Tribe for pregnant and over 35? - Page 5

[KarlaC]

I'm 36 y/o & almost 26 weeks along. So far so good for the babies health(from US anyway).

I refused my afp test, I have an anxiety disorder I can't take meds for right now anyway & a false positive probably would have done me in. Of course not having the test now gives me something else to worry on if I don't keep busy The gestational diabetes & previa have given me enough to chew on.

Anyway..I have a 16 y/o & a 13 y/o both girls, this little one will be my first boy so we're pretty excited about that. Dh is thrilled to not be a solo swimmer in the estrogen sea anymore

I will say this pg seems a lot harder physically than my others. I don't remember any round lig. pain or so much discomfort when I walk for long periods of time the first pgs. At least I get a reward at the end of it, right?

Anyway I just wanted to join in, I've been lurking for a few weeks.

~Karla C.

[ElliesMomma]

i gave up caffine before i got pregnant, and haven't had any coffee since. however now that i'm 14 weeks along, i have broken down a few times and had some coke. it was good! i only get the small size cokes from mcdonalds, and only one in a day, and definitely not every day. but i've done it maybe 4-5 times.

i'm betting not everybody gave up caffine entirely to begin with. but do you have any information on whether caffine is associated with miscarriage only in the first trimester, and then you are in the clear for second and third trimester? or would it be procede with caution all of the way through pregnancy? (if you were being really conservative about caffine, that is.)

[Dmitrizmom]

At my first mw appointment, she said that 300mg of caffeine a day was ok, but not more. I didn't give it up from the get go, but have weaned down to just a couple cups of coffee a week - it just doesn't taste good mostly.

[mamamia10]

Originally Posted by ElliesMomma

i gave up caffine before i got pregnant, and haven't had any coffee since. however now that i'm 14 weeks along, i have broken down a few times and had some coke. it was good! i only get the small size cokes from mcdonalds, and only one in a day, and definitely not every day. but i've done it maybe 4-5 times.

i'm betting not everybody gave up caffine entirely to begin with. but do you have any information on whether caffine is associated with miscarriage only in the first trimester, and then you are in the clear for second and third trimester? or would it be procede with caution all of the way through pregnancy? (if you were being really conservative about caffine, that is.)

I gave up coffee 2x with both my m/c
when I got pg with dd I was so ambivalent that I did not change anything including my coffee intake, now dd loves coffee and dh and I joke it is the coffee that makes our babes stick LOL--I admire your restraint. I mean I never drank more than 1 cup a day --it was always high quality with minimal processing etc...ACOG states 400mg/day is "safe" not recommended; I have only seen 1 study thaat links m/c and caffiene consumption. I am convinced it is flawed in some way (I hope LOL). I do think moderation is the key and of course quality--orgainc, non bleached filters, expresso or dark roast beans actually have less caffiene in them then milder blends...I would think it is healthier than soda any day
if you are looking for my opinion of course

[veganmama719]

Hi KarlaC, and welcome!

I am having about 5 cups of caffeinated tea a week. I gave it up while TTC and for the first trimester since I had 2 m/c ast year. But I ran out of herbal tea bags at work and am feeling fairly comfortable with this PG now. So, until I remember to buy some more herbal tea bags, i am having one in the mornings when i get to work.

[thewaggonerfamily]

I'm still drinking my coke. I had given it up for lent, but then the nausea kicked in and the Coke helps. Not to mention the caffeine that I desperately need right now.

Is anyone else super exhausted? I remember being tired at the beginning of my other pregnancies, but not to this degree. I just wonder if its because I'm older (and more out of shape...) Anyone else?

[KarlaC]

Originally Posted by thewaggonerfamily

I'm still drinking my coke. I had given it up for lent, but then the nausea kicked in and the Coke helps. Not to mention the caffeine that I desperately need right now.

Is anyone else super exhausted? I remember being tired at the beginning of my other pregnancies, but not to this degree. I just wonder if its because I'm older (and more out of shape...) Anyone else?

Yes, I'm actually glad the dr laid me off work so I don't have to fight to stay awake there. I'm going to say it must be my age also, I def wasn't this tired with my other pgs.

[ElliesMomma]

trying to keep this thread active

hi, i wish more people would post. DDCs are fine too, but it's nice to talk with others who are in same age bracket.

AFM, i'm 15 weeks along now and starting to feel a little better. my depression is lifting a little. DD is sleeping through the night (just about), spring is here.

we are gardeners, and i'm planning my usual 25 x 50 vegetable garden, plus squash, pumpkins, etc. elsewhere in the yard. i will take precautions of wearing gloves when touching the soil, and drinking extra water when outside in the heat, and going slow/quitting when tired, but otherwise planning for usual level of activity this year.

plus will take DD to the swimming pool every day if possible (i SAH with her). we aren't taking any summer vacation however, as we just completed an expensive house addition this winter. still working on resettling the place too.

how about everyone else: is it business as usual for you this spring/summer, or are you making changes to your lifestyle on account of being pregnant?

[darcytrue]

ElliesMomma - I can't wait to get outside! I'm just waiting for the weather to be warmer. It's supposed to be in the mid to high 60's this week. We don't have a garden but I am the one that usually does the mowing and the brunt of the yard work because I love to do it - but I will likely only mow the front yard this year since it's sod and it's very small and my oldest will do the rest of our lawn.

I've also been walking on the treadmill a little at a time each day trying to work myself back up to getting used to it again. The morning sickness (and depression) for me is "finally" gone and I feel like doing things now. I cleaned my whole house on Saturday and that was great!

[darcytrue]

Oh and I'm also "planning" to go to the pool some this summer as well. But that will all depend on how I look in a bathing suit. I would rather go to a lake that is nearby since I can wear shorts there and it's not as noticeable. That way the kids get to swim and enjoy themselves while I sit in the shade under a tree.

I want to be outdoors but I don't want to get much sun and will definitely stay in the shade when outdoors or wear sunscreen. I learned with my first pregnancy that pregnant women tend to burn faster/easier. Not fun.

[veganmama719]

We can't plant up here until late May, by which time I will be 7 months PG. I have wanted to have a garden the last few years but I was a) afraid DS would dig it all up or trample on it (we have a smaller urban backyard) and b) the back yard is pretty shady.

I am due July 25th and will probably work right up until I go in to labour but certainly I plan on taking a few afternoons here and there and taking the kids to the wading pools in the neighbourhood. Our babysitter will be do that too of course.

We still have snow on the ground here. Mostly where it drifted or got piled over the winter, And all the grass that's showing is still brown and soggy from "the melts".

We had a beautiful sunny warm day on Saturday but we had a 5 year oldbirthday party and a 90 year old birthday party so we were inside most of the day, blech!

I went for a run yesterday. In the pouring rain. We have a treadmill at home but I hate it, I'd much rather be outside. 3 miles and very slowly but hey, I am 23 weeks pregnant! And I'm 41, LOL!

[ElliesMomma]

darcytrue: i did not know about sunburn while pregnant. thanks for the tip.

veganmomma: good for you to run three miles! wow!! 23 weeks already. time flies.

[BHappy]

Just popping in to say hi. Nothing much to report, but glad to hear about all of you. Thanks, Elliesmomma for bumping us up!

I'm getting past the ugly phase of morning sickness, which I'm so looking forward to. Thank goodness we have two weeks of spring break coming up, and I'm feeling better! :

As for "older mama" stuff, I went to my first prenatal appointment last week and found out how special I am, being 41. : I'm trying to not be annoyed...sigh.

[ElliesMomma]

BHappy: just curious where do you live (approx.) that you get treated as "special" for being pregnant at 41? i'm in Chicago suburbs, and have found 1) tons of peers 40+ or almost 40 and pregnant, 2) no extra special treatment from the doctors.

just curious as to where people are getting treated differently?

[BHappy]

Originally Posted by ElliesMomma

BHappy: just curious where do you live (approx.) that you get treated as "special" for being pregnant at 41? i'm in Chicago suburbs, and have found 1) tons of peers 40+ or almost 40 and pregnant, 2) no extra special treatment from the doctors.

just curious as to where people are getting treated differently?

Well, I'm probably showing (partially) my distaste for Kaiser. I'm a little bitter about having to use them, but that's our insurance plan right now, and we cannot afford a mw out of pocket. I'm not really giving Kaiser half a chance. The nurse I saw at my prenatal used the word "special" when referring to my age. That did irritate me a little.

oh: we live in no.cal.

[veganmama719]

Hey Karen, nice to see you chica! My GP (who I generally really like otherwise) always treats me as though I am really old when I am PG. But my midwives generally don't although today the back up midwife asked me if I had considered Glucose testing since GD is more common in over 40 mothers.

I am sorry you are having to listen to that crap. Try to ignore it (easier said than done of course!)

[ElliesMomma]

ok, i got another question for you all: after this pregnancy, do you plan on having anymore?

as for me: probably not. i think two will be just enough. but maybe some of the 30-something youngsters on this thread will be having more? i had my first three weeks after turning 38, and i took my time getting ready for this second pregnancy. FTR, i conceived easily without charting or anything other than watching my CM, at 40. i know many others have a more rigorous time of it, and i'm not gloating, just trying to say that there may well be more time for even more babies for this group (provided that you want them of course!)

my DH, bless his heart, is 58. this will be his 5th child, and he started when he was only 19! he would be up for more, but when i said i think i'm done after this, there are other things i want to do with my life heading into the future, he didn't argue! LOL

[Dmitrizmom]

I'm done after this one... I've got alot on my plate and three is a nice place to be.

[Mom2M]

Hey, we fell way down the list!
Anyway, still pregnant here and feeling very unsure about the whole thing. It's almost surreal.
I haven't even called the OB yet because I feel like they will look at me as insane for even being pregnant!

We've been getting nice days alternating with bad weather and cold temps and I can't wait to get out in the garden.
I have all these plans for expanding the veggies and fruits and just hope to have some energy soon! Usually I'm a gym fanatic and I have barely been able to do weightlifting, forget cardio...

I hope the ms gets better soon!

Deb

[veganmama719]

We always said we'd have 3 and this will be our 3rd. And I am the only woman I know in my business that has (or will have more accurately) 3 kids. Most of my female colleagues (few that there are) think I am crazy.

However, lately I have been starting to think I might want one more after this one. I will admit that I would like for my DD to have a sister and this baby is another boy.

And of course, there is no guarantee that if I did have another one it would be a girl! But I would of course love a another little boy too.

Also, this baby took 16 months to conceive, at 41, and two losses. However, I believe you are more fertile within 2 years of giving birth. If I were to have another I would start trying when this baby was 12 months. If I was successful right away it would be the same age gap as my older two.

My boss would flip.