I checked Facebook this morning, as I always do, and found a friend had posted "Goodbye, (Her Ex-Husband). He left us this weekend peacefully, and his suffering is over. Safe passage." (I am paraphrasing, but that was the gist of it.)
I had lost touch with him a few years back, after my own divorce, but we'd become reacquainted, yep, via Facebook. He was never in good health--was born with bad kidneys and had a transplant--so this isn't particularly surprising. But it is shocking. It's always shocking to find out someone your own age has died.
And it's doubly shocking to learn about it via someone else's Facebook status update. (I'm not blaming her or anything--she was still very close with her ex, even though they had both moved on years ago, and she is grieving very hard.)
I'm not sure what to do. I didn't know his family at all, the funeral will be far out of town, and the idea of posting a condolence message on a dead person's Facebook page is off-putting to me.
Sigh.
I had lost touch with him a few years back, after my own divorce, but we'd become reacquainted, yep, via Facebook. He was never in good health--was born with bad kidneys and had a transplant--so this isn't particularly surprising. But it is shocking. It's always shocking to find out someone your own age has died.
And it's doubly shocking to learn about it via someone else's Facebook status update. (I'm not blaming her or anything--she was still very close with her ex, even though they had both moved on years ago, and she is grieving very hard.)
I'm not sure what to do. I didn't know his family at all, the funeral will be far out of town, and the idea of posting a condolence message on a dead person's Facebook page is off-putting to me.
Sigh.
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