Tribe for pregnant and over 35? - Page 9

[Mom2M]

Ouch that's a big bill, Kristin! I am so grateful and lucky to have insurance. What a system we have that some are covered so well and others have nothing! :

I definitely do not feel old! In fact, I feel wonderful! My m/s is absent today and has been easing off for the past few days so hopefully is gone! So...I went out for a run this morning and did 3 easy miles! yippee!

I did a marathon a couple years ago and was at an alumni party and this coach was getting me so pumped up to try a 1/2 ironman. I wish I could do it this year but looks like it is out till next year, lol
He swore he could teach me to swim as long as I can float and put my head in the water!

So, how is everyone feeling? It's hot here today and time to get back in the garden!

Deb

[Kristin0105]

Deb I just noticed that your dd is a just a few weeks older than mine. At what point will you tell her you are having a baby? I can't decide how soon we will tell her most assuredly after our test results are in but how long after that I am not sure. She just entered a stage of "I think babies are stupid" Nice(hardly), it's something she picked up at the daycare at the gym. Prior to that she was begging for a baby. I hope by the time we tell her, she will be back to wanting a sibling.

[osburnsa]

I'm feeling pretty good. Really tired, but as symptoms go it's not too bad. The pregnancy hormones are starting to kick in and alleviate some of fibromyalgia pain so I'm very grateful for that. Morning sickness is still almost non-existent. I know it's still early, but I'm hoping things stay like this.

[Mom2M]

I don't know when we will tell Madeleine! Before I got pregnant, she would ask for a baby too!
So after I found out, I kind of was hinting around and she was very much the oh I don't care...
Then DH told me he asked her last week if she would like a baby brother or sister and she said no thanks, lol

After all the tests are done, we will probably tell her when I get big enough to really show. I know that as soon as we do she will tell everyone else and I still haven't told any of my family!

Meanwhile, I've just kind of been asking if she would rather have a sister or brother and once in a while talking about how that would be fun.

Deb

[Kristin0105]

That is what I have been doing just talking about what fun a brother or sister might be. I am getting the impression she is worried her milk supply would be in jeopardy. And at the moment she is adamant she does not want a baby here. What a change a montyh has made, it's almost as if she senses her time as the total center of the universe may be limited.

[ElliesMomma]

hi everyone, i'm glad to see this thread reviving! my DD just turned three. we eased into telling her about the baby, but it wasn't hard. since she comes along for all of the doctor appointments, along with DH. the first one, when they did an u/s at 9 weeks, we told her we were checking to see if there was another baby in my belly, like she was before she was born. there was! we didn't talk about it too much until we were past the "danger" zone for m/c. now at almost 20 weeks, we talk about it quite a bit.

DD actually gave me the first clue i was pregnant, before i missed my period. she told me the milk was "empty". i told her to keep nursing anyway and it will eventually come back. she has.

AFM, i've been telling my friends that i'm having the kind of pregnancy that someone could have when they don't even know they are pregnant. i haven't had any m/s (didn't with DD either), and now that i know i have an anterior placenta, it explains why i don't feel much movement going on (although i do feel some shifting and kicking occasionally, and have felt it since 14 weeks, but it's not very pronounced like it was with DD).

and of course, being that i'm 41, i technically *could* be one of these women who just thinks they are beginning menopause and that's why they've missed their periods. (not that i'm like that at all. i don't expect to hit menopause for some more years yet, my mom and her sister both went closer to 50+). but it is a quiet pregnancy.

although all signs are good. every time i see the midwife or the OB, the heartbeat has been strong and the u/s i had at 13 weeks (NT scan) showed an active baby that was appropriate size. also my NT test and blood work have come back low risk for Down's and spina bifida.

i'm looking forward to the big u/s a week from tomorrow! kinda nervous to find out if it's a boy or a girl. secretly hoping for another girl but preparing myself for the possibilty of boy. in a lot of ways i figure it's good news either way, although i envision life a lot easier if it's two girls.

how's everyone else doing in their pregnancies? have a good weekend?

someone mentioned gardening. we've got a fair amount in already. spinach is sprouting, as is lettuce and peas. we planted potato starts recently, onion sets and my broccoli and cauliflower sprouts. today i seeded beets and swiss chard. we had a ton of rain in the past couple days, maybe 3.5 inches! i was relieved that my broc and cauli sprouts seem to be doing fine, they weren't beaten down. DH is helping as we do just one section of the garden at a time (DD helps too). this enables me to just focus on the sprouts or the seeds. he generally gets down on his knees and digs the holes or trenches. he's also great about weeding.

oh, forgot to mention, we harvested the first of our asparagus today! yum!

[darcytrue]

asparagus, yum!

It was beautiful weather here this weekend too. We got outside a lot. We all went bike riding over the weekend,which is our usual weekend ritual as a family all spring, summer and fall. However, this was my first time back out on my bike since last year. It felt great! I didn't think I could keep up now that I'm 18 weeks (and 18 lbs heavier ) but I surprised myself. I plan to keep that up as long as possible.

[CalmCenter]

Yes 36 and this is my first!

I turned 36 a month ago and got preg a week after. :

My partner and I went through 2 abortions this year so it is a huge relief to be pregnant again and truly ready this time.

[Dmitrizmom]

Still trucking along. 20 weeks in 2 days. Saw movement on my belly last night - made me think of Aliens. Little stinker refuses to move when dh has his hand on my belly.

Trying to find energy and motivation. We are moving in about 4 weeks and don't have a new place lined up yet (going to new town this weekend to hunt for a rental house). I've got 2 weeks of teaching left, then finals, then ILs in town for 3-4 days... too much to do and too little time to do it in. oh... and also have appointments scheduled for dental and vision for me and both of the kids besides my mw appointment.

Very much stressing finding a hb mw in the new location - I really don't want to go to the hospital. Sigh. I've already posted in FYT and am waiting for a PM from one member with a potential mw.

New job starts June 1. Dh will be staying home with the kids - at least for a while.... he might try to get a job with hours opposite of mine so that we can have a little more $$, but still keep the kids out of daycare.

[Mamatoabunch]

Hi! I'd love to join you all. I am 35 and expecting our 10th baby. This will be our 7th UC, 6th doing my own prenatal care.

[Shield]

I belong here. I'm 38, will be 39 when this little one comes in December. Feeling strange to be pregnant with gray hairs poking all over. But God blessed us with another miracle and we're making the most of it!

[veganmama719]

Welcome to all then newbies! Nice to see so many of us.

Yikes Kristin, that is quite a bill! We are fortunate that midwifery care is covered here in Ontario by the provinacial governement.

My DD begged for "just two more babies" for about 2 years. She didn't know we were trying and had 2 miscarriages. Now that she has realized she will not get to go to the in-school daycare before and after school in Sept 2010 which is what would have happened had she not had another baby sibling, she has said we should out the new baby up for adoption!

Of course, by the time Sept 2010 rolls around she will hopefully be madly in love with her 14 month old brother so it shouldn't be an issue.

But right now she is not happy at all!

I am not feeling old either, even though I will be 42 in a couple of weeks. I don't notice any difference from my last 2 pregnancies. granted I was "old" then too, LOL!
But maybe if I'd had babies in my twenties I would really feel a difference, LOL!

I am still running 3 times a week (albeit a bit slower!), still going to yoga 1-2 times a week and meeting with a personal trainer once a week.

[Kristin0105]

Yes, hi to all the newbies. I think it is so great there are so many of us mature moms out there. It makes me feel really happy I'm not alone . Very cool. I was doing some calculating the other day and from what I can figure my mom's mom was 45 when her youngest was born. My dad's mom had 13 children so I am guessing she had to be in her 40's with at least her last baby. I am going to ask my dad if he remembers.

Yes, VM your health care system, as well as all the really cool things about Canada which I love, is one of the reasons I fantasize about moving there some day.

Elliesmom we have been so lucky this spring we have already harvested peas, carrots, lettuce, broccoli rhab, broccoli, spinach, and beets. Now we are waiting for the warm weather crops to grow. My daughter and I planted our cool weather crops in December and then my husband put up some metal hoops and covered it with plastic sheeting. It worked out perfectly. This was the best spring garden ever. We usually miss out on spring crops because it gets too hot here so early. This year December might be difficult since I am due on the 10th so I hope to get them in in November so we won't miss out next spring. I love gardening and I love watching my dd ask if she can go get a nack fromt he garden she says she is eating like a rabbit!

[ElliesMomma]

Originally Posted by Kristin0105

Yes, hi to all the newbies. I think it is so great there are so many of us mature moms out there. It makes me feel really happy I'm not alone . Very cool. I was doing some calculating the other day and from what I can figure my mom's mom was 45 when her youngest was born. My dad's mom had 13 children so I am guessing she had to be in her 40's with at least her last baby. I am going to ask my dad if he remembers.

Yes, VM your health care system, as well as all the really cool things about Canada which I love, is one of the reasons I fantasize about moving there some day.

Elliesmom we have been so lucky this spring we have already harvested peas, carrots, lettuce, broccoli rhab, broccoli, spinach, and beets. Now we are waiting for the warm weather crops to grow. My daughter and I planted our cool weather crops in December and then my husband put up some metal hoops and covered it with plastic sheeting. It worked out perfectly. This was the best spring garden ever. We usually miss out on spring crops because it gets too hot here so early. This year December might be difficult since I am due on the 10th so I hope to get them in in November so we won't miss out next spring. I love gardening and I love watching my dd ask if she can go get a nack fromt he garden she says she is eating like a rabbit!

what state are you in? a december garden sounds wonderful! we're in illinois, and just endured the longest, hardest winter in 10 years...

[Kristin0105]

VM that is just too funny about your dd. I just hope mine decides to love this lo and not want to send her or him back.

We are in NC so we have summer and not summer. Spring last 3 weeks. It was 90 degrees all last week. Every year I try to live without AC until June 1st and every year I fail miserably as soon as the humidity arrives in May. This year I really hope I can hang in there so we can keep out elec. bill reasonable.

So those of you who work out regularly. Do you increase your fitness at all during pregnancy or do you just try to maintain? I read you should just maintain so I stopped trying to increase the weights I lift but quite frankly I am getting bored I like a challenge so I went ahead and upped my weights this week. Is there some medical reason not to try to become more fit? It makes no sense not to but I thought I would check just in case I am missing something.

[Kidzaplenty]

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[Mom2M]

Welcome to all the new ladies!

Kristin, it must be amazing to be able to grow so much all year! I live in PA so we were just able to plant not long ago. I didn't get everything planted yet, either. Hopefully the rest this weekend, it's been crazy trying to work a couple days plus get back to the gym and fit in dr appts!

As far as working out, last pregnancy I didn't get this really bad m/s and I continued to increase my workouts as I felt like it with no problems. Though some people said that's why she flipped around at the end!

This time, I've been so horribly sick and nauseated that I have cut back drastically and I feel awful not working out.
But every time I tried to do something besides walk, I would throw up or just feel sick.

Now that's easing a bit some days so I'm back at the gym a few days this week and ran a couple days and I expect to just work out according to how I feel. I don't like holding back and getting bored with it.
I also do yoga and last time thought prenatal yoga was so slow and not enough for my practice and just added in astanga yoga too. You just have to be careful not to do poses that are contraindicated for pregnancy.

Oh yeah, there is a used racing trike on craigslist I just might get! I want to do a century ride in October and there is no way to do it on a regular bike so if I try it and it feels good, I'm going to do it!

VM that is funny! I bet she'll love the new baby! I've talked a little more with M and she's now excited but we haven't actually said anything definite to her about it. I guess I still want to wait a while to make sure everything's ok.

Mamatoabunch wow! It amazes me to hear about UC. I can't imagine it when I really think about it applied to myself.
I'd love a midwife though, but none would take me last time or this time because of my MS.

oh, well. gotta do some exercise before I feel sick, lol

Have a great weekend everyone!

Deb

[Ms. Cellaneous]

Hi everyone! Happy to join you! I actually just turned 35 last week; expecting my first child at the end of October.

It's been a long road to get here (not as long as some, I guess, but it sure felt long to me!) -- started trying about a year and a half ago, got pg right away, had a "missed" miscarriage, then ttc for another year with no results. (My personal theory is that the m/c somehow "reset" my cycles and my luteal period was too short.) Went on Clomid in January, got a BFP on Valentines Day. Wow, that all seems like ancient history now. Still, after 9 +HPTs, two successful ultrasounds, and 14 weeks, I'm still struggling a little bit to believe that this is really real, and that I'm really going to have a baby. But I sure hope I am!

I got the nt scan and bloodwork two weeks ago and heard back from my dr that "everything looks good." I hope they give me the exact numbers as others have gotten. I love data. And of course hopefully "everything looks good" translates into no need for amnio. Fingers crossed.

On the hair dye issue mentioned up-thread, I went without it during the first tri just out of an abundance of caution. It was not pretty. I had thought that, after experimenting with a bunch of different shades, I'd dyed my hair back to pretty much its natural color -- but apparently not. Plus there was a lot of grey. Recently I used a vegetable-based dye (Herbatint) in an auburn color and love the results. It didn't smell up the bathroom and it didn't make my scalp itch at all -- definitely never going back to my normal drugstore brand!

Well I've rambled long enough. Hope everyone has a great weekend!

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

I am not feeling old either, even though I will be 42 in a couple of weeks. I don't notice any difference from my last 2 pregnancies. granted I was "old" then too, LOL!
But maybe if I'd had babies in my twenties I would really feel a difference, LOL!

I had my first child in my late 20's and I can say that I felt a little different at that time. I was a lot more active and had more energy. I don't remember late nights being hard on me like they were when I had my second child at 33 years old. It was a lot harder doing those night awakenings when I was in my 30's so I'm wondering how it that part will be now that I'm in my 40's.

Originally Posted by veganmama

I am still running 3 times a week (albeit a bit slower!), still going to yoga 1-2 times a week and meeting with a personal trainer once a week.

wow. I do good to mow the yard right now and ride my bike once per week. For some reason it makes my butt bone and lower back hurt if I do too much, ouch! And I've never had pain in those areas. But I attribute the pain to me not moving around and doing much so far in this pregnancy. I need to get more active before I get any bigger.

[gon2be]

HI all.
Back from a busy couple of weeks of vacation and guests. Still pregnant, 8 weeks now. Starting to feel the tiniest bit off food, not really morning sickness, just lack of desire for food.
My other three kids have been begging me for ages to have another baby, so I told them right away and they were thrilled. Told our families too and some friends right away as well. This is a big change for me because last time I waited more than three months to tell people. With this pregnancy being a surprise, I felt like telling other people would help me be excited about it, and it has. My first reaction when I suspected I might be pregnant was total panic, but I'm calmer now.
Oh, and I turned 41 during our vacation, so I'm officially an old pregnant lady!