Tribe for pregnant and over 35? - Page 12

[Ms. Cellaneous]

Thanks Jen!

Originally Posted by Kristin0105

This time I am just a big worry wart over everything. I think it must be because it took so long for this pregnancy to happen. I just need some good news that yes this little bean is really in there, healthy, and that she is going to be born after a totally awesome pregnancy and delivery. Okay there are no tests for that last part but I thought I would throw that in there.

Sign me up for the "everything is going to be totally awesome" test! I think that's what I want too. I totally grasp on to every little bit of reassurance and carry it around in my head and obsess over it like a child with a blankie. It did take me a long time TTC as well. I think I'll be totally convinced that I'm actually having a baby maybe when he/she is crowning. Maybe.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by boobs4milk

Oh and POP method wouldn't work for us because DH is an anxious sorta guy, if you know what I mean

uh-huh, ditto that.

DH and I were having this conversation last night about BC and both of us still can't bleieve we went almost seven years with no form of BC and we got preg after only one time of dtd and were both over 40. It's so odd. We both still can't believe it. If we would have wanted to have a baby I bet it wouldn't have happened.

I'm also starting to get tired of that same comment from people - "was it planned or a surprise?" I guess at our age people just don't get pregnant on purpose.

[boobs4milk]

Darcy, I get that too! When we tell people we were trying to conceive, they look at us like we've grown three heads! DH is 43 and I'm 35 and you'd think that we would know what causes that as we've got 6 kids betweens us already :

I'm of the belief that if I'm NOT trying, I'll get preggo right away so we are still talking about the NFP and what else to do to avoid but not do anything harmful to our bodies.

Becca and Krisitin....I'm inventing a happy pill for past TTC'ers and miscarriage/birth/infant/child loss survivors. It's going to be safe and all-natural and well, free too!:

[tofutti]

reaaaaly late to the party

hey there! i just saw this thread and i was so happy to see it. i am gonna sneak in here

i am 39 and due in sept with a girl!
i had DS when i was 37!

i had all the fancy old lady tests (CVS) so if anyone has questions, ask away i also had acupuncture and herbs, so i have one foot in the old world and one in the new, i guess you could say?

glad to be here with the cool squad (uh, ladies who can remember the 70's, ha ha)

d.

p.s. i am so excited, shocked and amazed that we were ever able to get PG...i am an infertility veteran...so, yes, these babies were planned for doesn't make me any less nervous about birth and then having two little ones, though

[Mamatoabunch]

Originally Posted by boobs4milk

Darcy, I get that too! When we tell people we were trying to conceive, they look at us like we've grown three heads! DH is 43 and I'm 35 and you'd think that we would know what causes that as we've got 6 kids betweens us already :

We always say we would love to be blessed again and get the looks like we are nuts. 9 here and I am 35, dh 39.

[Kristin0105]

Okay, ladies I think I need some words of wisdom, and maybe a few prayers if your the prayerful type. I had some kind of dark reddish brown cm yesterday morning after going to the bathroom. And then last night I had a lot of the same it was really stretchy CM with a dark reddish brown color to it. I checked my cervix and it seemed much softer than it had been and less puckered feeling. This morning early no discolored CM and cervix was firm, high, and very puckered. Just noticed a lot more of the reddish-brown CM and cervix is low soft and barely puckered. Okay, I WILL NOT CHECK MY CERVIX AGAIN UNTIL I AM AT 40 WEEKS. I repeat I will not check my cervix again!

Please tell me this is no big deal. I really want this baby and don't want anything to happen to it. I really don't have a care provider yet so I can't even go see anyone to see if they can hear a heart beat, which they probably can't anyway because I am only 10 weeks. So I don't know if it would help for me to go in anyway because if they didn't hear a heartbeat I would just worry. Even though I know it's normal not to be able to hear it at this point. Oy vey. I did contact a hb midwife weeks ago and I'll probably use her but she is really hard to get in touch with and I am not sure if I'll have insurance coverage at this point so I hate to contact her and then the insurance thing not work out. I am trying to remain calm, cool, and collected. I know it doesn't seem that way right now. I have spent all morning just hanging out reading a book. I really want to go work out as I skipped my workout yesterday but I don't know if it's a good idea or not. It will help me feel better. I know there is nothing that can be done by the midwife or anyone else if I am about to have a miscarriage but I guess I want to know if the baby is okay or not so I can get on with whatever process I need to be getting on with.

Sorry to ramble. Help.

[Mamatoabunch]

Originally Posted by Kristin0105

Okay, ladies I think I need some words of wisdom, and maybe a few prayers if your the prayerful type. I had some kind of dark reddish brown cm yesterday morning after going to the bathroom. And then last night I had a lot of the same it was really stretchy CM with a dark reddish brown color to it. I checked my cervix and it seemed much softer than it had been and less puckered feeling. This morning early no discolored CM and cervix was firm, high, and very puckered. Just noticed a lot more of the reddish-brown CM and cervix is low soft and barely puckered. Okay, I WILL NOT CHECK MY CERVIX AGAIN UNTIL I AM AT 40 WEEKS. I repeat I will not check my cervix again!

Please tell me this is no big deal. I really want this baby and don't want anything to happen to it. I really don't have a care provider yet so I can't even go see anyone to see if they can hear a heart beat, which they probably can't anyway because I am only 10 weeks. So I don't know if it would help for me to go in anyway because if they didn't hear a heartbeat I would just worry. Even though I know it's normal not to be able to hear it at this point. Oy vey. I did contact a hb midwife weeks ago and I'll probably use her but she is really hard to get in touch with and I am not sure if I'll have insurance coverage at this point so I hate to contact her and then the insurance thing not work out. I am trying to remain calm, cool, and collected. I know it doesn't seem that way right now. I have spent all morning just hanging out reading a book. I really want to go work out as I skipped my workout yesterday but I don't know if it's a good idea or not. It will help me feel better. I know there is nothing that can be done by the midwife or anyone else if I am about to have a miscarriage but I guess I want to know if the baby is okay or not so I can get on with whatever process I need to be getting on with.

Sorry to ramble. Help.

If you have had sex you can get blood tinged cm or from cervical checks, sometimes ones you do yourself if your nails scratch a wee bit. As pregnancy progresses your cervix will soften, mine is much softer and even open more by 10 weeks. What pregnancy is this for you?

[Kristin0105]

Hmm sex? What is that? I had not done a cervical check for at least a week prior to the red/brown CM and there was a lot of CM I was really surprised by how much. Like a lot more than before ovulation. Weird

So by my age I suppose I should know this but I don't. Does your cervix change regularly like on a daily basis while pregnant? Because last week it was very firm and puckered feeling, as it felt this AM after I woke up. But last night and late morning it felt really soft and hardly puckered at all. It still feels closed. And I swear I am not checking again!

This is my second pregnancy.

[Mamatoabunch]

Originally Posted by Kristin0105

Hmm sex? What is that? I had not done a cervical check for at least a week prior to the red/brown CM and there was a lot of CM I was really surprised by how much. Like a lot more than before ovulation. Weird

So by my age I suppose I should know this but I don't. Does your cervix change regularly like on a daily basis while pregnant? Because last week it was very firm and puckered feeling, as it felt this AM after I woke up. But last night and late morning it felt really soft and hardly puckered at all. It still feels closed. And I swear I am not checking again!

This is my second pregnancy.

Yes your cervix can feel different before and after sex, at different times of day, different from day to day. I would not worry about a bit of brown tinged CM.

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by Kristin0105

Please tell me this is no big deal. I really want this baby and don't want anything to happen to it. I really don't have a care provider yet so I can't even go see anyone to see if they can hear a heart beat, which they probably can't anyway because I am only 10 weeks. So I don't know if it would help for me to go in anyway because if they didn't hear a heartbeat I would just worry. Even though I know it's normal not to be able to hear it at this point. Oy vey.

I'm sorry you're so worried and I hope everything works out. Is it possible to go to your local hospital to get checked out? If you are open to an u/s they can absolutely see what's going on by 10wks....

Take care!

[Kristin0105]

Originally Posted by carmen358

I'm sorry you're so worried and I hope everything works out. Is it possible to go to your local hospital to get checked out? If you are open to an u/s they can absolutely see what's going on by 10wks....

Take care!

If I had insurance I would have already been there. I was tempted to ask the vet if they had a doppler yesterday when I went to pick up my dog. Seriously!

Your due date is my birthday!

[boobs4milk]

Kristin, I had bleeding at 9 1/2 weeks with this baby and my OB thought it could just be a transition to the placenta. I also had a bleeding corpus luteum and it could have been that, too. Have you had any pelvic pain? I got sharp pains and then BRIGHT RED BLEEDING and was sure I'd lost our LO.

Thinking of you and hoping for the best!

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by Kristin0105

If I had insurance I would have already been there. I was tempted to ask the vet if they had a doppler yesterday when I went to pick up my dog. Seriously!

Your due date is my birthday!

Oops, sorry, I didn't realize that!

So, you're saying Jan. 5 is a great day to be born right?

Still sending good vibes your way...

[Kristin0105]

Originally Posted by boobs4milk

Kristin, I had bleeding at 9 1/2 weeks with this baby and my OB thought it could just be a transition to the placenta. I also had a bleeding corpus luteum and it could have been that, too. Have you had any pelvic pain? I got sharp pains and then BRIGHT RED BLEEDING and was sure I'd lost our LO.

Thinking of you and hoping for the best!

No, I have not had any pain. Last night I sort of felt like my lower abdomen was kind of tight but no cramps and I couldn't tell if it was psychosomatic.

Originally Posted by carmen358

Oops, sorry, I didn't realize that!

So, you're saying Jan. 5 is a great day to be born right?

Still sending good vibes your way...

Yes, I am currently one of the masses of uninsured. DH's old job didn't provide any and then he was laid off in November. Just started a new job last week and I am not sure we can even afford the benefits they do provide. Sucks.

Yes, I think January 5th is an awesome day to be born! When I was a tot I thought my birthday was a national holiday. It is the day before Epiphany and we celebrated both Christmas and Epiphany, kept the tree up and all so I thought it was a holiday.

[gon2be]

I had a doppler at 11 weeks with number two and we could hear the heartbeat loud and clear. Not sure exactly when you can hear it, but by ten weeks and a few days you should be able to. Go in if it will give you peace of mind.
Oh and I had brownish-pink streaked mucous for the first whole MONTH with this pregnancy and now I get it occasionally still. I am ten weeks and two days. I had some bleeding in my first two pregnancies and they turned into my now 11 and 8 year olds! Don't remember any with number three, but this is definitely the most spotting/streaking I've had with any pregnancy. PLease God don't let that mean it's twins!:

[Kristin0105]

Hey I'm 10 weeks 2 days also!

[gon2be]

Cool, my due date is Dec 12th, not that I believe in those. Is yours the same?

[Mamatoabunch]

We are UP and heard the baby w/ doppler this pregnancy at 11 weeks 3 days, could not hear it before that. In fact the day we heard I had a subchorionic hemorrhage. Sure is scary, but after two months of bleeding baby is well. I was always happy to see brown bleeding, meant placenta was healing back into place and things were imnproving.

[Kristin0105]

Originally Posted by gon2be

Cool, my due date is Dec 12th, not that I believe in those. Is yours the same?

Mine is actually the 10th based on ovulation date. So I assume I will have this little one sometime in December.

A doppler, boy would I love to have a doppler.

[AnnR33]

Hi Kristin-just wanted to let you know that I've heard that dark red is not necessarily a bad sign-it's usually old blood that is just purging itself. If it was bright red that might be more worrisome. I know with my first I had a few days of dark reddish brown cm at about 10-12 wks. I had done some light hiking and when I called the dr about it she just said to take it easy for a few weeks while my body adjusted. I never had any other problems! And he's 10 yrs old now.

Hang in there!