I went out and bought real dishes & silverware, etc when my first was small. He didn't want to use them - wanted to use our bigger items to be like us.

So I gave up - they have free reign over my kitchen. I don't have the space to put everything low for them, but they are really good climbers - use a stool to boost themselves on the counters, etc. No messes allowed - or at least that is the theory, so they are usually pretty good at cleaning up spills and leaving the item on the counter before hopping off.

The oldest is only 4, so if they are baking it is with me, but they'll pour their own water/milk/cereal. My 4 yo will help the 2 yo reach stuff. Only rule is no black-handled knives - I keep them super sharp. 4 yo uses them w/ supervision at this point. They have their own other knives for 'normal' use...