I am at a loss for words

[CerridwenLorelei]

Dh keeps asking me "well what was it like at home when you were 16/ 15?? " in relation to things with my teen

I looked at him and said "umm I was married, out of the house and on my own at 15/16 so I don't know..."""


He just looked/s at me and said "besides how stupid that was which we won't get into I can't come up with an example for this"

I really can't help him put things in perspective! Exdh and I were gone and living in another city where he was going ( harumph) to college...

while dh was still actually at home until 17 and living the "normal" teenage life of school, work, home....

[bestjob]

Your children will be blessed by having two parents with such different perspectives! It must drive you crazy at times, but I think you'll give them a balanced outlook.

[LittlebitsMommy]

I wouldn't be able to answer this question. I was married at 14 and had DD at 15. I have been married to the same wonderful DH now for almost 15 years. I don't know how it is for most kids in their teen years. I just know how it was for me. Although I wouldn't recommend it to other. I would not change anything about the way my life has turned out. I thank god everyday for what I have.
I think I have learned alot now about teen age years though. I have a 14 year old DD. She has taught me alot.

[Meiri]

Do you have any friends with teens older than yours?

I'm finding it very helpful having a neighbor with whom I am also friends who has a teenage son 2 years older than DS. When I describe something he's doing, most of the time she returns with a semi-comforting, "that's normal."

[CerridwenLorelei]

not so much friends

as there are other moms out there in the hs group
we have a LARGE teen group

I have been talking to one that deals with some issues we do and some different her son is a few months older than mine