Tribe for pregnant and over 35? - Page 14

[boobs4milk]

Hugs, Kristin. Thinking of you!!!

[veganmama719]

Kristin, I am so sorry. I posted to you on the TTC thread but just wanted to wish you much peace, love and strength again mama.

I turned 42 a week ago today. I was away in Toronto on a business trip. I had my other kids when I was 35 and 36 so I have always been an "AMA" mother.

[darcytrue]

I'm so sorry Kristin.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by gon2be

There have been the inevitable, "was this an accident?" questions, but I just answer truthfully that I don't believe in accidents, and this is a happy surprise.

same here. Even the hygienist at the dentist asked me the other day if it was a "planned" pregnancy? I thought it to be rather rude. I hate getting asked that question, especially by strangers.

[Mamatoabunch]

Kristin I am so very sorry.

[gon2be]

Even the hygienist at the dentist asked me the other day if it was a "planned" pregnancy? I thought it to be rather rude. I hate getting asked that question, especially by strangers

Some people have no clue! If it was a stranger who asked me that, I would pretend I didn't hear the question or answer with a non sequiter like "isn't it beautiful outside today?" I don't mind friends asking so much, but I would have no compunction about ignoring someone at a dentist's office.

[Kristin0105]

Thanks everyone for your support. It's for sure. My update is posted here http://www.mothering.com/discussions...1#post13799701

[Mom2M]

I'm so sorry, Kristin. I hope things go naturally for you and that you need no intervention.
I'm praying for your dog, how amazing that people are out looking for her that you don't even know! Many hugs to you and your DD and DH.
Deb

[ElliesMomma]

Kristin, again i am so sorry for your loss, and how this must be such a tough time for you right now.

i was hoping you had some good news regarding your dog at least. your signature doesn't note what part of the country you are in, but you mentioned living next to a wooded area. i hesitate a lot to even mention this, but in our area (illinois) we have coyotes, and having our elderly (13.5 yo golden retriever) out at night is one of my biggest fears, b/c i did lose two cats to coyotes last summer. it was a terrible experience to say the least.

again, i hope mentioning that isn't going to make anything worse for you; on the other hand it sounds like you are worried sick and spending time hanging up signs, etc.

while you yourself are obviously in no condition to go searching through the woods, maybe your husband (or your neighbors can continue to do so) can find a clue out there.

other things to do when a pet is missing include calling the animal shelter to check and see if she's there, and describe her so they have a record, should she arrive; call the local police departments and give a description; and call or visit any nearby vet hospitals, which is where she may have been taken if somehow she was hit by a car or injured and somebody didn't know where she lived. (i have a positive story about this -- my third cat, who is quite elderly at 19, disappeared overnight last year months before the coyotes got the other two, and before i even knew the coyotes were a problem. i worried about her a lot, and made all the calls, then went to the local vet's office where they said they did indeed have a cat come in that morning. a neighbor half a mile away (we're in a semi rural area) had found her sleeping on her front porch, and brought her in. so i did get that one back.)

all the best of luck to you, and let us know if there's an update.

[Lillitu]

hello everyone- i just joined this thread. i am 39, just got a BFP which makes me 4ish weeks pregnant (s/he was conceived May 1st).

so excited for this baby. when i was 18, i was pregnant for the first time and i had a horrible experience. i decided to give the child up for adoption-but was not educated about any choices and my doctor scheduled an induction and subsequent c-section when my labor did not progress on his schedule.

this time, i am determined for it to be on my terms! i am choosing a midwife and birth center, educating myself on my choices and this baby is planned and sooo wanted.

now there is so much to do!

[Mamatoabunch]

Originally Posted by Lillitu

hello everyone- i just joined this thread. i am 39, just got a BFP which makes me 4ish weeks pregnant (s/he was conceived May 1st).

so excited for this baby. when i was 18, i was pregnant for the first time and i had a horrible experience. i decided to give the child up for adoption-but was not educated about any choices and my doctor scheduled an induction and subsequent c-section when my labor did not progress on his schedule.

this time, i am determined for it to be on my terms! i am choosing a midwife and birth center, educating myself on my choices and this baby is planned and sooo wanted.

now there is so much to do!

Congratulations and goo for you for planning your birth carefully! I have had 7VBACs myself.

[veganmama719]

Congratulations Lillitu on your pregnancy and welcome!

[boobs4milk]

Congrats, Lillitu. I hope you have a wonderful pg and birth!

[Kristin0105]

A Silverlining!

Hi everyone. I just wanted to say thank you all for your support it really means a lot to me.

So the silver lining is while I was at work last night DH took DD to look for Brittney (our dog) on another road not in our complex. It is about a mile away as the crow flies and the first house he pulls up to and asks if they had seen a black cocker spaniel the woman said yes as a matter of fact my MIL has her right over there! She had been there since Tuesday when they found her in a cow pasture. He was stunned. It is so incomprehensible to me that this elderly, pretty feeble dog could have made it over there. She would have had to walk through our yard, some woods, 3 neighbor's yards and then almost a mile of woods. Unless she managed to get to the road then she would have had to walk at least a mile and a half. When I walked her last night she was dumbfounded by some tall grass so how she even made it to the road is beyond me. I guess we will never know. The people who had her thought she was dying because she looked so depressed they said she just laid there all day never even picking her head up. As soon as she recognized DH she popped right up and was pretty excited.

On the other note. I am doing remarkably well. I felt tearful yesterday and unmotivated to do anything but after seeking some support from some other professionals in my business about the unmotivated part and receiving the suggestion that I needed to take time off because I might do more harm than good. I got pretty ticked at the suggestion that I would allow my personal life to effect my client's and in 30 minutes had all the work done that I had not managed to get done all day and went to the office and saw my scheduled client. They want to come back next week so I think it was helpful to them. Funny how my mind works.

I spoke with my HBMW and my TCM provider and I feel like I have a plan for the future. The TCM provider feels like the herbs she prescribed will get my cycle back to normal pretty quickly and then we will work on getting my FP on track. So I am hopefull that I will once again be joining all you ladies in the near future. I hope you all have super pregnancies and great deliveries of healthy babies. I'll be checking in to see how everyone is doing. You all give me hope that I too can do this even at my advanced maternal age. Gosh I hated that term when I had dd at 39 at 43.5 it just makes me cringe.

Now I need to go figure out my work attire for the summer as I had it all planned out with my maternity wear.

Oh and Ellies mom I was walking through the woods regularly with my 38.8 pound dd strapped to my back in the ergo. I know I must be crazy. I've had a lot of excess energy this week so it actually helped it also helped with the back cramps.

[Lillitu]

kristin,

i am glad things are getting back on track. (((hugs))) to you.

[boobs4milk]

Hooray for good days, Kristin! I'm glad you found your dog AND your center yesterday. HUGS!

[ElliesMomma]

great news kristin! i'm so glad you got your dog back. i'll bet she's exhausted though!

[Mom2M]

Dear Kristin, I'm so glad Brittney is back!!! Wow, dogs can sure amaze us with what they do! I had to laugh about her getting confused in the tall grass so how did she go anywhere, lol
My oldest dog, Max is getting to be like a mule. He lost his hearing gradually over this past year and now really cannot hear unless I clap or yell really loudly. I taught him some sign language which helps, but anyway, I've noticed thee are times when he simply looks befuddled! It only happens once in a while but I know what you mean about that confusion!
Good for you on getting it together and taking care of your client! Sometimes that's better than letting yourself feel awful for long. I bet you will be back here with a bfp before you know it!

Welcome Lillitu!

I'm working on trying to get a more naturally minded OB to support a VBA2C for me. Our midwives just lost hospital privileges and there are no options here that are less than 45 min. away...plus at pretty bad hospitals.
There is one that I made a consult appt with for next week that I have hopes for because my current OB practice has flat out said no way, even though I had a non medicated VBAC before!

How are you doing with that Darcytrue? You're looking for that too, right?

Other than trying to control a near insatiable appetite I am feeling so much better physically.
Unfortunately the issues DH and I had that caused me to panic when I got that bfp are still not good and I sometimes despair over having to raise another little one in this kind of relationship. I am hoping that he will agree to go back to counseling and really try to work on it.

Hope everyone is doing well! I'm hoping for no rain on my picnic this afternoon but it's definitely threatened, darn it!

Deb

[darcytrue]

Kristin, I'm glad you found your dog. I hope your healing continues to go well.

Lillitu - welcome to the group! Thanks for sharing your story.

[Lillitu]

thanks for the warm welcomes everyone.

thinking that i will start a pregnancy blog- to mark all the gritty details for the baby when s/he comes and is interested! has anyone else done such a thing? or do they keep a book?