops.
Someone else here wrote that the reason people wanted blonde/blue children was because they thought it was beautiful.
And I gave that some thought and in the example I've given of my friend, it wasn't about beauty alone. There's more to it than that.
Her 1st son IS beautiful. Instead of hearing that after his birth, she heard comments that implied how unlucky he was to not be blonde/blue.
Back to the comment about what defines beauty, I ask - so why do people place sooo much importance in being beautiful? Because there are privileges that come with it.
Now, I want to preface this next thought with clarifying that I completely understand that when it comes to race vs. other physical traits, what I'm about to write isn't comparable. Race privileges have caused much more damage to whole groups of people than the latter.
If I may step back from race for a moment and compare these "privileges" to other physical traits that are advantageous...
In our society, people are given privileges if they are beautiful, thin, young.......
And it's unfair. Unjust.
So, if a parent wishes that their child has "beauty privilege" or " looking youthful privilege"... do I get angry at them? No.
Even though I think it's sad that these exist.
Are they perpetuating the injustice? Hmmm. What do you think?
I do get angry...... but I get MORE angry at those who give that privilege and deny it to others, also I'm angry FOR those who don't receive it.
In my world, I try to elevate those who don't receive it and I speak up when I witness it. At the same time, I try not to do it in anger, because it's not always deserving- often times they are simply ignorant and unaware that they're doing it.
When I disagree with someone, I try to not fly off the handle because it makes the person put up another brick on their wall. Kwim? (though it's hard not to get emotional)
|We first have to stop teaching that light is better and you will benefit. We need to teach that all people are beautiful and should be treated equally.
I'm totally with you on this.
This is what I do.
I think that the way you explained it now was better than in the way joyster was addressed before.