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Poll Results: Where would you nurse during a church service?

 
  • 36% (44)
    in a "mother's room"
  • 63% (77)
    in the pews
121 Total Votes  
post #1 of 46
Thread Starter 
We have a nursing room with 3 big huge comfy chairs and a decent sized t.v. that let's nursing moms continue to watch the sermon. There is also a changing table and the lighting is low.

I tried to look at this like it was any other public place. I nip at the mall because the mother's room is usually far away, we're eating, I can't keep my 2 year old entertained easily in there, I'm in the middle of shopping and he's in the sling so I don't have to hold him. The room is also very bright and I don't like bright lights. So I usually avoid mother's rooms when out in the general public, but I prefer to use the one at church. I'm wondering if I'm making my decision based on the surroundings and if I'm scared of what people are going to think of me, or if It's just because the enjoy the mother's room at church.
post #2 of 46
I nursed my infants at church, in the pews, pretty regularly. It keeps them quiet and no one was bothered. I did not nurse my toddlers or older at church. At that age, they popped on and off a lot, and I wouldn't have been comfortable with that sitting in church pews.

ETA: I voted in the pews, b/c with older nurslings, I probably wouldn't have nursed them @ all at church. If they were disruptive, I would have taken them to the back (or perhaps the mother's room) but would likely not have nursed them @ church, in any location.
post #3 of 46
I voted in the pews, because I am totally OK with that. When I do duck out to the lounge, it's usually because the baby's squirrely and I know he'll want to crawl around after nursing, or because I don't feel like listening to my husband's sermon again (no TV in our lounge, ). Occasionally, if I've been right up against someone and I feel uncomfortable nursing, I've moved as well.
post #4 of 46
I nurse in the pews, but when I had a 1-2 yo, I spent the whole service in the lounge. I never found a way to keep him from taking the place apart. At my church, they are cool with nursing, but not with ripping up the pew Bibles.

If you prefer being in the mothers' room, go for it. There's a baby-less couple who always sit in the lounge at my church, apparently so the husband can nap comfortably while the wife fields a series of calls on her cellphone. I think they only come to the service at all because their kids are involved in Sunday school.
post #5 of 46
See, I would say it depends on the nurseling. My daughter, I could nurse anywhere. She didn't get distracted and we were totally okay staying in the seats throughout the service. My friend's daughter, on the other hand, would have had a terrible time staying in the service because she got distracted by every little thing.

So, wherever you and your baby are most comfortable, that's the best place to be.
post #6 of 46
Quote:
Originally Posted by notjustmamie View Post

So, wherever you and your baby are most comfortable, that's the best place to be.
Amen.
post #7 of 46
DD is so distracted now, I would probably go to the lounge just so she could actually eat instead of wanting to look everywhere.
post #8 of 46
Our church doesn't have a mother's room so my choice is in the pews or on a chair in the vestibule. I'll take the pews!
post #9 of 46
When DS was tiny I nursed in the pews a couple times but if I had the option for a mother's room like you described, that's where I was! I absolutely love the ones that are done up as you described, and that's where we were most comfortable, not just because of the nursing, but also because of the baby himself. He was much easier to entertain, and it was much easier for me to listen, in the nursing room.
post #10 of 46
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
I voted in the pews, because I am totally OK with that. When I do duck out to the lounge, it's usually because the baby's squirrely and I know he'll want to crawl around after nursing, or because I don't feel like listening to my husband's sermon again (no TV in our lounge, ). Occasionally, if I've been right up against someone and I feel uncomfortable nursing, I've moved as well.

That's funny! A nursing baby is a great excuse to leave early when we have a really boring, long guest preacher. Our pastor has two young kids and his wife won't let him preach past 12:00 so that it won't mess up nap time. Everyone here keeps their babies in the service, and nurse them right in the pew. Some cover, some don't, and nobody says a word.
post #11 of 46
In the pews. It would never occur to me to go anywhere else. I've most recently nursed a 3-year-old during the Christmas Eve service. (The girls are typically with their father on weekends, so I don't often have the opportunity to go to church with them anymore.) In Hawaii, I used to nurse Esther, hand her to Rob, & then nurse Linda.

With older, wiggly kids, I sought out a much more laid-back service. We now go to the CAYA (Come As You Are) service, where my daughters can wiggle and play and dance around during the songs and no one thinks anything of it.

I would in no way tolerate the expectation that I leave the sanctuary to nurse. I left a church because of that, way back in the mists of time.
post #12 of 46
I voted mother's room. It is a room with a window in the back of the sanctuary and has a couple rocking chairs, a basket of toys, and a changing table. Very cozy. I can adjust the blinds so that no one can see in but I can see out and I can hear the sermon. I'd nurse in the sanctuary, but DH is not comfortable with that, so it is a step above bringing a bottle for her (which I will do once she starts in the nursery at about 4-5 weeks old). Maybe I'll change my mind when I see what other parents do. There are a few women due about the same time I am.
post #13 of 46
I think it would totally depend on the circumstances. If baby was just hungry, and quiet, and could easily nurse without disturbing anyone, just go right ahead and nurse. But if baby were noisy, fussy or distracting other parishoners I'd go to the nursing room.
post #14 of 46
I voted mother's room. I don't think it is wrong to nurse in the pews, but personally in our current situation I don't feel comfortable doing it. Usually we just try to be there about 30 minutes early (We live 45 mins. away.) and I feed her in one of the classrooms and then she sleeps during the service.
post #15 of 46
I had my first experience with this today with our 1 month old, and was wondering what I should do if she wanted to feed during the service. My decision was made for me. She went from peacefully sleeping to screaming bloody murder during a communion prayer. So nursary it was, today anyway.
post #16 of 46
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Originally Posted by notjustmamie View Post
So, wherever you and your baby are most comfortable, that's the best place to be.

If I came in with baby in a sling a quietly nursing I would keep her there and continue to nurse in the pew. If baby started fussing during the middle of service I would probably sneak out to the "mother's room" not because of nursing but because of the crying baby and not wanting to disturb others. If I felt like I could get her latched on quickly I might stay, but usually my church clothes are more difficult to nurse in and require more time to latch.
post #17 of 46
I would go to the mother's room because it sounds so cozy and non-distracting for DD. But if there wasn't one available I would nurse in the pews and not feel too self-conscious.
post #18 of 46
Our nurseries are rooms with big windows in the back of the sanctuary, and with speakers, so you can hear and see everything (well, the hearing depends on how noisy my kids are back there!). I go in there because that is what I am comfortable with for myself. There are a number of moms who nurse in the service sometimes too - usually that is with small babies.

Tjej
post #19 of 46
I go to the nursery, it's quite amusing. There are big shutters that are generally open for people to drop off and pick up their babies that way, but they get shut when a nursing mom is in there (me, I'm it for nursing moms right now, lol). I have been using a nursing cover w/ this baby which I really like, especially in these early weeks when I find it hard to be discreet so no one can see anything anyways and I don't mind the shutters being open. The ladies in there freak out about it though and close the shutters and one yelled at her DH to get out b/c there was a nursing mom and he didn't need to be in there, etc, I just laughed b/c it doesn't bother me at all. You can see it probably would weird people out if I were in the pews, hahaha.
post #20 of 46
Today was the first time that I nursed my DD at church, since this is the first time that she was actually awake during a service. And we were sitting in the first row! I was completely comfortable. But, my dd is a good and undistrcted nurser, so if she was the opposite, I probably would go somewhere more comfy.
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