Tribe for pregnant and over 35? - Page 6

[thewaggonerfamily]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

We always said we'd have 3 and this will be our 3rd. And I am the only woman I know in my business that has (or will have more accurately) 3 kids. Most of my female colleagues (few that there are) think I am crazy.

However, lately I have been starting to think I might want one more after this one. I will admit that I would like for my DD to have a sister and this baby is another boy.

And of course, there is no guarantee that if I did have another one it would be a girl! But I would of course love a another little boy too.

Also, this baby took 16 months to conceive, at 41, and two losses. However, I believe you are more fertile within 2 years of giving birth. If I were to have another I would start trying when this baby was 12 months. If I was successful right away it would be the same age gap as my older two.

My boss would flip.

So, just curious, what field are you in?

[veganmama719]

I am a wealth manager. A very testosterone laden field! I think women are great at it though because we see the bigger picture and I think we relate more to our clients more as actual people who we are helping.

We used to be called stockbrokers but I think that is such a limited description of what I actually do. The "new" term is investment advisor but I have issues with that for the same reason.

[catemom]

Hi Ladies!

veganmama I think you should follow your heart. I know I would already really love to have a #3 despite the possible difficulties and DH's reluctance. Anyway, just take the same great care of yourself that you have been and maybe you'll have that girl #2.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by Dmitrizmom

I didn't give it up from the get go, but have weaned down to just a couple cups of coffee a week - it just doesn't taste good mostly.

Same here. I was a Pepsi drinker pre-pregnancy but ever since getting my + HPT I've not been able to drink it. I drank water and juice mostly the first trimester. I did have some tea each day as well which had some caffeine but not nearly enough to make a difference I wouldn't think.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by ElliesMomma

ok, i got another question for you all: after this pregnancy, do you plan on having anymore?

as for me: probably not. i think two will be just enough. but maybe some of the 30-something youngsters on this thread will be having more? i had my first three weeks after turning 38, and i took my time getting ready for this second pregnancy. FTR, i conceived easily without charting or anything other than watching my CM, at 40.

I am over 40 and I had no idea I could be pregnant! I went out and bought the HPT's as a fluke. I totally thought it would come up negative. Boy was I surprised!! I was in no way trying to get pregnant.

To answer your question, this will be our last.

[veganmama719]

Originally Posted by darcytrue

I am over 40 and I had no idea I could be pregnant! I went out and bought the HPT's as a fluke. I totally thought it would come up negative. Boy was I surprised!! I was in no way trying to get pregnant.

LOL, my BIL has said to me at least 20 times, "I didn't think women over 40 could get pregnant". Well, I've gotten PG 3 times since I turned 40 and his grandmother's sister had 3 babies after 40. He is close to these cousins, who are around his age so I am not sure why it is such a shock to him. He's never done the math I guess.

[ElliesMomma]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

LOL, my BIL has said to me at least 20 times, "I didn't think women over 40 could get pregnant". Well, I've gotten PG 3 times since I turned 40 and his grandmother's sister had 3 babies after 40. He is close to these cousins, who are around his age so I am not sure why it is such a shock to him. He's never done the math I guess.

i hear that so often, that women over 40 don't think they can get pregnant, and it always baffles me. if you are still menstruating and otherwise healthy, why wouldn't you be able to get pregnant? weird. now, i'm imagining that there is a pretty steep drop off by age 50. anybody know *anybody* over 50 who has had a child? i sure don't. but i do know my aunt conceived naturally with her husband, the regular way, at 46.

[ColoradoMama]

Hi all! I am 36 and better still be 36 when this babe is born! (She's due 18 days before my 37th birthday, so I would be one ticked off mama if I were still pg! ) She is my last, and she is an "oops." It's an oops I'm thrilled about, but we were trying very hard NOT to get pregnant. I have definitely noticed that this pregnancy is way harder on me. Of course, that may be due to the fact that I am managing a family of 6 this time which includes the "one toddler tornado!" I'm almost 35 weeks pregnant. Nice to meet you all.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

LOL, my BIL has said to me at least 20 times, "I didn't think women over 40 could get pregnant". Well, I've gotten PG 3 times since I turned 40 and his grandmother's sister had 3 babies after 40. He is close to these cousins, who are around his age so I am not sure why it is such a shock to him. He's never done the math I guess.

When I made the comment that I had no idea I "could" be pregnant I was referring to my personal situation. DH and I have gone birth control-free for over 6 years now and no oops as of yet. I rarely noticed that ovulated throughout that 6 years and didn't even noticed I ovulated when I conceived. I didn't mean that I didn't think I could get pregnant over 40. I definitely know that's a possibility. I know plenty of women who have done it successfully. Just wanted to clarify that.

[Kristin0105]

Hi ladies may I join? Although, I'm not sure I'm really ready to join as I just got my BFP this week and I'm not sure it's going to last. But in the meantime I'm 43 and newly pregnant after over a year of trying. My first was born when I was 39. I expect this pregnancy, if it lasts, to be as easy as the last. I feel as healthy today as I did back then.

I have a question for you ladies who work out. At what point do you modify your abdominal workouts? I use the nautilus weight machine that works the rectus abdominus muscle. (I call it the abdominal torture chair) I know there will be a point I need to modify to a less difficult exercise but when? Do I just wait and see what my body says or back off when I am through the first trimester?

Originally Posted by ElliesMomma

we are gardeners, and i'm planning my usual 25 x 50 vegetable garden, plus squash, pumpkins, etc. elsewhere in the yard. i will take precautions of wearing gloves when touching the soil, and drinking extra water when outside in the heat, and going slow/quitting when tired, but otherwise planning for usual level of activity this year.

plus will take DD to the swimming pool every day if possible (i SAH with her). we aren't taking any summer vacation however, as we just completed an expensive house addition this winter. still working on resettling the place too.

how about everyone else: is it business as usual for you this spring/summer, or are you making changes to your lifestyle on account of being pregnant?

elliesMomma. May I ask why you will be wearing gloves when gardening? I garden too and hate wearing gloves. Is it because of the possibility of toxoplasmosis? I am planning on doing everything I normally do but probably not being outside in the middle of the day except when taking dd to the pool. The humidity here is stifling in the summer.

[catemom]

Good Morning ladies!

Hi Kristin0105 I love this thread with all the 40+ moms-to-be! I was doing regular pilates (not prenatal) on the reformer until 28 wks. because 1) my instructor was very knowledgeable about doing pilates safely during pregnancy, 2) it was starting to be really hard to keep up, 3) it was no longer feeling good, and 4) I was getting a lot of really intense BH contrax after classes. I would make sure you have someone who really knows something about exercise and pregnancy guiding you if you continue to go to the gym. If it starts feeling weird or uncomfortable--stop.

BTW, one of the stories in Spiritual Midwifery features a 47-yr old woman who got pregnant unexpectedly after being on a "health kick" with her new partner.

[gon2be]

I just posted in the Dec due date club, so I guess I should introduce myself here as well. I'm another over 40 mom-to-be! I'll be 41 in a couple of weeks and I just found out I'm pregnant with our fourth. Like Kristin, I'm cautiously optimistic, but am in good health and have never had any problems getting pregnant or staying that way. This was a surprise, but our other kids(ds10, dd7, dd4) are all thrilled and so are dh and I. I am due mid-Dec. and will be making an international move this summer. Should be interesting!

[veganmama719]

Welcome Kristin (nice to see you here chica) and gon2be. I had my kids at 35 and 36 and will 42 before this little man is born.

I am still doing ab exercises with my trainer once a week. I don't do them lying on my back at this point but we still do ab work on the stability ball, standing ab work etc. I am 24.5 weeks. I think as long as you are not doing it flat on your back for extended periods, you were used to doing it before your PG and you pay attention to what your body is telling you, it is fine to continue as long as you are comfortable.

Man, the small hill on my street up to the main flat area where I run is killing me! I might have to start walking up there and starting my run on the flats soon!

[beachlover]

Another newbie to this thread. I'm Kat, mama to a large family and love almost every minute of it...lol

I'm 8.5 weeks pregnant, and this is my 6th pregnancy after 35, but sadly we did lose 2 of them.

I've done much testing in the past, but honestly it sucked the joy out of pregnancy for me, so last time, I cut it down, and this time I'd like to cut it down even farther, barring any true complications.

If I could wave a magic wand and get my wishes to come true, I'd do one u/s with the peri at about 16 weeks, get wonderful results and enjoy the rest of my pregnancy...LOL

I guess only time will tell. I'm 42 btw, and will be 43 when this little one is born in November.

My pre AMA pregnancies were all wonderful and actually my post AMA pregnancies that went to term were too, other than some high B/P this last time.

Looks like there are quite a few of us in this thread. How great!!!

[Kristin0105]

Thanks Veganmama I'm still feeling a little surreal about this pregnancy. I guess because it took so long. But I keep waiting for my period to start and today while swimming in the pool alone (so I had plenty of time for introspection) I had this funny thought of what if I'm not really pregnant but it's menopause. I immediately started laughing at the absurdity of the thought but it was a good insight into how I can't quite grasp the concept that yes I am finally pregnant.

I think you guys are right about the working out I will keep doing my workout routine and just modify as need be. I was concerned about the ab machine but my guess is by the time it would actually could be a problem I won't be able to use it anyway. I did read on line that you shouldn't lift weights over your head when pregnant but I'm not sure why. It didn't explain if they meant free weights, machines, or both.

Welcome Kat.

[veganmama719]

Kristin, I lift weights over my head all the time at my once a week training session. My trainer has 5 kids of her own and has researched the yay's and no's.

[gon2be]

Thanks for the welcome. I'm keeping to my regular workout routine, since I don't believe exercise causes miscarriage. I run three times a week, bike, take yoga, and lift weights twice a week at home. With my three previous pregnancies, I ran until it didn't feel good any more, first time 7 months, then 5.5 then 4 months. Mostly it was the baby bouncing on my bladder that made me stop each time:

[ElliesMomma]

i think it's great advice to stay as active as possible as far along in pregnancy as possible. i had just turned 38 when i had my daughter. i moved house during my pregnancy including digging out and replanting an acre's worth of plants. i also worked up to the day before i gave birth. i had not planned to have an unmedicated delivery, but that's what i experienced, due to the fact that i stayed home through all of my labor, and got to the hospital at 10 cm and about to transition. my first thought after giving birth was: yeah, i could do that again!

congrats to all the pregnant over 35 mommas! i think it's a great sign of good health that we are pregnant at our "advanced maternal ages."

[Kristin0105]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

Kristin, I lift weights over my head all the time at my once a week training session. My trainer has 5 kids of her own and has researched the yay's and no's.

Good to know Veganmama. I am not sure why they would say not lifting over head.

[Mom2M]

Hi again ladies,

Well, slowly this is becoming less like a dream and going to the OB for the 1st visit today really gave me a dose of reality.
We went over all my meds and I was surprised to hear that he recommends continuing all of them as they are, that none are bad!
That was one of my biggest fears, that the meds I've been on were going to have caused some kind of terrible consequences for a baby.
Also, they did a blood test and my hcg level is so high (and I'm having such bad morning sickness) that I'm having an u/s tomorrow to see if there is more than 1!!!
I am SO hoping that there is not!

as far as working out, I'm a huge gym fanatic and have been unable to do cadio for about 4-5 weeks! I try and my body simply refuses to cooperate, it's very frustrating! I would like to run!
At least lifting is still going well.

Hope you are all having a good night,

Deb