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post #41 of 216
The problem with DTD at 7:45 while DD was asleep, at least last night, was that I wasn't home! I had an event to go to, and DH was home with DD, who wasn't supposed to be asleep at that time anyway--the plan was to try to keep her awake, then put her to sleep at a somewhat normal bedtime, after which we would DTD and then go to bed. By the time I got home, got my contacts out, and we got our pants off, DD woke up and was up for the next *three* freaking hours. So it was like zombie sex at 1:30 am with two people who could barely stay awake. We have always found time for sex and intimacy since her birth--the problem is not making time for sex, it's making time for sex at the *right* times for getting pregnant, which doesn't always work out so well since there is a short window in which to optimize our chances. I typically have maybe two days of EWCM before I ovulate, so when it shows up it means that it's "now or never" and we feel like we can't miss a day. It's harder too now that she's older--it was easier when she was under three because she slept more and napped and was not so mobile. When she was an infant/toddler if we were in the middle of something and she woke up, she would start crying and we could either quickly finish up and go get her, or abort the mission. Now that she is almost 3 1/2, there aren't as many opportunities--she doesn't usually sleep during the day and we cosleep so she won't go to sleep if we're not there, and it can be very late when she finally falls asleep. Unless she is totally engaged with something, if we're both in another room she'll usually come find us and if we lock the door she gets very upset and will cry and yell and and bang on the door until we open it. Not the most conducive to being able to relax and have sex--even of the fast food variety!! Often, I can get in the mood and get into it, even if we don't have much time or energy. But sometimes I just can't, and having sex when I really don't want to but feel pressured to leaves me with sort of a bad taste in my mouth and some negative feelings in the direction of my DH and our sexual relationship--even though it's not *him* forcing me in any way, it's my own desire to conceive, it still feels sort of like I'm being forced or coerced into sex. And then it's hard for him to be into it when I'm not, so it ends up being not very pleasant for anybody.

Tonight we managed to BD before dinner by putting her in front of a Curious George video with a bowl of chocolate chips and cashews.
post #42 of 216
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I feel like the WORST wanna-be pregnant lady in history... so My hubby and I are really into fine wines and food and stuff and last night he suggested opening one of our FAVORITE wines (a callaghan 2003 blend) bc I made us a roast chicken (his favorite) and I was like, hmmm... I am 6 dpo... what the hell, sure. So we proceeded to finish it and then I had nyquil which appearantly I CAN'T have if I am pregnant.... now I feel I ruined all my chances and the baby is doomed... ok sadness rant over... that said, the bottle was MMMMMMMMM good!!!!
post #43 of 216
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Originally Posted by Lauren31 View Post
I feel like the WORST wanna-be pregnant lady in history... so My hubby and I are really into fine wines and food and stuff and last night he suggested opening one of our FAVORITE wines (a callaghan 2003 blend) bc I made us a roast chicken (his favorite) and I was like, hmmm... I am 6 dpo... what the hell, sure. So we proceeded to finish it and then I had nyquil which appearantly I CAN'T have if I am pregnant.... now I feel I ruined all my chances and the baby is doomed... ok sadness rant over... that said, the bottle was MMMMMMMMM good!!!!
Don't feel bad. Since I wasn't really 'trying' anymore, I had coffee, and was lax about taking my supplements. When I got my BFP, I was shocked, now I am worried bc I had coffee (I think I had a little wine too) I am sure it will be fine though. No more for me though.
post #44 of 216
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Don't feel bad. Since I wasn't really 'trying' anymore, I had coffee, and was lax about taking my supplements. When I got my BFP, I was shocked, now I am worried bc I had coffee (I think I had a little wine too) I am sure it will be fine though. No more for me though.
Thanks... I just feel like I might have ruined my chances... maybe I just want to blame myself for when I get that BFN....
post #45 of 216
Hi everybody, I'm back. I got my BFP but miscarried just a few days later. I'm pretty sad but I'm ready to try again right away, so can I be moved to Waiting to O?
post #46 of 216
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Hi everybody, I'm back. I got my BFP but miscarried just a few days later. I'm pretty sad but I'm ready to try again right away, so can I be moved to Waiting to O?
I am so sorry...
post #47 of 216
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Hi everybody, I'm back. I got my BFP but miscarried just a few days later. I'm pretty sad but I'm ready to try again right away, so can I be moved to Waiting to O?
I'm so sorry to hear that, Nora. I hope you are healing well.
post #48 of 216
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Originally Posted by Lauren31 View Post
I feel like the WORST wanna-be pregnant lady in history... so My hubby and I are really into fine wines and food and stuff and last night he suggested opening one of our FAVORITE wines (a callaghan 2003 blend) bc I made us a roast chicken (his favorite) and I was like, hmmm... I am 6 dpo... what the hell, sure. So we proceeded to finish it and then I had nyquil which appearantly I CAN'T have if I am pregnant.... now I feel I ruined all my chances and the baby is doomed... ok sadness rant over... that said, the bottle was MMMMMMMMM good!!!!
Oh honey, remember that in the great wide world, where most people have no clue how many DPO they are, people spend that two+ weeks before they realize they are pregnant being normal people - drinking coffee, wine, eating french brie and having raucous sex. Or Maybe I am just romanticizing it. Haha. Either way, the vast majority of eggs will not implant by 6dpo, so they are self contained and safe. Don't fret, everything is on the path it should be.
post #49 of 216
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Oh honey, remember that in the great wide world, where most people have no clue how many DPO they are, people spend that two+ weeks before they realize they are pregnant being normal people - drinking coffee, wine, eating french brie and having raucous sex. Or Maybe I am just romanticizing it. Haha. Either way, the vast majority of eggs will not implant by 6dpo, so they are self contained and safe. Don't fret, everything is on the path it should be.
Thank you soo soo much... I REALLY needed to hear that

And can I add: BRIE is forbidden too!?!?! Take away my wine, my blue cheese, sushi, Feta, coffees, what is next!? haha the price we pay
post #50 of 216
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Thank you soo soo much... I REALLY needed to hear that

And can I add: BRIE is forbidden too!?!?! Take away my wine, my blue cheese, sushi, Feta, coffees, what is next!? haha the price we pay
FETA?!!! OH MY GOSH!! :'( I LOVE FETA (Haven't had it recently, but I LOVE IT!
post #51 of 216
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FETA?!!! OH MY GOSH!! :'( I LOVE FETA (Haven't had it recently, but I LOVE IT!
NOOOO!!! Not FETA!!! I eat feta cheese like 4 days a week!!!

I just found this online about ok and not ok cheeses, and it says feta is ok!
post #52 of 216
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Originally Posted by NoraFlood View Post
Hi everybody, I'm back. I got my BFP but miscarried just a few days later. I'm pretty sad but I'm ready to try again right away, so can I be moved to Waiting to O?
I'm so, so sorry.

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Originally Posted by Lauren31 View Post
I feel like the WORST wanna-be pregnant lady in history... so My hubby and I are really into fine wines and food and stuff and last night he suggested opening one of our FAVORITE wines (a callaghan 2003 blend) bc I made us a roast chicken (his favorite) and I was like, hmmm... I am 6 dpo... what the hell, sure. So we proceeded to finish it and then I had nyquil which appearantly I CAN'T have if I am pregnant.... now I feel I ruined all my chances and the baby is doomed... ok sadness rant over... that said, the bottle was MMMMMMMMM good!!!!
When I talked to my doctor about getting ready to TTC, she gave me a pregnancy FAQ, and here's one of the questions and answers that I think my ease your mind:

"I had two glasses of wine, an Aleve and an aspirin the day before I realized I was pregnant. Should I panic?
No. Particularly in the first weeks of pregnancy, the placenta is not well developed enough to allow chemicals to cross from the maternal circulation. The embryo is generally well protected in the time before you miss your period."
post #53 of 216
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I'm so, so sorry.



When I talked to my doctor about getting ready to TTC, she gave me a pregnancy FAQ, and here's one of the questions and answers that I think my ease your mind:

"I had two glasses of wine, an Aleve and an aspirin the day before I realized I was pregnant. Should I panic?
No. Particularly in the first weeks of pregnancy, the placenta is not well developed enough to allow chemicals to cross from the maternal circulation. The embryo is generally well protected in the time before you miss your period."
thanks, I bet a lot of women have this thought, too!! I think I am more worried that if I did have a baby in there, I now DON'T... I just need to stop worrying!!!
post #54 of 216
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Originally Posted by mariacm View Post
NOOOO!!! Not FETA!!! I eat feta cheese like 4 days a week!!!

I just found this online about ok and not ok cheeses, and it says feta is ok!
oh good to know! Too bad Chevre is on that list!!
post #55 of 216
Lauren, I totally wouldn't worry this early.

Nora, .
post #56 of 216
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oh good to know! Too bad Chevre is on that list!!
yeah, we're big cheese-eaters, too, but luckily most of ours are on the OK list from what I can tell. I have done some more looking and it does say that in the US a lot of the normally non-pasteurized cheeses are now pasteurized, so maybe that's why feta is ok on that list (tho the list is from the UK). I also remember something my sister said when she was pregnant - she loves french cheeses and said "you know, the French women don't stop eating all these cheeses when pregnant, so why should I?!"
post #57 of 216
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Originally Posted by Lauren31 View Post
thanks, I bet a lot of women have this thought, too!! I think I am more worried that if I did have a baby in there, I now DON'T... I just need to stop worrying!!!
Yeah, I think doctors probably get that one all the time. I was actually surprised at that answer, but the more I learn, the more it makes sense.

Hey, maybe the wine helped you chill out at just the right time to help implantation along? You never know.
post #58 of 216
Anything pasteurized is okay - more brie and feta is pasteurized in the united states. You have to go out of your way to find unpasteurized cheese (it's usually more than $10/pound).

Wine and other medications are typically okay. Embryos come with their own backpack o' snacks for the trip.

Things that should be avoided - all the things that could give you food poisioning. Wash your fruits and veggies. Cook your meets, especially lunch meats and hot dogs. Don't eat at bad sushi restaurants. Don't eat at questionable restaurants at all (that goes for everyone!). Avoid homemade cheeses, especially those made from raw milk. Don't eat more than one can of tuna/swordfish/shark per week. Salmon is okay.
When morning sickness hits, calories are more important that nutrients. If all you can drink is Sprite, at least it's calories. Add nutrients as you can, even if it's at 12 weeks. Take a separate folic acid suppliment if you can't handle the whole prenatal.

There, I went off on my 1st trimester rant...
post #59 of 216
Here is an article about cheese during pregnancy that explains things pretty well, and explains why people would recommend against eating pasteurized feta during pregnancy. I'm still not sure that I'd give it up (although I think I may have gotten sick from listeria in one of my favorite cheeses twice now, so I definitely won't go near that one), but at least it explains the reasoning, and the main message of the article (and the comments below) is to not fear your food.
post #60 of 216
Lauren thanks for the new thread =)

Nora I'm so sorry


AFM still waiting to o. CD31 now. some CM but nothing to write home about. Perhaps it will never happen
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