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sorry, i should be more specific! when i say safe, i'm thinking only of major morbidity or mortality. so, for babies, that's permanent brain damage, paralysis, and death. for mothers, pretty much only death (just personal parameters).
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I had an "uncomplicated" c-section the first time. A close friend had an uncomplicated vaginal delivery about a year before that. The day after her baby was born, she was walking around the house. A week after my baby arrived, I got stuck on my couch, unable to even stand up to pick up my baby, who needed to eat. Fortunately, it was "only" about half an hour, before I managed to stand up, and fortunately, there was no emergency (only urgency). That surgery was not safer than, or even as safe as, an uncomplicated vaginal birth.
Frankly, until doctors actually document all the consequences of c-sections (they don't), and accept that it's up to the patient to decide if those consequences have a negative impact on their lives, I don't care what they say, or what their studies say.
My records don't show the permanent numbness in my abdomen and pelvis (and I don't care if you or the medical profession consider that a safety issue or not - I'm the one living with it, and all the ramifications of it). My records didn't show the, admittedly minor, infection in my incision in 2005...the one that kept the incision from closing for almost two months. My records don't show when one my kids hurts themselves, because I'm physically incapable of moving quickly enough to prevent an accident that I can see is about to happen. My records don't show the emotional and psychological impact of being unable to have a baby for ten years and wondering that whole time if it was because of my primary c-section. In other words...my records (aside from the errors and lies) are worthless.
The only recovery I've had that would be considered at all complicated by the medical profession was my last one, and a large part of that was because my son was stillborn. Yes - it was a HBAmC attempt, but my uterus didn't rupture, and nobody has any idea why he died. The c-section didn't stop his death...and I'll never know if the previous three contributed to it.








I do want to understand what you are saying, and I hope that you can expand/clarify this. I think it is a valuable and interesting conversation, but I am not completely tracking with what you are saying.
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