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Originally Posted by lexbeach View Post

Lena has been blessed in this regard and really hasn't had any heartburn. Apparently this means we are going to have a bald baby .
Haha, that is a really fitting comment for me, because my last DD was bald (no heartburn) and I have been *really* working hard to manifest some hair for this little one, lol...so maybe...
post #502 of 704
Raene--

Have you tried Papaya tablets? They come in chewable tablets that taste pretty good and are a natural antacid.
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Strangely enough almonds actually give me heartburn and papaya doesn't do much. Pineapple however seems to be helping a bit.
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Rude Comments

There is a rude comments section of my DDC and I thought I'd add it here...anyone get rude pregnancy questions?

We have SO many people, not necessarily close friends, who have asked us how *exactly* we got pregnant. Or they hint at asking if I actually was with a man. I can't imagine ever being so direct...isn't it strange of people?
post #505 of 704
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Originally Posted by Raene View Post
There is a rude comments section of my DDC and I thought I'd add it here...anyone get rude pregnancy questions?

We have SO many people, not necessarily close friends, who have asked us how *exactly* we got pregnant. Or they hint at asking if I actually was with a man. I can't imagine ever being so direct...isn't it strange of people?
Yeah...that's a little strange especially from those you're not really close to! Wierd. For me...the rude comments are mostly about how huge I am. Often asking "are they sure there is only one in there?" They (strangers too) will comment how big I am...then follow up with..."but you're all belly". Yeah...that's supposed to make me feel better after you just called me a fat-ass!!! In fact...I'm measuring right on...exactly 37 weeks thank you very much. People really feel like they can just say whatever they want to pregnant women.
post #506 of 704
Not so much rude as just dumb... When I told one of my co-workers (who knows my partner is a woman) I was pregnant, she asked me if I was happy about that. I just gave her a quizical look and said, "Well... it's not like it was an accident."
post #507 of 704
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Originally Posted by heart-n-bones View Post
Not so much rude as just dumb... When I told one of my co-workers (who knows my partner is a woman) I was pregnant, she asked me if I was happy about that. I just gave her a quizical look and said, "Well... it's not like it was an accident."
Oh yeah, I've had that same thing asked of me! I think it was my dad, actually. Like, no...it was an accident...we were so drunk one night it just happened...but we're dealing with it.

Really, what do they expect us to say?!
post #508 of 704
eh, i was done with the comments and questions! i skated a fine line between feeling like i should help people to be more aware and feeling like a damn freak show for entertaining them.

at any rate, it's annoying. i don't know what was better.
post #509 of 704
We haven't started telling "the masses" yet so fortunately haven't had to deal with rude comments. I think I will likely deal with them with a snide remark or joke...

LOL @ question "are you happy about it?" That has to be the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.
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A lot of people asked me if my first pregnancy was planned, since I was only 22 at the time. It's a rude question to ask regardless of circumstance, but it's an idiotic question when you're asking a married lesbian.

This time around, there are rude comments re: Lena getting a chance to have a baby of her own, but otherwise, I don't think we've gotten too many inappropriate questions. I don't mind questions about how we got pregnant or who the donor is, mostly just because I like having multiple opportunities to model in front of my kids my comfort with the subject matter (and I've noticed that they too are very comfortable discussing donor/family structure questions with their peers).

Lex
post #511 of 704
we haven't started telling folks yet but we have the benefit of mostly everyone being around for me being pregnant. i'm out at work, as is dp, so there won't be any of those idiotic questions there. i agree that "are you happy about it?" is completely ridiculous.

g
post #512 of 704
back when I first started DP was telling hir aunt that I was trying, and the aunt--who is pretty close with DP actually said "wait, can you make sperm? are you a hermaphrodite?" I guess she figured that would have explained all the "trans stuff" but don't you think the aunt would have heard about that before now???
post #513 of 704
I know many people would say its too early BUT my lil one was fluttering so much at 5:15 am I couldn't fall back to sleep!!! It was definitely pleasant and playful--Not frantic or stressful, but I'm telling you this lil fetus grew some paddles and isn't afraid to use 'em--swimming laps around my large grapefruit of a uterus. Thats right lil one enjoy, this may be the most room you have for many months to come!!
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That's great Keely! I felt Zeben at around 11 weeks, so I definitely think it's possible to feel fluttering that early. If I recall correctly, I felt him for a couple of weeks, and then NOT for a couple of weeks before I started feeling him all the time, around 15 weeks or so. So, don't be concerned if you don't feel consistent movement for a while yet.

We had a midwife appointment this morning, and found out that our baby has definitely dropped! At 36 weeks, Lena was measuring 37 cm, and now at 38 weeks, she is measuring 35 cm. The midwife could feel Leo's shoulders right at the entrance to the pelvis (his head was entirely inside). : Of course, this means NOTHING in regards to when he will be born, but it's surely a good sign that he's at least thinking about his exit.

I worked on our barnyard a bunch today, making an outdoor space for our one-month-old chicks, and that made both Lena and I feel more prepared for the birth. Just knowing that the animals are all set. We have one pregnant goat who is due just about the same time as Lena is (sometime before July 1st, is all we know), and that's the only thing that feels a bit "unfinished" in regards to our farm situation. I kind of wish that the goat would go first, but I'm not sure that it's going to happen that way since, judging by her udder, she looks like she has a few weeks left (which may mean that she's having triplets since she looks HUGE!). Lena could easily have a few weeks left as well, but she appears to be a bit further along (if comparing goat pregnancy to human pregnancy makes any sense at all ). I REALLY hope that Lena and the goat don't go into labor at the same time. That would be stressful. Though it would make a good story.

Lex
post #515 of 704
yay for flutters kjm!! isn't it the COOLEST feeling?

lex, sounds very encouraging. i hope the goat helps y'all out and gives birth on a day other than leo.

afu, yesterday we went to visit dp's co-worker who had just given birth and got to hold (and coo over) a 1 day old baby boy. dp is still feeling yucky. my nausea started to subside a little around this time but she's not having the same luck.

g
post #516 of 704
That sounds great, lex That could be chaotic with lena and a the goat going into labour at the same time but I agree, it would be a great story lol

Wow, kjm!! That's SO exciting :

Hopefully the m/s gets better in the next week or so, indigo. Mine still isn't completely gone but definitely better. Mostly it comes in the evenings or if I eat too much.

I bought my first pair of maternity jeans yesterday. It was very exciting lol I can't hold my stomach in anymore and it's definitely beyond bloat now. I don't wear tight clothes normally so my tops are still fitting fine. Seems like things are moving very quickly now in terms of physical changes!
post #517 of 704
We're heading out to the beach tomorrow morning for a few days, so if you don't hear from me, it's not because we're so busy loving up our new baby. Please send "don't go into labor while you're on vacation" vibes our way!

Maybe I'll come back to someone else's new queer spawn, though . . . How are you feeling, Jenn?

Hoping all are well!



Lex
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Hope you and the family are having a great time Lex!!! And yes...no labor (just yet) vibes are coming your way!!!

AFM...hanging in there. Definitely having more kind of crampy things going on the past couple of days. Although, I was out and about quite a bit this weekend...so maybe it's just extra pressure from the baby. Although, I did have a couple of contractions last night that were a bit unpleasant. But...yeah...who knows, right? Still crampy and a LOT of pressure this morning. Oh...and my stomach has been upset all weekend! Yuk! It's very unpleasant! I feel a lot of pressure and pain..and I think...yeah...contraction!! Nope. Next thing I know...I'm running to the bathroom!! My body is being such a tease. :

Anyway...happy Monday all.
post #519 of 704
I'm so psyched...I hit the 30 week mark yesterday. I never thought I'd make it so far after all of the complications that came up at 13-20 weeks. I'm so relieved and elated.

Just had to share!

Hope everyone else is doing great, too!
post #520 of 704
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Originally Posted by Raene View Post
I'm so psyched...I hit the 30 week mark yesterday. I never thought I'd make it so far after all of the complications that came up at 13-20 weeks. I'm so relieved and elated.

Just had to share!

Hope everyone else is doing great, too!
Congrats, Raene!! I'm glad things have calmed down for you!
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