i have an update. had my 20 week u/s today. it's a boy! have to admit, i'm a little disappointed, as i wanted another girl, a sister for my daughter. but i'm trying to look on the upside, although i'm still seeing the negatives. having to juggle around our house for bedrooms (eventually -- not for a few years anyway), having to acquire boys clothes. having to part with DD's cute baby girl clothes.
i'm pretty sure this is the last for us. although part of me now wants to try for a third. however i would be terrified of having a second boy, instead of getting a second girl. oh well. i'm gonna let it sit for awhile and maybe i'll feel better in a few weeks.
my u/s was all good. it was done by "high risk OBs". the doctor said they are "obsessive compulsive" about searching for defects and "markers" for downs and trisomies, and they found nothing wrong with our baby. he weighed 13 oz. as of this morning. they reviewed my bloodwork and NT scan, which indicated a 1/1241 risk for downs, which he said was comparable with being a 30 year old pregnant woman. the risk for other trisomies is 1/600, which to me seems like a poor risk, but he said the cut off for "high risk" for those is 1/100, and coupled with their exhaustive search for anatomical markers which in our case turned up nothing wrong, he would be very surprised if there was any trisomy going on in our case, and he said i shouldn't worry about trisomies.
so that was good news.
my husband seems happy to be having a boy. my daughter was a little confused i think. she was saying she wanted a sister, but at the same time, adamant that she's going to be a big brother. so the fact that the situation is in fact reversed has her a bit befuddled (she just turned three). she then said she wanted to be a girl. i said you are! and you always will be!! ahhhhh.
i truly hope i can love my son as much as i love my daughter.
it's not that i don't like boys, just that i had three brothers and no sister growing up and in my family, the boys so dominated, and it wasn't altogether good for me. i guess if i quit with two kids, and the girl is already the oldest, then the boy energy doesn't have to rule around here. (i guess that's my fear. and a reason for why i wouldn't have the nerve to go for child number three).
ok i've rambled enough! hope you all are doing well with your pregnancies!
veganmomma: how did you hurt yourself? or did you just wake up with it? that sounds awful. so you are basically reduced to barely walking now? yikes. your commute, your lifestyle, your taking care of the other kids. back pain like that is the worst. it's almost like being forced onto bed rest, which is another of my fears.
which reminds me, by the way, of one more thing from my appointment today. based on bloodwork, they said a PAPP-MOM element of my blood showed a slightly lower chemical for something re: how well the placenta functions. right now the baby's size is right on, but they want to monitor me with serial u/s. next is 25 weeks, then another at 29, in case the growth slows. i asked what would be the remedy if it did happen to slow. bed rest was one, delivering early was another. yikes! even if i'm not particularly hungry, i'm gonna keep eating to try to make sure this little one stays on track for size. i can't see me going on bed rest with my active toddler. and delivering early - yikes! i'm hoping for another unmedicated delivery. hoping it will be as smooth as last time. the last thing i want is induction.
ok, think positive, as of now, all is well.
hope you feel better soon, veganmomma.