Originally Posted by knowerofnada
Sorry, I do realize this is totally OT, and I know you weren't addressing me, but I had to comment....my personal opinion is that similar to a BFing mother hiding under a blanket every time she NIP and thereby fueling the belief that nursing is something you need to hide, I feel that not discussing your feelings towards vaccinations, even admist great controversy, fuels the mainstream belief about vaccinations. When people start to meet other people who don't vaccinate, as much crap as you get, and as much as they protest, at least it puts an idea into their head....at least they now actually know an intelligent, educated person who went against the grain....and they will eventually meet more and more people like this.....I think silence is really a great disservice reagrding the vaccination controversy. I'd much rather face great strife and controversy from family, friends, & co-workers regarding my decision than remain silent about something I feel so strongly about that is affecting so many children negatively...I think it is our public duty, those of us who have spent countless hours researching our decision, to make others more aware...and that it's not just a few crazy people out there rejecting the mainstream...and I don't mean that you have to go on and on about the research you've done and how you've come to your decision....I don't....but I am quite proud to say, "I reject vaccinations for my family", when they know I am a very well-educated and intelligent person. (Except of course to record-keepers like doctors and schools, then the religion card -- but that's for safety reasons)
I have heard of CPS investigations being launched because disgruntled or "concerned" relatives called them after finding out a family member didn't vax. Not vaxing is not enough for CPS to investigate, but if a couple of angry family members band together and make up a convincing story, well...I'd rather not go there.
I also don't think you can compare NIP to openly and proudly not vaccinating, because I have yet to hear anyone compare breastfeeding in public to child abuse, while I have personally seen and heard not vaccinating called exactly that. There can be legal and professional repercussions for people who choose not to vaccinate their children, as unfair and wrong as it is, and personally I'm not out to save the world. While I admire your spirit, I think it might be wise to acknowledge these risks instead of minimizing the very real chances one takes by being blunt and transparent about not vaccinating. Not everyone shares your values.
Even aside from the potential legal harassment, I personally know an unvaxed child whose mother was asked not to bring him to a play group anymore when some other mothers found out he was completely unvaccinated. This child was close friends with another DC in the group and it was, by all accounts, devastating for him and his mother.
Please don't think I am ashamed of not vaccinating--I stand firmly by my decision and I'm happy to defend it until I'm blue in the face, if I feel that I might actually give someone food for thought. But I don't advertise our status as a non-vaccinating family because I value my son's privacy and would hate for our family to suffer unnecessarily thanks to the bigotry and willful ignorance of others.