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post #21 of 437
I'll join in. I'm 35, will be 36 when babe comes. This is #3 for me: ds is 8yo and dd is 5.5 yo.

I'm passing on all of the genetic screening tests. Debating skipping the GTT. Don't plan on any US. Debating whether or not I will go to the hospital when the time comes (plenty of time to decide yet). My biggest worry is that I will not get the type of care I want due to my age and weight (never mind that I weighed more when pg w/ dd). Also looking at moving states in mid-pregnancy - so will be changing care providers regardless. I would just go w/ hb mw, but $$ and the move make it not the best of options currently.

I go for my first appointment next Tuesday.
post #22 of 437
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Originally Posted by ElliesMomma View Post
i'm really on the fence about the NT scan and blood work. i'm 12 weeks, so it's decision time. i have a NT appointment scheduled for next week, but am considering cancelling it. a big part of me says don't go looking for trouble. i can't see aborting for downs syndrome, and my understanding is that the other worse conditions are exceedingly rare.

i am a big worrier, so i'm really much more concerned about getting a negative, even a false negative, and being consumed with worry for the next six months. also i have the feeling that the baby, if god forbid he/she was affected by downs, it might be better off not knowing until the birth. but i'm not 100 percent convinced of that either. just that my husband might handle it better at that point, versus thinking about the possibilities now. and of course any negative test invites further testing, ie amnio. i just really am not made up my mind on this topic!

last pregnancy i was 37 and did do the bloodwork but nothing else. i had a lower risk of downs then, than would be expected for my age at the time, and that made me feel good.

for what it's worth, i don't feel worried at all about my pregnancy. i have a generally good feeling about it, think all is well, and am expecting another trouble free, uneventful pregnancy.
I understand your hesitating with regard to the testing. I was TERRIFIED to get testing done because I didn't feel pg symptoms until much later and I had convinced myself that something was wrong. I was relieved to get good results. If you get the nuchal fold testing, you will have more reliable test results that are way less invasive than just getting the AFP later, being scared by a false positive, and then feeling compelled to get an amnio. I think knowing early if there is a potential trisomy gives you time to figure out what is the best choice for your family, and to learn and prepare so that you can give a developmentally disabled baby the best life possible.
post #23 of 437
i rescheduled my NT scan appointment for four days earlier. this made me "feel" much better about it. after reviewing the dates, i realized that the original appointment put me in the 14 week range, whereas they want to do you when you are 13 weeks. this is because my actual due date is about 4 days earlier than the due date i was assigned. (i took the later due date in order to be less likely to get induced at the end, etc. -- but for the purposes of this test, thought best to be as accurate as possible.)

they said it was a good thing i called to change it.

so i guess i'm in for the NT scan.
post #24 of 437
: noodlegirl and Dmitrizmom
it's certainly nice to meet all you mamas
i'm 37!
don't know if i should open up this can of worms but how do they figure your odds for downs.....i do worry a little about this but i'm really trying to keep it cool. i'm undecided about the tests as of yet. anybody else worry a bit?
post #25 of 437
Octobermom, in Canada they give you your odds for Down's and spina bifida based on the results of something called and Integrated Pregnancy Screen. it is an ultrasound (including a nuchal fold measurement) and a blood test somewhere between 11 and 13 weeks PG (has to be the same day) and then another bloodtest 3 weeks later.

Mine came back as 1 in 670 chance of Down's wheras the "average" result for my age (almost 42) is 1 in 60. I decided to forgo any further testing. Those results are acually lower than for my other two kids that I had in my mid thirties.

I did have a gross anatomay u/s yesterday mostly to find out gender. My DD was small-ish (6 lb 9 oz) and my son was pretty big (9 lb 5 oz) and had huge shoulders that got stuck during the descent. I pushed for over an hour and nothing happened. Finally I got him unstuck and pushed him out 1.5 hours later. However, his shoulders would not come out within the time frame (3 minutes) so they were just getting ready to break his clavicle when I managed to get him out.

My midwife has some concern that if this is a boy and he is as big or bigger than my DS that I might not be able to get him out. DS's birth was pretty scary.

Anyway, it is a boy. So I will have another ultrasound closer to the date, which I have never sone before. Hopefully to put our minds at ase about the size of the baby.
post #26 of 437
thank you for the info veganmama. and good luck with your boy!
post #27 of 437
You can get odds in a number of ways. There are the generic odds for the average women of your age. At 37 it is around (but don't quote me on this) 1 in 180. You can get a more individual risk analyis by doing either a nuchal test, an AFP test or other bloodwork, or you can combine the NTT and bloodwork for susposedly more accuracy.

I am not a big fan of the bloodwork alone, or even the bloodwork with the NTT. The bloodwork has a history of being quite flawed, especially the AFP, however the combination with the NTT does seem to help. Personally I don't do any of them, but clinically if someone wants risk assesment then NTT with or without blood work is the best way to go.
post #28 of 437
hello! i'm usually a lurker on the boards, but thought i'd join this thread too! i had my first ds when i was 34 and am having a second in june.....just turned 38. i did the first trimester screening but have not gone back for anymore. i did have the big ultrasound, but have only seen my midwife ever since. i feel about the same as i did the first time around......a little more aches and pains maybe...hehe.....but all around it's a healthy pregnancy :-)
my friends are starting their families later as well......in their 30's....nice to meet all you mamas!!
post #29 of 437
Hi everyone, I would like to join your tribe too. Like Jaspermama – I had my first child when I was 34 and will have my second when I am 38 (my birthday is in April). Most of the time I don’t really think about my age, unless my younger DH reminds me!
post #30 of 437
Hello! Great to find this tribe!

I'll be 38 later this month. I'm due in September. I had my first at 35. I'm bypassing the tests too, probably just an US at 20 weeks.
post #31 of 437
What do you do about hair coloring? Back in the day, when I only had a few gray hairs, I would wait until I was out of the 1st tri. But this time, I have a lot more and we just found out I am pg but I am also way due to do my roots. What do other older mamas do?
post #32 of 437
I am 38 and will be 39 when I have the baby.
post #33 of 437
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What do you do about hair coloring? Back in the day, when I only had a few gray hairs, I would wait until I was out of the 1st tri. But this time, I have a lot more and we just found out I am pg but I am also way due to do my roots. What do other older mamas do?
I asked my hairstylist for her advice, and she feels totally comfortable coloring pg women. I do think hairstylists get pg, too. I was kind of on the fence, but I went ahead and did the color. My hair started going gray very early in my 30's. I tried the au naturale look for about a year, but I felt much older that I was, and it wore on me after a while. So, this pg I will try and minimize the colorings as much as possible, but still... Oh, you can also get this colored spray-on hair powder to cover those roots and get another few weeks out of your color...
post #34 of 437
Yeah, I could never let my hair go. Appearance is very important in my profession.
I use a natural haircolour without ammonia and try to do it only once in the first trimester.
post #35 of 437
I think I did read that, that beauticians are in hair color all 9 months and they haven't seen problems.
post #36 of 437
Hello, turning 41 this week -- this is my 3rd child (Due september), I was 35 when I gave birth to my first one. Not doing any testing apart from, maybe???, the 20 week u/s.
post #37 of 437
I've been hair-coloring from the beginning (roughly once every month-and-a-half), having occasional wine and beer, a coffee here and there, sushi frequently (i stick to salmon mostly), and downhill skiied for six days during my 28th week.

Baby is fine so far, and growing very consistently. I'll be 38 in a couple of weeeks and am due April 25th. This is my first/only baby, and there have been no medical issues whatsoever. I refused all optional testing, but I have had three ultrasounds so far (one more on friday for positioning). I have no risk factors other than my age (which I think is bull dinkies) and consider this pregnancy to be "easy" when I compare it to other people's.

Yes, I just jinxed myself and am currently seeking wood to knock on.
post #38 of 437
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Originally Posted by moonInLion View Post
Hello, turning 41 this week -- this is my 3rd child (Due september), I was 35 when I gave birth to my first one. Not doing any testing apart from, maybe???, the 20 week u/s.
i too am only considering the 20week u/s unless my MW indicates otherwise.
post #39 of 437
Hi Mommas,
I'm 43 and skipped all the tests. I drink coffee daily, eat tuna and (gasp) highlight my hair.
This has been a very easy pregnancy - can't complain a bit. But now my due date is this THurs. and I"m very anxious to meet this little person.
post #40 of 437
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What do you do about hair coloring?
I waited until I was 14 weeks then started coloring again. It was ugly that first trimester, but I was so sick that I wasn't leaving the house much anyway so not many people got to see the gray streak at my part.
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