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It was on eyear ago today that we conceived our little guy. Wonder if he remembers being a little blastocyst?
Wow!
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I'm 16 wks tomorrow (yeehaw! ) and the nausea I thought had gone away seems to have come back. SO annoying. It actually feels like I'm getting the flu but I rarely get the flu so I'm not convinced that's what it is.

Anyone have m/s come back in the 2nd trimester after disappearing?
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carmen, we are 14 weeks and dp STILL has m/s. i hope it goes away soon but now i'm beginning to wonder if she's one of those unlucky few that has the queasies all pregnancy long.

g
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Oh guys, I'm so bummed. I had my 35 week home visit and I'm not doing well. Apparently I'm measuring 5 weeks behind. The midwife is concerned and wants me to have yet another ultrasound to make sure the baby is a decent size.

I'm so anti-ultrasound b/c I know their risks and I've already had to have 2. I'm sooo bummed at the thought of another. And I don't know what good it would do. I've had some cryfests tonight about not being able to grow an adequately sized child and I'm so drained of all energy. I can't believe something else is wrong with this pregnancy

Sorry for the negative post. I'm not in a good place right now.
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Oh guys, I'm so bummed. I had my 35 week home visit and I'm not doing well. Apparently I'm measuring 5 weeks behind. The midwife is concerned and wants me to have yet another ultrasound to make sure the baby is a decent size.

I'm so anti-ultrasound b/c I know their risks and I've already had to have 2. I'm sooo bummed at the thought of another. And I don't know what good it would do. I've had some cryfests tonight about not being able to grow an adequately sized child and I'm so drained of all energy. I can't believe something else is wrong with this pregnancy

Sorry for the negative post. I'm not in a good place right now.
I'm so sorry you have to worry about this at this stage! I guess you have to figure out if having the ultrasound will be comforting or more stressful. Would your midwife "do" anything depending on the results? I would think that would weigh into your decision too. Sorry I don't have any better advice. I'm confident you'll make the best decision for you and the baby. Take care.
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hi raene,
your body is making a baby that's the right size for you. maybe she will be small but it's ok. your midwife probably just wants to check to make sure she's growing. perhaps they can do a faster ultrasound? ultimately, it sounds like your midwife is just looking out for the best interest of your baby which happens to be via an ultrasound you are not comfortable with. i wish i knew how to advise you to feel better about it but i am not sure. your midwife must know your feelings about ultrasounds so i don't think she'd suggest it if she wasn't really concerned. is there anyway you can really rest? i know women who also had small babies and were advised to rest up to make the baby grow. did you agree to the ultrasound? if you are really against it, can you not do it? i remember reading you are tall and skinny, right? it's probably just your body type. i wish the ultrasound wouldn't cause you so much stress. please let us know how you are feeling and what you decide to do.
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Originally Posted by wazzmum View Post
hi raene,
your body is making a baby that's the right size for you. maybe she will be small but it's ok. your midwife probably just wants to check to make sure she's growing. perhaps they can do a faster ultrasound? ultimately, it sounds like your midwife is just looking out for the best interest of your baby which happens to be via an ultrasound you are not comfortable with. i wish i knew how to advise you to feel better about it but i am not sure. your midwife must know your feelings about ultrasounds so i don't think she'd suggest it if she wasn't really concerned. is there anyway you can really rest? i know women who also had small babies and were advised to rest up to make the baby grow. did you agree to the ultrasound? if you are really against it, can you not do it? i remember reading you are tall and skinny, right? it's probably just your body type. i wish the ultrasound wouldn't cause you so much stress. please let us know how you are feeling and what you decide to do.
My midwife was so sketchy about it I'm not even sure she *wants* an u/s...she just sort of threw it out there as a possibility for my reassurance, b/c I am so tired of people's comments about how small I am, and she thought it would bring peace of mind. My last baby always measured really accurately and she was 9 lbs. They definitely don't think this one will be that big again. I am tall and skinny, so yes, it could be that.

Its not even that I'm against an u/s at this point...I just think it would bring more stress. They can be so inaccurate, you know? They might say I have a 4 pounder and they can be several pounds off in their estimates. I would think something like that would be more stressful.
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Originally Posted by indigoscot View Post
carmen, we are 14 weeks and dp STILL has m/s. i hope it goes away soon but now i'm beginning to wonder if she's one of those unlucky few that has the queasies all pregnancy long.

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Ugh, I'm sorry to hear that I couldn't imagine feeling so sick for the whole pregnancy. Hopefully that's not the case for her!

I'm feeling slightly better this morning, DP picked up some more cocculine for me yesterday and I've had 3 doses of it already. Hopefully that helps. I must remember to eat before I'm starving too (which is hard these days because I'm hungry every hour! lol)
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Renae as a medical professional I can't help but innerject. There are 2 things that need to take into consideration in this situation. Have you been measuring on key thrughout the pregnancy? If so there could be an issue with your amniotic fluid levels, maybe a slow leak not a huge issue but one that needs to be addressed. The second thing to take into account is if not knowing what's going on is stressing you out, stress is worse for growing babies than an ultrasound, realy you get more radiation from a microwave than from an ultrasound. Its better to know if there is a problem and be prepared than to not know and not be prepared. Personaly I would want to know but that's just me and I already know too much. . . Just enough to wory.
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Originally Posted by hoping2bmoms View Post
Renae as a medical professional I can't help but innerject. There are 2 things that need to take into consideration in this situation. Have you been measuring on key thrughout the pregnancy? If so there could be an issue with your amniotic fluid levels, maybe a slow leak not a huge issue but one that needs to be addressed. The second thing to take into account is if not knowing what's going on is stressing you out, stress is worse for growing babies than an ultrasound, realy you get more radiation from a microwave than from an ultrasound. Its better to know if there is a problem and be prepared than to not know and not be prepared. Personaly I would want to know but that's just me and I already know too much. . . Just enough to wory.
I'm tall/skinny and have measured 2 cm behind the last 2 appts and then this last one at 5 cm. I know I'm not leaking AF b/c I have the test paper and trust me, I use it. I know stress is bad...but that's just my personality. And I'm one of those ppl who is very anti-microwave...I'd never be seen near one...but I've already had to have 2 u/s and a 3rd seems really silly.

I guess what it comes down to is that if something were wrong...placenta wasn't nourishing baby, etc...I don't think I would do anything differently. i believe in nature taking it's course rather than interfering. I wouldn't want them to induce me or something. So I think in my situation (after thinking about it for over 24 hours) that an u/s isn't going to do me any good.
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Raene,

The main concern would be IUGR, the treatment for which is sometimes early delivery. IUGR babies are at a higher risk for stillbirth. Is IUGR over-diagnosed? Yes. I would think that a quick ultrasound would result in lower exposure than a non-stress test, which would be another possible way to check and see if the baby is tolerating things well. Of course you can decide to do nothing at all and simply trust your body--I think that is a fine option so long as it is a choice that feels good to you and is one that you have made after educating yourself about the potential risks associated with IUGR.

Another possibility would be that the baby had dropped lower in your pelvis, thus causing a smaller fundal measurement. Lena's fundal height didn't change at all in the last 4 weeks (from 36 weeks on, she measured 36 cm), and that was not a concern to us or our midwife at all, since the baby had obviously dropped and was engaged. I'm guessing that this is not the case for you since you didn't say anything about it, but thought it was worth mentioning.

Lex
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Thanks, Lex.

My question is...what good would it be to know that IUGR is the problem? How would that change the rest of my pregnancy? I'm not sure knowing things actually makes a difference sometimes.

The head has been engaged for quite some time, which is why they don't think that the measurement is related to that...they said "oh, I guess the baby could have moved down more, but it doesn't seem likely since it was already so far down."
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Originally Posted by Raene View Post
Thanks, Lex.

My question is...what good would it be to know that IUGR is the problem? How would that change the rest of my pregnancy? I'm not sure knowing things actually makes a difference sometimes.
Well, if I knew that my baby for sure had IUGR (which would take more than one u/s to determine), and was not doing wonderfully on non-stress tests, I would probably choose to induce early (maybe not right away, but by 38 weeks). If you really wouldn't induce, even if it was clear that the baby was not doing well, then I suppose it wouldn't make a difference to find out ahead of time.

On the flipside, you could have the u/s and find out that the baby is growing perfectly, which for me would have given a lot of relief.

Lex
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Originally Posted by lexbeach View Post
...and was not doing wonderfully on non-stress tests...
Hmm...that's the thing, the baby is SOOO active. There's no troubles with that, at least.

Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it.
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Well, the verdict is in...I have GD. Perinatologists, glucose meters and at-least-weekly NSTs are in my immediate future...
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Well, the verdict is in...I have GD. Perinatologists, glucose meters and at-least-weekly NSTs are in my immediate future...
Damn! I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully it can be controlled fairly easily. Can it be controlled by diet at this point?
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I believe that it's going to be able to be diet-controlled, but I haven't met with the perinatologist yet and don't know my exact numbers from the 3 hr GTT. I'm so disappointed...I see my OB tomorrow to see if my low-lying placenta has moved. Hopefully that news will be better. Either way, we're off to DP's family for a a family reunion this weekend, so I'll update on Sunday or Monday. Have a nice weekend everyone!
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Hey Jody...I'm really sorry to hear that. But, I've BTDT...so if you need any advice/support...just give me a shout. Personally...I wasn't able to control mine with diet...but most women with GD can. So, hopefully it won't be that bad for you. And the diet really isn't that bad. I didn't feel like I was missing out at all. It's really more about spreading out your carb intake throughout the day...not overdoing it at any one meal/snack. Do you know for sure you have to do the NST thing? I ended up doing it...but only because I had to control my GD with insulin. I wasn't going to have to do it if I could control it by diet. So, maybe you won't have to go that far? Anyway...hope you have a good trip this weekend! And again...just let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
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ugh, sorry to hear that jody. i hope you can control it with diet.

afu, we had another ob appt today. dp lost 2lbs since our last visit 2 weeks ago and our ob has officially tagged her with hg. she has to try taking the zofran 8mg pill in the morning and at 4pm (when the worst of it starts) and take flintstone vitamins instead of the rainbow lights. we'll see how that goes. the nurse was able to find baby's heartbeat right away - on the left side where he or she likes to hang out. and he or she kicked the doppler...definitely a feisty baby like big brother, lol. while we were waiting for the ob, dp laid down on the table and felt some flutters/taps also on the left side. : dp's uterus is measuring a little ahead. since we have to get her tsh tested again in 2 weeks and because she's still losing weight we have another prenatal visit then.

g
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I hope you have a good weekend relaxing, Jody

indigo, what is "hg"? Exciting about the flutters but sucks that she is still losing weight! I hope she feels better soon.

I have been feeling what I think are flutters but honestly, I can't tell if that's actually what it is. We have the next mw appointment next week (at 17wks) and decided to go for the "big" ultrasound a couple of weeks later (at about 19.5wks). I can't wait to feel regular movement!!
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