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post #141 of 437
It is really a tough decision. I got a call yesterday and they set up appts for Tues. the 21st. First the counseling, then a scan and then the CVS. I'm really nervous but it is the last week to possibly do CVS so I set it up and I guess we can still back out if we change our minds at the counseling session.
I don't want to wait so late to do an amnio if that is necessary, you know?

Last pregnancy I felt awesome and like I was absolutely sure that it would be wonderful and did no tests except the one blood test and the nuchial fold. But this time I'm extremely worried, I don't know why, really and it was magnified by the statistics the nurse gave me in that initial visit.

On the positive side, I woke up feeling less sick! So maybe I can stop eating every time I feel that overwhelming nausea and drop a few of these 10 pounds I gained in the last few weeks!

The weather is supposed to be beautiful starting tomorrow for the rest of the week and weekend so I cannot wait to get out in the garden. I have big plans this year to really move toward being much more self sustaining.

Hope everyone is doing great today!
Deb
post #142 of 437
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On the positive side, I woke up feeling less sick! So maybe I can stop eating every time I feel that overwhelming nausea and drop a few of these 10 pounds I gained in the last few weeks!

The weather is supposed to be beautiful starting tomorrow for the rest of the week and weekend so I cannot wait to get out in the garden. I have big plans this year to really move toward being much more self sustaining.
i'm confused. you gained weight early in pregnancy and want to lose some of 10 pounds? i don't think that's advisable (to try to lose weight now).

i gained about 10 pounds early on, and have struggled to gain the past two months. it happened naturally. i go to the doctor (midwife) today, they wanted me to at least not lose this time. i probably gained a bit. i've had to focus on eating. sometimes i'm just not hungry.

i'm right there with you with the gardening. i put in the following seeds already: spinach, lettuce, peas. and have started indoors: tomato, egg plant, pepper, broccoli, cauliflower, and am tending those sprouts.

we had a self sustaining garden last year. we filled our deep freezer, and had so much extra i spent a lot of time harvesting, cleaning and giving away.

trying to eliminate the give aways this year since it was a huge time suck for me, and this year i need to conserve my energies for the pregnancy.
post #143 of 437
It really depends on mom's size and caregivers WRT losing weight in pregnancy. For moms that have alot of extra pounds there is some research that indicates weight loss in pregnancy isn't entirely bad (not that I agree with it, but it is there).

I am feeling a little better and haven't gained anything yet. MW isn't worried. Nausea is finally coming down to managable levels and I can make it thru the day on 8 or 9 hours of sleep instead of 10-12. I'm 18 weeks today, feeling baby move a little.

I'm off to another state for a job interview tomorrow - wish me luck... if it goes well, I will be telling them about the pg then.
post #144 of 437
I guess it really isn't a good idea to lose weight, huh. I'm just frustrated because I never gained 10 pounds by 11 weeks! I'm still at a normal weight, I guess I should just concentrate on eating healthy food now instead of the junk food that seemed to be the only thing that would stay down!

It is actually sleeting right now! And supposed to be 70 tmorrow, I can't wait!

Deb
post #145 of 437

6 phone calls today RE: US tomorrow

1) OB- appointment reminder
2)billing specialist--insurance
3)Genecisit's office--calling to confirm
4)Genetic Counselor--yeah that was fun
5)OB- genecist does not have previous records
6)Intake at the hospital--arrive 15 min early
sheech they make it seem like you are at HI risk for everything
oh and they offered me an amnio "in case I changed my mind", since I have declined this a half dozen times already
I should have lied about my age from the beginning
as it is I have been worried enough because this pregnancy is so different than with DD like I need their reinfocement

thanks for listening to my vent
post #146 of 437
mamamia, sounds like the office is more than a little disorganized, and/or micromanaged.

AFM, i had my monthly visit today with the midwife in the practice. liked her. found out i have an anterior placenta, which i suspected b/c although i have been feeling "pops" and what i would describe as "kicks" since around 14 weeks, i have yet to have the "flutter" sensation i had with my first pregnancy.

baby's heart rate was 156. we go for the big ultrasound on 5/4. i'm secretly hoping for another girl, but telling everyone we will be happy either way and take what we get! if it's a boy, it's good too. if it's a girl, i will have a sister for my daughter, which is something i never had, growing up with three brothers.

pretty sure this is our last child.

my SIL is due around the same day as me and her belly is huge already. seriously huge, like 8 months pregnant huge. my midwife felt my uterus and said my size was perfect. though i feel small in comparison to SIL.

oh one more thing that happened to me recently, i described the experience in a post to my DDC and got a reply that hit the diagnosis right on the head: visual migraine. the other day, after cleaning and organizing and watching DD the usual all day (it was a cold rainy day and we stayed in; DH is home on vacation and we both just worked and worked around the house all day), i experienced a very weird visual disturbance, where the left eyesight had a square shaped "prism" of shimmering light, that made it very very hard to read and see normally. i was afraid i was having a stroke! i was stressed and fatigued, and decided to lay down in a quiet room and see if it went away, and it did after 10 minutes. according to the experts, migraines - visual and the headache kind - can be brought on with pregnancy (hormones) and the visual migraine is harmless (unless you are driving/doing otherwise sight dependent things, in which case you are to pull over, etc./wait it out). they say it is *not* related to being 40+.

hope you all are doing well.
post #147 of 437
mammamia that sounds like too much for 1 day! Sometimes it seems like a regular job keeping up with dr appts for me,lol.
Hope your u/s goes well.

ElliesMomma that must have been very weird. I've heard of that but never experienced it!

I'm really hoping for a sister for DD too. I have my two older boys then my wonderful surprise DD! Now since we are actually pg again, unexpectedly, I think it would be great for her. I love being close to my sister.
post #148 of 437
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oh one more thing that happened to me recently, i described the experience in a post to my DDC and got a reply that hit the diagnosis right on the head: visual migraine. the other day, after cleaning and organizing and watching DD the usual all day (it was a cold rainy day and we stayed in; DH is home on vacation and we both just worked and worked around the house all day), i experienced a very weird visual disturbance, where the left eyesight had a square shaped "prism" of shimmering light, that made it very very hard to read and see normally. i was afraid i was having a stroke! i was stressed and fatigued, and decided to lay down in a quiet room and see if it went away, and it did after 10 minutes. according to the experts, migraines - visual and the headache kind - can be brought on with pregnancy (hormones) and the visual migraine is harmless (unless you are driving/doing otherwise sight dependent things, in which case you are to pull over, etc./wait it out). they say it is *not* related to being 40+.
I get these too. I've slowed them down in my regular life, but every pg I have at least 2. The really important thing is being able to lie down when they start and possibly sleep. If you can rest during the visual stage then you often avoid the headache, if you tough it out it's sometimes a day of headache or longer.
post #149 of 437
Hi ladies, I'd like suggestions of preventing and eliminating swelling in my feet. I am only 6 weeks pregnant and already my toes and ankles are starting to swell. Last pregnancy it didn't start until 5 months. And swimming everyday eliminated it. I've been swimming 30-65 minutes a day this week and it's not helping. Any suggestions? Foods to avoid? Try? Thanks
post #150 of 437
Hello, Ladies. May I join you? I'm going to be 39 next month and this is baby #6 for me. I have 5 daughters ages 17, 10, 8, 3 and almost 2, so I am assuming this will be another girl. I'm only about 5 weeks, I believe, so I just started telling family and close friends. Some of the responses have not been very supportive. I'm not sure if it's my age or the number of kids I have, but I think I've only gotten 2 "congratulations." Mostly I get comments like, "They know what causes that now," or my personal favorite, "Better you than me." Why can't people just be happy for me?

I'm happy to find a group of older moms here. I'm finding I feel pretty alone right now.
post #151 of 437
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On the positive side, I woke up feeling less sick! So maybe I can stop eating every time I feel that overwhelming nausea and drop a few of these 10 pounds I gained in the last few weeks!
good luck. I gained right around 12 lbs in the first trimester and last week I noticed I lost 3 lbs and then a few days later was back up 5 lbs. ugh. I can't believe how much I've gained so far. I keep reminding myself it's for a good reason, it's for a good reason. But right now I just feel like I'm getting fat because my belly isn't really there and I still haven't felt the baby move yet.
post #152 of 437
Welcome osburnsa!
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Mostly I get comments like, "They know what causes that now," or my personal favorite, "Better you than me." Why can't people just be happy for me?
That's so rude. I never thought I'd have more than 2 children because we had a boy and a girl and everyone kept saying it was good and a lot of the people I know have two kids and no more than that, especially those in my family. Then I got pregnant with # 3 and it's the most wonderful feeling now to know that I will have another child. I can't wait to see if it looks like it's big bro or big sis or if it will have it's own look, will it look more like dad, more like me, what will the baby's personality be, the list goes on, etc, etc. I just can't wait!!! It's so exciting.
post #153 of 437
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I'm happy to find a group of older moms here. I'm finding I feel pretty alone right now.
welcome, my mom is one of 4 girls; having a house full of girls must be so much fun!!

blessings
post #154 of 437
Hi ladies and welcome to all the newbies, congratulations on your pregnancies.

I am 26 weeks now and this little man is quite the gymnast. I have gained 15 lbs but look HUGE. There is a woman in my yoga class who is two weeks behind me, first baby, and she has this adorable little bump. I look like I am having triplets. I know it is my third baby but sheesh!

Still able to run (more like waddle/jog) 3 miles slowly.

I will be 42 in 3 weeks and the baby is due late July.
post #155 of 437
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I'm only about 5 weeks, I believe, so I just started telling family and close friends. Some of the responses have not been very supportive. I'm not sure if it's my age or the number of kids I have, but I think I've only gotten 2 "congratulations." Mostly I get comments like, "They know what causes that now," or my personal favorite, "Better you than me." Why can't people just be happy for me?
People can just be real idiots sometimes.

Congratulations!!!
post #156 of 437
Good morning!

Regarding people's reactions...I haven't told anyone except 1 friend. I cannot imagine what they will say

I had the CVS yesterday and it went well, I think. They did an u/s before it and the baby was jumping around and kicking his legs straight out and waving! It was hilarious! The tech was laughing and said she usually didn't see this so early. I swear I can feel it moving too and I never expected that so early.
Anyway, they also kept monitoring the whole time and then afterward too and everything looked fine.
After everyone left and it was just the tech checking on the baby, she told me she bets everything will be normal because he really looks good.

I'll find out in 2-3 days if there are any major things and the rest in a couple weeks. You still have to do the afp test to check for neural tube defects because that doesn't show on here.

No cramping or anything afterward so I hope everything is ok.

Hope everyone is having a good day,

Deb
post #157 of 437
i got my afp results back this week. the postcard said "within normal limits" and handwritten was something along the lines of "low risk for your age range."

so i guess that's good news!
post #158 of 437
That's great Mom2M and Elliesmom! I am glad your results looked good.

I also get the crazy looks since I am having #3 at my age and in my profession (hardly any women and the few that we have tend to have their kids, if any, before they start).

I alos have a girl and a boy already so I am think people are less understanding of wanting a third when you already have one of each. Which is silly.

If I had 2 girls already and was trying for a boy I thik people would be more on board.

However, I don't give a rat's behind what they all think.
post #159 of 437
Hello Old Ladies!!!!

I am 39...had ds when I was 37 and this dd will be born a few weeks before I turn 40

I am 24 weeks...due Aug

being old is sooo tiring...lol

in my early 30's (actually until I was 5 mos pg with ds) I used to run every day...competed in triathlons.....

now I am over weight and tired....
you really do have to work sooo much harder when you are old...lol

got to get off my duff!
post #160 of 437
I don't know I don't think I am any more tired than I would be at any other age. I work out for an hour and a half lifting weights and doing cardio MWF, and I swim an hour+ T TH Sat. I do want a nap in the afternoons but I think that's normal in any pregnancy at any age. For me a lot depends on attitude. I definitely don't feel old at all. I feel the same as I did at 25.

I spoke to the HB midwife last night. I think I'm going to like her but she said her bill is usually $6,900-$10,000 per birth. Yikes! DH is still looking for a job so that is a scary amount of money. She suggested I apply for medicaid since we no longer have health insurance. She said medicaid will cover all but $2,000. I am not sure what I will do. I have a few weeks to decide before I have to go in for whatever testing we are going to do.
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