Originally Posted by AnnR33
Anyone else just feel ancient compared to other pregnant moms around you? I swear I'm the oldest (at 40) by far of the many pregnant women I know or meet. They are all in the 20s or maybe early 30s and I feel like an antique! When they find out my age they are shocked and of course blurt out things like "no way will I be doing that" or "gee you're really THAT old?" LOL
I'm not offended, just think it's funny
Of course, I'll FEEL that old when they are back in their skinny jeans in 6 weeks and it'll take me a year!
well i give you credit for your sense of humor. frankly, i'm blessed in that my neighborhood has a lot of "older" moms, one 40 yo just had a baby last year. others are in their late 30's, so pretty close to 40. no one was shocked we are having #2 (DD is just three). even in my own family, my SIL is also pregnant, and she's only two years behind me at 38. so i feel in good company.
i think i hang out with some 20 something moms at the library, but i try not to bring up the age thing. frankly i don't want to know if they are that young, because honestly i don't care for the attitudes of people in their 20s all that much. they are such recent young adults (barely out of their teens!) and think they know it all already. in my experience, your 30s is a very "tempering" time, and a lot of people gain some good life experience during that decade. you build your career, change jobs (voluntarily or not), perhaps see a relationship break up, realize you don't know it all! people in their 20s have all of that still ahead of them.
as for those "kids" rolling their eyes at you that they would never have a child when they're that old, how the heck do they know that for sure? they may find themselves remarried at 40 and wanting a child with their new spouse. or accidentally pregnant or whatever. i don't like it that they are in effect passing judgment on you for being pregnant. you aren't knocking them for being pregnant "so young," why should they for you being "so old"?
just my humble opinion. i'm happy for you that you can let it roll off your back so well.
just one more thought on the subject of "being old" is that we are not nearly as "old" perceived as just a generation or less ago. my good friend's mom was pregnant when we were in high school (my friend and i were around 15). it was quite the "shocking" thing then. come to do the math nowadays, and she was just 40. of course every doctor counseled her to get an abortion, etc. (she didn't.) the baby was just fine. geeze, he's in his 20's now.
also my aunt had her last child at 47, that was in 1994. it too was treated like she was ancient, crazy, should have an abortion, needed every test. baby was fine, my cousin is now going on 15. i feel so blessed that i'm not getting any of that flak that they got. being pregnant at 40 is so much more common nowadays, although it may depend on where you live.
i'm in a large suburban metropolis (chicagoland) and our area is fairly upscale in a general sense, insofar as it can take awhile to establish yourself enough to afford a house around here! i think that contributes to more people being "older" by the time they have kids. also i see a lot of second marriages and people having a late in life baby with their new spouse.
ok just some random thoughts. sorry to be long...