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post #21 of 34
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Mission accomplished--the counter-offer was very reasonable and the difference between that and my preferred price wasn't worth haggling over for the sake of haggling. I signed.

Phase 1...done!

(now onto appraisal, inspection, financing...oh my...)
post #22 of 34
*Squeeeee!* Crossing fingers.
post #23 of 34
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Mission accomplished--the counter-offer was very reasonable and the difference between that and my preferred price wasn't worth haggling over for the sake of haggling. I signed.

Phase 1...done!

(now onto appraisal, inspection, financing...oh my...)

CONGRATS!!
Jenn
post #24 of 34
Congrats!

Word of advice. If there is an attic or even crawl space walk it or make your inspector walk it.

My inspector did a great job and found 2 ducts that werent connected. My house was a new build. Would have been fun cleaning the mold from all the moisture that would have been pumped into the attic from my bathroom.
post #25 of 34
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Congrats!

Word of advice. If there is an attic or even crawl space walk it or make your inspector walk it.

My inspector did a great job and found 2 ducts that werent connected. My house was a new build. Would have been fun cleaning the mold from all the moisture that would have been pumped into the attic from my bathroom.
Thanks for the tip! I looked in the basement and attic and found nothing amiss, but I'm not the expert. We'll know later this week, and hopefully he'll find nothing that can't be fixed (but everything that should be!).
post #26 of 34
Congratulations! Fingers crossed that the inspection goes smoothly and there are no major issues.
We went through this same process literally a year ago. It was so much fun! I don't think I'll ever forget what it was like to have the keys handed to us at closing. Dh's ex was all sorts of envious and it did make for some tense times, but what could she say or do? We suffered through the inevitable walk through because her kids were excited and wanted to show her their new rooms, the pool, etc. But in reality she has no more desire to spend time here than we want her to be here. It just reminds her of what she doesn't have and what she lost. Not fun for anyone. Envy and jealousy are ugly, ugly emotions.
post #27 of 34
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Congratulations! Fingers crossed that the inspection goes smoothly and there are no major issues.
We went through this same process literally a year ago. It was so much fun! I don't think I'll ever forget what it was like to have the keys handed to us at closing. Dh's ex was all sorts of envious and it did make for some tense times, but what could she say or do? We suffered through the inevitable walk through because her kids were excited and wanted to show her their new rooms, the pool, etc. But in reality she has no more desire to spend time here than we want her to be here. It just reminds her of what she doesn't have and what she lost. Not fun for anyone. Envy and jealousy are ugly, ugly emotions.
Yup, yup.

My partner and I have discussed this a bit and we're really not going to put our lives on hold because of someone else's jealousy issues. Yeah, we're not going to do anything deliberately hurtful--we're grown ups, we know better than to make out in front of her or send her floor plans with sparkly "look what you're missing!" icons or anything--but we're not going to not do normal life things (be it buy a house, get married, get pregnant) just because doing so will make her sad.

Inspection revealed nothing major or scary--so onward to financing!
post #28 of 34
I was thinking of you this afternoon as we saw the first of our own fall-out... not sure if it is related to the new baby news, the fact we are currently vacationing with my step-daughter, or something totally unrelated to us... but something has begun, and I went back and re-read this thread to give me strength Trying to keep our perspective and not to let it get to us!
post #29 of 34
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Yup, yup.

My partner and I have discussed this a bit and we're really not going to put our lives on hold because of someone else's jealousy issues. Yeah, we're not going to do anything deliberately hurtful--we're grown ups, we know better than to make out in front of her or send her floor plans with sparkly "look what you're missing!" icons or anything--but we're not going to not do normal life things (be it buy a house, get married, get pregnant) just because doing so will make her sad.
Exactly. That's our philosophy too. We're living our lives. We earned this happiness and we're going to enjoy it. Hopefully one day she will find her own path to happiness, but even if that never happens, we aren't going to feel guilty or let her jealousy/bitterness/anger motivate or inhibit any of the decisions we make as a couple. Life goes on...

Congrats on the good inspection! What an exciting time in your life.
post #30 of 34
Congrats!

I have the perspective from the other side. Dh's ex and her husband were able to buy a house not long ago and it was kind of hard for me to deal with. We work very hard and are frugal and saving - but buying a house seems extremely far off with our past money issues bogging us down. BUT, I don't let that sort of thing affect the way we interact with them. Just like I wouldn't put my life on hold for their sake, they shouldn't put theirs on hold for ours.
post #31 of 34
wow. sometimes i don't understand the way adults act.
anyway, conratulations on the house! so exciting
post #32 of 34
Reviving this thread for an update! :-) How's the house closing stuff going? Ready to move?
post #33 of 34
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We close later this month, and move in early May (and I graduate a week later!). My partner calmly broke the news to his ex once we got a loan commitment (who of course was not surprised because their kid had been going on and on about it for weeks, even as we kept telling her nothing's written in stone). She's taking it well at this point--we'll see.

But, overall, so far, so good...thanks for asking!

We'll be self-moving the "stuff" (because that way, I can be lax about packing--I can throw clothes, towels, sheets, and shoes into garbage bags if I move them myself, and just stack dishes in a box--the new place is a mile from the old place--but movers insist on real boxes, lots of packing material, etc.) but hiring movers for the furniture, so the process itself isn't too bad. Our current place is, not surprisingly, a complete disaster, but that's par for the course...
post #34 of 34
When you're dealing with someone like that, and I know from experience, it can be pretty wearying to always be anticipating their response. It's good to anticipate it to a certain extent,then stop thinking about it until it happens. And sometimes. .. . it doesn't happen the way you assume, but sometimes--sometimes--even better!
Good luck with your move. We found that when we had a house, my stepkids loved it and seemed to get the sense of belonging that comes from decorating.
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